Anyone TTC number 2 in your mid-30s and fancy company?

I’m not breastfeeding much but I’m starting to worry that’s why I’m not getting pregnant. Tbh breastfeeding has really taken a toll on my body so I’m not sure if it can’t handle bfing and a pregnancy. I don’t want to stop if I don’t need to but I’m definitely worrying I’m wasting my time trying.
I’m also trying to lose a bit of the baby (toddler!) weight, because that would make me healthier if I do conceive and also maybe it would make it easier to conceive, but again I worry that’s impacting me. Just don’t know what to do for the best, I’m just wracking my brains I think trying to see what I can change now that this is a project my type a self needs to get right!

@inkgirl- I must have missed your post! Have everything crossed this is excellent news!

@Mortima.. no, I can say for sure I am definitely not that person. I'm still fretting about my line strength!

@Peedthebed- I'm sorry lovely, it sounds really tough. I think the only thing you CAN do is try and eat healthy most the time, allow plenty of treats without stress and be kind to yourself!

@Peedthebed that's so tough! It feels like too many things to focus on doesn't it. My little one is definitely holding me hostage with the feeds, how do people stop?!

If you are able and willing to stop though just stop any time you want (if you can!) I just mean don't feel guilty about it at all. I had really low iron and high blood sugar which they thought was from the sleep deprivation in part and I absolutely hear you on the toll it's taken in you

Thank you, i had another faint line on a cheap test but negative on a clearblue, its left me very confused

@inkgirl Ah I'm sorry, that's a head fuck isn't it...do you know what DPO you are?

I'm feeling a bit peculiar this afternoon - tired, bloated, faintly sick, and just a sense of doom/being on edge. Probably just means my period is imminent and I'm being extra sensitive to it this time, but who knows?

Not 100% but think im around 11 or 12 dpo only came off the pill begining of the month so not sure

It is so frustrating. I hate not knowing or not having clear answers. Between now and monday I believe so not getting my hopes up or at least trying not too.

@beeble347 Absolutely! sorry to hear it’s been similar for you. I’ve no judgement on formula mums, I maybe would’ve been more sensible to do the same, but everyone around me says things like oh I didn’t breastfeed, it wasn’t easy for me like it was for you so we had to stop. And I’m there with no sleep, still not able to go away for long without causing a lot of distress, and all sorts of vitamin deficiencies and pains and hormonal imbalances and unable to lose the baby weight even though I’ve got a 2 year old! I don’t feel like I was told any of these things about breastfeeding! Even with ttc all I heard was you might still get pregnant so make sure you’re on bc, but I didn’t think actually it might be a problem and by that point it’s too late and seems impossible to stop.

im going to try stay positive for this cycle though, got my opks lined up, I’ve ran out of pregnancy tests so hoping to wait until 12dpo until I do one, I’m hoping not having any in the house will help me with a little bit of will power. At the very least if I can make it past 7dpo it will be an improvement

sorry you’re having such a difficult time @inkgirl that must be messing with your head a lot

fingers crossed for everyone testing this weekend

Thank you, it really is. Think I'm going to stop testing for a few days and just enjoy my birthday this weekend

Holy fuck, I wasn't ready for this to happen so quickly!

@Peedthebed this is off topic so feel free to tell me to butt out but is there any reason you don't want to stop breastfeeding? You've done an amazing job to get past 2 years and it sounds like maybe you could do with a bit of a break?

@inkgirl sounds sensible to take the weekend off testing (happy birthday!) And hopefully you get good news next week. It feels like it would be really bad luck to get multiple false positives so I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Good luck to everyone testing over the next few days!

Thank you, meant to be having a camera down my throat on monday, so hopefully the line will be more noticeable if I am as won't be able to get it done it I am pregnant. For now I'm going to enjoy my birthday weekend with my boyfriend

Wah congratulations!!! This is amazing! How many dpo are you again?

@CasualOverthinker Thankyou! I'm a state of shock, it took 7 months to conceive DS. Didn't do BBT so can't be exactly sure of ovulation date, but we DTD on the day I got a peak OPK and 4 days before that (so potentially O-1 and O-5?)

It's going to take all I've got to not blurt it out before this evening!

Wishing you all the luck

Thanks! 12dpo, it's the most restrained I've ever been for testing.

Another blazing negative for me this morning which clearly I'll be fishing out the bin to reexamine in an hour or so...How about you, are you still planning on testing tomorrow or Mondaym

Sorry to hear you're feeling so negative, to be honest I've sort of given up this month too but really we are both still in with a very good chance. I would like to propose a new system whereby immediately after sex you get a notification on your phone letting you know if it will result in a baby or not. I absolutely cannot be doing with this waiting around anymore. Also whose idea was it to make pregnancy and pms symptoms exactly the same?

@Mortima congratulations!! Well done on holding out to test, that's amazing x