Very nervous to TTC after a miscarriage but am going for it

er...yingers, what the heck you talking about???? glad i'm keeping ebay in business, as long as there are still some tests for me to buy!!! good value tho arent they?!
so sorry about the negative test bella, but i hope you get a nice surprise the next one you do. whens af due for you do you think? (we must make some sort of stats list of everyone) i dont even KNOW when af should be here....... cant even begin to go on anything other than 4-6wks after surgery. which is one heck of a large time scale if your counting days.
dh behaving himself today, after we decided to make friends and be nice to each other today. spent a nice morning out with him (its his day off) so okay i forgive him we psoke briefly about both wanting very much to get pg next month (we're pretty sure we arent this month) and he said how much he wants the next baby. nice reassuring things to hear. so today i do love him....(sure as ever he will be a total GIT by next week agina LOL)
I have upped my water intake recently as heard that help make the right fertile cm. anything else i can do i'm right there doing it. i'd list it all but you write me off as absolutely crakcers... sigh. not obsessing you understand, just ...er.... covering all bases!! anyone want to tell me what their doing too so i dont feel crazy alone. please?!

bella - sorry about your result
girl - stay on this thread - im nowhere near ttc but find it a good way to feel im moving on
dq - im on the multivitamins - never had much truck with those but boots had a 3 for 2 so I thought id stock up - willing all those goodies to ripen up the eggs ive been told are getting on a bit
went to see GP today with ds1 who refused to listen to my anxiety that all not right with pg and would not send me for early scan. told him Id had mc - hoped he felt a bit guilty - and told him that consultant said he was to refer me for early scan next time. felt a bit bad but not too bad as he didnt even say 'sorry to hear that'
anyway got that rant off my chest, onwards and upwards...

have a very good break Bella, hope its good fun!
yeah hereshoping, glad you told your gp off!! saw my gp today -a 'how is your head mentally after m/c' appointment, i had been dreading it, as go so patronising at times.
However, it was a GOOd appointment. go never uttered one word about ttc too early, she just told me to keep with the vitamins and folic acid. that was so nice of her, cause i know Drs arent generally in favour of ttc before at least one cycle. I'm doing very well apparently. i know it was just a chat sort of appointment but i felt great when i left. like i had a sort of seal of approval you know?

drama, LOL, someone metioned something about the ring in LOTR so i was referring to that! And I am also drinking more water and trying to be all round a bit more healthy, have got that book You are what u eat, there is no way I will be that healthy but at least I am managing breakfast now and eating more veggies! I am also also doing the whole vitamins and folic acid.

HS, gps often need a kick up the backside, so good for you. I think nurses exist because many doctors have no empathy skills.

bella - have a great time. I got those cheap pregnancy tests today and yes I could not help myself I tested, and of course it was negative. Feel a bit silly now.

Good to hear everyone so busy and well, me too today, had a really good one starting to feel back to my old self almost.
Bella, give my love to the Dam. I love that place, have only been once but just loved it such gorgeous buildings and boats and bikes everywhere.
DQ what are you doing with your gang for half term? I'm taking ds to my m's for a few days change of scene.
Hereshoping, great to hear that you're happy to be on this thead too, it's definitely a really welcoming place for cheering up, cheering down (whenever you need to) and moving on unto the language of the
R i n g........ speak you it yet? I can't remember if I've heard you lapse into it yet. I'm learning it slowly from my book with demented blonde harpy on the front and from my sistergurus here under the protectorship of the Don DQ, she is my leader, I shall follow.

oh you ladies....funny girls
need advice, have PAIN, (as in ow, hurt, not as in niggle) on right side, low down, ovary/poss cervix pain i think. so whats that then????? cant surely be O (did late opk to test and its not a line at all) can it be weird af ain? never really had it just on right tho....ODD. it hurts tho, got better as day went on, had to take painkillers this morning for it. and no, of course i never mentioned it at the DRs today. any bright ideas would be helpful. could be i am falling apart?
Girl- try not to mention half term and the fact the 'big' children will be home, so will have herd here.. i may run screaming from the building. 13 and 10 yr olds are NOT easily occupied , unless you part with VAST sums of money. (and of course, in excellent timing, half term is the week before payday!!) thinking of sending just the big two to my mothers. my mother doesnt know this yet....LOL
love my 20mth old lots, she just wants to read stories and feed ducks! bless.

girl im not in the ttc ring yet - only 2 weeks post op and still bleeding
also not ready to give up getting drunk and take it seriously for a week or two yet
dq - im taking my 3 to stay with my friend in Ireland for half term - must be mad to give dh house to himself and a rest dont know how ill cope without mumsnet fro a week!
bella enjoy amsterdam, when i went was on back of a tandem withdh when suddenly realised he was about to crash it into a canal - we were going past a red light corner and there was a vixen showing her wares in a window

sorry, hereshoping, I meant to say: 'happy to pop in' to the ttc thread. To be honest, I'm still losing a little too and feel like I will be until the end of time at the moment !
Have a lovely time in Ireland.

