mn hq, is it really wise to have topics that are deamed so agressive/scary that most members don't want to post there?

My comment wasn't about a particular poster. I have no idea who wrote the posts that drove my friend off Mumsnet.

DeccaTreuhaft, I feel like I should curtesy but the real Decca probably wouldn't want me to, would she?

This has turned into a witchhunt of one poster and that is totally wrong. You should address your concerns to MNHQ directly, not pull someone apart on a thread and pick over the bones.

Bloody awful thread. I feel so sorry for her. You may not like her posting style but no-one deserves to be slagged off like this.

You are right, Pinot. I will report my post. Maybe you could do the same, Lougle?

I don't have a dog, so have no need to post in or read The Doghouse, but my curiosity was piqued, so I have now read the thread in question.

And - blimey! I can understand how there is a huge amount of anger for the way that disreputable people 'farm' puppies, but it seems that some posters here stoke the fires of that anger and then anyone who is new who comes along gets the full force of their ire.

In fact, it reminded me of the ALF. Animals' rights at all costs, and never mind the human cost.

I'm glad I have no need to ever go there again.

I'm not sure it's right to 'out' a namechanger or discuss a possible namechanger.

I can see it now, but I didn't notice earlier.

Sorry, I should have said I can't stand the self appointed experts who condemn those who don't share a similar level of experience/interest in their subject.

I do have one or two subjects I can give well informed advice on (if asked - I never go about the boards offering it), and am happy to do so without judging those who are not as well informed as me on those particular topics to scorn, ridicule or hatred.

I think Maryz hits the nail on the head that often there seems to be very little actual advice, just criticism instead. Not constructive criticism either. Funnily enough when I was getting a bashing from many people I also had people PMing me saying that they disagreed with the majority but they didn't feel that they could voice that on the thread as they were worried about people then turning on them. Which is quite sad really. Sad that they felt like that, I did really appreciate their support even if it was secret support.

CWWM at eating your own eyeball!

FWIW, I don't have a dog, and wouldn't get one as I don't feel I have the right situation in which to get one and wouldn't be able to deal with my young child/soon to be children and a dog. But is my dog bit my child and my child was hysterical and fearful I wouldn't think twice about having it put down unless I could find a rescue to take it immediately. Are people seriously suggesting that a child be terrified in it's own home for the benefit of a dog? And other posters are being told to lie about their dog biting?

Unbelievable.

Blimey. Despite having dogs I rarely go over to the doghouse boards, but as a result of this thread I checked it out, and didn't take long to see the fur flying - it's like being back at school with all the kids in a circle watching the big kid punch seven bells of shit out of the little one.

Makes AIBU come across all 'Bounty' in comparison.

I like the fact that MN is not soft and fluffy, but that stuff on the doghouse boards is pretty nasty.

Decca
I am truly not being disingenuous. The only posters I "know" from the dog topic are Valhalla (who was not on the thread today, haven't seen her on doghouse for a while), Bella, and Blondes (of Woofa fame, also not seen her around for a bit, and I keep looking for Woofa updates).

As Mary said, it was not one poster on that thread, but several. All with varying degrees of FFS and angry faces. Going on the very sparce info in the OP.