can all my posts be deleted and my account?...

ok mrsdistinctly, I admit to not reading that entire waterbottle thread.

Thanks for the summary.

I remember reading the op and thinking "this will not end well".

Violet,

The one thing I've learned over many years is that not every forum suits every user. Some are warm and fluffy, some are blunt and in-your-face. There are also many types of forum users. Not every forum user suits every style of forum. If you stumble across a forum, you post and you feel uncomfortable with the responses then it is best to move on. If the style of posting is wrong for you then, on the whole, those posting are highly unlikely to change for you. There are many other places out there and many of those places also have wise and knowledgable people on them. Maybe walking away from here and trying somewhere else will provide you with the answers you are looking for. I once was a regular poster on another forum, but sometimes I came up against an attitude I didn't like so I don't visit there any more. The web is a 'virtual' world, no-one here knows who you are so you lose no face by walking.

Whatever you decide to do Violet, good luck I wish you well.

the latest thread wasn't in 'AIBU', as has already been pointed out. Nor is it the only one that she has started showing some really worrying issues.

Feenie is right, a name change isn't going to solve Violet's problems for her.

Go to Talk at the top of the page then All Topics then Education then Special Educational Needs. You will find very helpful (and patient!) posters there who will be supportive of you and your family and help you with your dealings with the school.

Whilst deregistering and starting again might be a good idea, I think it should be pointed out that many posters from the SEN board offered excellent advice on the water bottle thread, and were ignored.

If the OP is willing to ignore 700+ posts from teachers, parents and SEN posters, I am not sure that she will accept advice from anyone under a different name. But it's worth a try, I guess.

Violet - delete your account and register with a different name. Go to Talk at the top of the page then All Topics then Education then Special Educational Needs. You will find very helpful (and patient!) posters there who will be supportive of you and your family and help you with your dealings with the school. There is also a topic on General Health that might be of some help.
As a new poster, putting a problem in Am I Being Unreasonable is like being thrown to the lions and I'm guilty of being one of the pack myself sometimes. One of the problems last night was that you were trying to reply to every poster. The thread was moving extremely quickly and your posts were not making sense because your reply was about 30 posts behind the current one! It's best just to sign off to save getting frustrated.

Violet79.

Don't go, I reckon you'd fit right it!

Namechange and come back - dust yourself down and start again.

I need to add to point 2. That a very helpful poster suggested having a drink attached to his belt/trouser loops so that this could never happen again.

It was ignored on the grounds that 'he has a bottle at school'.

Chandon, the waterbottle thread was written like an AIBU although it was in Primary Ed.

I, and many others, tried very hard to give positive advice, most of which was ignored.

I find it concerning that despite the 12 hours of posting on that thread Violet didn't alter her perspective in any way at all. There was no amendment of thought process, no alteration in activity.

Her DS has SN that means he doesn't understand instructions like 'hand in your homework'.
There was a school trip with 2 months notice which was not noted by her, mentioned by the childminder (who has a son in her class) or reminded by school.
On the school trip she thought the teacher deliberately chose not to give her DS a drink as a direct result of her ds looking ill upon returning.
She didn't check with the teacher, but went straight to the head.
The head told her to pull her neck in or look for another school
She then contacted the activity centre to look for 'holes in the school's story'
She then started a thread.
She then mentioned that her DS was not given (or told to have) a drink when he gets up in the morning 'as there are drinks available at school'.

As posters we pointed out

1. No water at breakfast is a massively bad idea.
2. His sn may have meant that he didn't understand the instruction to 'take his drink' or that he may not have mentioned to the teacher or any other classmates that he didn't have a drink.
3. That no teacher would refuse a drink to a child knowingly.
4. That checking with the teacher first before going to the head would have been more sensible.
5. That headteachers suggest moving schools as a very much last resort.
6. That no matter that a second letter was deemed necessary by the op, that a note on the calendar/diary upon receipt of the first letter would have been the work of moments.

It wasn't bullying. Or bitchy. It was concerned, helpful, forthright and questioning.

This feels very much like throwing toys out of the pram.

which ones chandon (genuinely interested to be pointed in direction of bullying)

sorry you feel upset OP.

I guess some of the responses on this thread illustrate nicely what you mean about bullying

Some people just love jumping on a bandwagon, there can be a bit of a pack mentality when a controversial poster is down.

Good luck.

I really dont want to get involved..... But Violet...... people ARE nice here, they DO want to help you. You might have had situations in the past that have made you think that most people are nasty, dont like you or dont want to help you, but its not true. People are nice and do want to help, but are you really listening to what they are saying? Do you understand the advice they are giving? Mumsnet is full of some very clever people, who are full of really good advice who could really help you. Put it all behind you, dont go away, but listen carefully to what everyone says and dont shout at anyone. Try to work out how mumsnet works and see the GOOD not the bad.
There are other places you can get help, support, understanding and love. Is there a friendly church near you? Open yourself up to light and happiness, theres lot s of it around. The more light there is in your life the better you can see things. Smile, be happy, see the positive.

I read waterbottlegate, but couldn't be arsed to post - you were getting some good and helpful advice there, which you chose to completely ignore. If you wanted everyone to agree with you, why bother posting?

If you don't feel that MN is for you, there are lots of other parenting sites, which might suit you better.

Toodle pip.

oooo, another 'bullying' thread turning into a Shakespeare quote-off. The chickens will be along in a minute, right?

I don't see much point in engaging with the OP, I read some of the water bottle thread and I don't think she will ever listen or recognise her own behaviour is anything other than perfect. However, I would say this this is a really good example of why AIBU should be looked at again - this week in particular it seems to be THE place for random questions and posts that would be better off elsewhere.

Cheerio then

on your thread in primary education (the waterbottle thread) you had hundreds and hundreds of posts offering you advice (which you had asked for). Just because you didn't agree with it doesn't mean it was bullying.

You said the Head of the school said you had a warped sense of reality. might I kindly suggest that he may have a point? You seem at odds with people in real life and also you are dismissing an awful lot of valuable advice here too.

I think you should stop posting here, its not helping. Please do go back to your doctor and discuss again your mental health issues. I am not bullying or being malicious..I am however very worried for you and your kids.

please consider it?

Posters were nothing but nice to you at the start of your thread, but you avoided taking any responsibility for your own DS and your own failings.

After 600 posts of you claiming the teacher was terrible and you had done nothing wrong, plus all the drip feeding people started to get snappy, but no-one was rude.

I have had a look and you are mainly on AIBU -one to keep off unless you are thick skinned -at least half will tell you that YABU.
You have also been on the feminist one-I have learnt my lesson and don't go near-that is a blood bath if you won't conform!

Don't let the door ...

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