heres- Ireland sounds good! fancy taking my lot with you to Ireland? more to the point anyone fancy night/day out in southampton? visit poor ol DQ?
had lovely night out with dh, good fun, meal with a little red wine too. had to snap right out of fun mood when we got home as all children still up (and manic) and granny had let them pretty much trash the house! gee thanks granny....... but i was good night BEFORE that! we spoke about ttc, and dh asked alot of 'technical' questions LOL about Cm and such. so funny to hear him ask such things. he spoke about how he cant wait to be pg again, and i just LOVE hearing him speak like that. makes it all seem more 'real' you know? not just me wishing and hoping!
side pain just about gone, what was that i wonder? (shrug)
wishing everyone a very good night and a good friday. dd1 has her entrance exam to her secondary school so wish her luck!
DQ..x

hello all, dh is a teacher so am looking forward to spending more time with him and dd together doing family stuff.

Was speaking to my friend today about my m/c and bereavement and I got quite upset, I realised that I had already built a life for my unborn so although miscarriage happened early I had still lost a baby. sorry am feeling a little raw now although it was good to really discuss it.

I am so so so looking forward to getting my AF and being able to ttc with some certainty.

DQ - no idea about the pain, if u are still hurting tomorrow might be idea to call NHS direct. A friend of mine who has just come off the pill, is having a very painful run up to her period and gp says this is normal as body get used to being 'normal' again, could this be the same thing?

howdy nervous ttc'ers. really sorry i missed out on the brad/johnny debate - johnny: way cooler methinks, brad canoodling with angelina lost him a bit of cred in my book. i like a hot guy who knows he can get anyone, but sticks with just the one eg. paul newman (been happily married 30+ years) and doesnt ever chase skirt - how cool is that?

anyway girls - CD15 and got my 0 on persona (BINGO!!!)and got OPK+ (i know, i know, but belt and braces!) so BD last night and all weekend hopefully! wish me luck and babydust pleeeease.

happy weekending all

rom- how exciting for you!!!! i'm still in limbo -FRUSTRATING!!! may much bd-ing come your way this weekend!
how are the rest of you ladies? well i hope.
yingers thanks for pain help. its much better, just occassional twinge now. may have been from bd-ing , or -heres me wishing lots!- even implanting? or as you say af weird pain...roll on whatever it is!!!
so am attempting list of stats (useless at these normally but!!) so whos testing when or waiting for af when? then maybe we can have somekinda list going so we all know whos counting day etc etc.
hope bellas having a fab time in holland. sigh. dh hasnt even THOUGHT about valentines dayd yet. sigh. even dd1 came home with FIVE valentines gifts! from the same boy! aw! how envious am I????LOL

sending babydust your way Rom!

DQ - have no idea about my own stats, I guess my AF should appear in the next 3-4 weeks, but who knows. Is 6-8 weeks the norm after a m/c or has anyone gone straight back into their normal cycle.

I went to the health store today to buy all those so called 'superfoods', got completley confused by all the names which started to merge into one after a while, I then gave up and brought so dried chewy banana chips for my dd instead, she loves them although she refuses the fresh stuff, strange huh?

Hi there fellow ttcers
Ive decided to join club though still spotting - am not going to get too wound up about it this month but suddenly feel rampant... to dhs pleased reaction!
not expecting AF till end of month though if last time anything to go by
my gP told me it takes 2 months after a ERPC for your cycle to settle down
good luck rom
dq - 1st dat 1/2 term - kiddie entertainment goingOK? Ive had a trip to a steam railway to see Thomas the sodding tankengine - just hope new babs if lucky enough to get one isnt as obsessed as ds2...

hey which steam railway? theres one near me that does that thomas too! luckily, dd is balamory obsessed, not train!!phew...nephew was aboslutely NUTS about thomas. but thankfully past it now. hate it, dont know why just do!LOL my big kddies are too big to entertain, just throw money at them really to make them happy at this age. first day home not too awful. suspect it may get madder before it gets better!
glad dh is happy about the ttc sometimes they can be fickle fellows when it comes to being 'under pressure'(roll eyes here) my dh has grumbled but is as keen as me -if not keener- to get pg. right now STILL getting odd twinge ocassionally in lower right side. if no af by 2oth i will test (fingers crossed) and also get ectopic ruled out too (i'm sure i'm over reacting but...you know, used to think m/c only happened to other people too.)it prob af. sure she must be about here somewhere!
anyhow, glad to have you here.
this thread is TOO quiet today, i'm lost without it!

dq and HH, wow, it is very quiet, hope everyone is well, I feel okish today, bit sorry for myself but still hoping to join you all properly here before too long. I'm not even thinking when af will visit, it all seems very improbable at the moment. Oh well patience is a virtue of this line of business I guess.....
So tired could just keel over and pass out. Hope you all have good Sat nights, nothing on telly but the BAFTAS, want to see what Kate Winslet is wearing.
Next week is all organised, visiting m on my own with ds were we can play with lots of cousins and be with my adorable m. dh facing prospect of solitude with some bravery.
DQ, love/fear the thought of just throwing money at big ones.

evening all, am knackered, took dd to v&a which did not go to well, the chinese new year events were running a bit late and dd was getting restless, bored and hungry so we gave up and took her to the science musuem instead and into the play room where she had a blast!

girl - yes patience is important, I just wish I had some! Am going to get up to mischief with my dh this half term & hopefully nature will give me some good news.

