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DBF BANNING THREAD: 3

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oldqueenie · 08/11/2011 22:56

are we allowed to carry on discussing this?

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Maryz · 10/11/2011 17:38

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MmeLindor. · 10/11/2011 17:36

Can we adopt Helen as a normal MN poster please?

Go on, Helen. Shrug off the HQ badge, grab a glass of wine and get stuck into AIBU.

BecauseImWorthIt · 10/11/2011 17:36

And Grin @Rhubarb0

BecauseImWorthIt · 10/11/2011 17:34

... and LBE it's nothing to do with 'a bit of tough talking'. Have you read any of this and the other threads?! DBF was on a final warning. End of.

See ^ from Hully.

Hullygully · 10/11/2011 17:31

Chipping - out of interest, would you address the post I made earlier (below):

I think MNHQ are consistent.

  1. A personal attack is drawn to their attention by one or many
  2. A warning is given
  3. It persists
  4. A warning of a ban is given
  5. It persists
  6. Warning is carried through.

OMG I am Gina Ford.

The key point is that whether or not you think 5 was justified and whatever it consisted of is irrelevant

BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 10/11/2011 17:30

MNHQs voice is louder because their posts are blue/grey Grin

PaintYouByNumbers · 10/11/2011 17:29

Cor blimey, I go offline for 2 days and the shit hits the fan?

What on earth happened? I can't figure it out from the posts

BecauseImWorthIt · 10/11/2011 17:28

ChippingIn

HedgeHop - a lot of people feel the same way. Unfortunately those with louder voices 'won'

I'm sorry, but there aren't any 'louder voices' - unless you count that of MNHQ/Justine.

It was their decision and absolutely nothing to do with people who posted on this or the other threads. It's an absurd accusation to make.

LadyBeagleEyes · 10/11/2011 17:27

Can I just say, having heard all the arguments back and forth on this and other threads, I still want to get back to the point.
DBF should never have been banned and should be reinstated.
But from what I am seeing a bit of tough talking from a poster is no longer allowed.
Which is a great shame.

TheRhubarb · 10/11/2011 17:27

Holy shit Helen, have you not noticed the huge kick off whilst you've been posting on here? Shock Someone's gotta stop what's happening here and quick!

TheRhubarb · 10/11/2011 17:23

But Maryz you can say "look, what you are saying is fucking ridiculous. I find your opinion crass and ignorant and I also think that your mother looks like the back of a donkey"

Wink

When I have been called terrible things, it can be tempting to retort back with personal insults and very often I have and those insults have been deleted. But it's far better I have found, to question their reasoning and be ultra ultra polite because nothing, I repeat, NOTHING infuriates them more when they are trying to wind you up by saying "I forgive your last comment as you are clearly not thinking or responding to my posts rationally".

Calling names just ends up in you being booted off and then they dance about going "oh look, you had that deleted because you're a bully". So hold your temper and win your argument.

Maryz · 10/11/2011 17:20

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LeBOF · 10/11/2011 17:18

I don't think it's fair to let personal attacks stand just because they are pluralised. How would you feel as a parent of a child with SN, for example, if somebody says "All carers on benefits are scrounging bastards- I bet most of them are perfectly capable of work, and they're just lazy" etc etc? I'd take that pretty fucking personally actually. Likewise "Don't ask that on the feminism boards, they're proper mental there". It's incredibly rude, and a world away from saying "I had a real ding-dong on there once with a couple of them and I've felt nervous to post since".

Maryz · 10/11/2011 17:17

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HelenMumsnet · 10/11/2011 17:17

@HelenMumsnet

[quote ChippingInNeedsSleep]

HelenMumsnet - why is 'Fuck Off' a personal attack? It's an instruction.

[/quote]

Or maybe that's a question for the Friday Night peeps?

MNHQ
HelenMumsnet · 10/11/2011 17:16

@ChippingInNeedsSleep

HelenMumsnet - why is 'Fuck Off' a personal attack? It's an instruction.

BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 10/11/2011 17:14

Not blaming you for homoism Helen, just wondering aloud...

BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 10/11/2011 17:14
Grin
Hullygully · 10/11/2011 17:14

All of this is diverting important attention away from the POO TROLLS.

MNHQ
HelenMumsnet · 10/11/2011 17:14

@BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability

why is it racist, disablist, sexist but not homoist? Confused

Cos it's not homoism, is it?

MNHQ
HelenMumsnet · 10/11/2011 17:13

@BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability

Grin

How about "your mum" type posts then? They're not aimed at the person in question?

What, as is "Your mum is ugly"?

Are you my DS3's mates?

BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 10/11/2011 17:13

why is it racist, disablist, sexist but not homoist? Confused

BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 10/11/2011 17:11
Grin

How about "your mum" type posts then? They're not aimed at the person in question?

MNHQ
HelenMumsnet · 10/11/2011 17:10

@ChippingInNeedsSleep

Rhubarb - did you read GalaxyWeavers post? She does go around reporting posts and she isn't the only one.

GalaxyWeaver - why do you feel the need to report posts that aren't aimed at you? It annoys me when people report posts that are aimed at me. I'm an adult, I can decide if I am offended or not, it's not anyone else's business. (I did thank the people on the thread where someone said something 'offensive' to me as they did it with good intent, but I was happy to let it stay and asked MNHQ to leave it there (which they did)). Why do you feel the need to interfere in an exchange between other posters?

Because we ask posters to report posts that break our rules, ChippingIn. Please do take a look at our Talk Guidelines

We say : "Mumsnet is, on the whole, a lightly moderated site that works well because it is largely self-policing.....That said, we will remove posts we consider to contain personal attacks, to break the law and/or to be obscene, racist, sexist, disablist or homophobic ? once they are brought to our attention. The quickest way to let us at MNHQ know about a post (or thread) that you think should be deleted is to report it."

We also say: "We'd appreciate it if you'd use the same courtesy when posting messages on Talk as you would use when speaking to someone face-to-face. Please do bear in mind how difficult this parenting business can be, and if there's one thing all of us could do with, it's some moral support."

TheRhubarb · 10/11/2011 17:09

You are all idiotic pieces of duck giblet that I have personally crapped on.

Grin

That's ok because it's not personally directed at anyone - see? It's a message to everyone! Smile