Am looking forward to watching the baftas and hoping johnny depp or leonardo di caprio wins something, not sure they have even been nominated!!!! And then it is CSI NY for me! gruesome but i do love it!

Have a good weekend all!

evening all
soryr havent been around for couple of days but Ds has been a handful..as toddlers are..lol...I have also been trying to clean the house sooo
am on cd 8 today so going to get to bding from tonight and u never know

Sending lots of babydust to everyone
Take care
mishi

good luck mishi, sending u babydust

thanks yingers..i know its early but im taking no chances..lol gonna make most of any bding opportunities cos i really want a bfp.
Was really upset yesterday as one of birthboards i pos ton for ds has quite a few of the ladies pg..fair enough but about 3 are due when i would have been...one only a couple of days later and she was going on and on about how hard its been how tired she is etc..which yes she prob is but i keep having to stop my self telling her where to go..lol
anyways yesterday she posted that she had been for her 20wk scan and it was a girl etc which is great but it really upset me cos just feel like its getting rubbed in my face...even though she isnt iykwim...stupid really cos know im crying again
Anyways huge hugs to all and lots of sticky baby dust

DQ hoping u get a bfp when u test
take care

mishi, sorry that upset you, i know how it is. i cant believe how far along the august pg ladies are, seems only yesterday we were all just a few weeks doesnt it? and of course pg ladies due when we were is going to upset you. and me, -if its any consolation. does she know you had a m/c? if she doesnt maybe she should, not so she doesnt eveyr mention her pg, just so shes alittle more tactful?
Just hang in there, it'll be our turn soon enough,
I seriously doubt a bpf in my test, but thanks for hoping so. still having pretty awful side pains.....I can ony assume af in weird disguse, or IBS maybe? fingers crossed very hard its not appendix or anything drastic, had quite enough 'drama' and surgery lately thanks.
bding opportunities are not coming my way right now, either i'm in pain or dh isnt home! still, think its passed the opportunity time this month anyhow, if its not done now it'll have to be next month! what is you 'game plan' re bding? everyday? eveyr other day? not so often? as often as poss not counting exactly when? i'm curious to know if everyones 'leaving it to nature' or trying even harder. this month i left it to chance, next month it will be abit more like a miltary operation!! cant remember what your using? opks? persona? nothing? tell me all over again....
yingers hows your mischief making going? good i hope!
Girl hope youre free from any left over spotting now? and free to be ttc or not as you wish? cant imagine how hard its been for you for it to go on so long like that, all credit to you for not going absolutely crazy there. have a very good week with your mummy shes so very nice, (from when she looked after you during m/c,) you can hire her out to me please.
Romilly hope all s well with the persona big O, and youre ttc all week! gosh theres alot of bding about this week!!!!!!
bella, can you please come home and tell me if you got a bfp when you test today/monday!!! i NEED positive good news please. frustrated waiting already and its only one month into ttc!!!
i warn you now, i cried anc cried end of month 2 last time when i discovered i wasnt pg. absolutely awful fight with dh over it. yikes. got pg month 3 tho, so something to aim for right?
hugs all round
love you ladies........xxxx

Ello ladies, new to this but as I have for so long now, had so many conflicting information snippets about endometriosis, the mirena coil and fertility. That I am very grateful to have now stumbled onto this web site. I have posted this on to endometriosis and mirena thread, but this thread seems to have more up to date activity...

Firstly though want to say good luck to all those that are awaiting the sounds of pattering feet...Wishing you all the best... After my youngest brother making mum grandma first (a lovely nephew for me of six months) (always knew he would, found cannot hold out to the broodiness any longer.. pitter patter

I have had the mirena coil for six years now, just turned 28. I was diagnosed with endometriosis when I was just 21, after a long hard struggle getting the doctors to fully examine me. As I was 'brushed off' and supplied with muscle relaxants (which caused more pain as they were fighting with my bodys' own responses) as I fitted the typical age bracket of an IBS sufferer. Apparently young women do not eat enough fibre as typically have bad diets??!! (Weetabix and brown bread every morning for me) Then as it progressed and got worse it was suggested I had appendicitus, then rumbling appendix and eventually late on a Saturday night five years from when the pain had started (which was age 16-17).I was finally taken to theatre for a laparoscopy which diagnosed endometroisis.

My experience with the marena has been good, I have had no endo pain since it was fitted, weight has been normal fluctuations. My only complaint is bouts of acne. Hormonal type lumps on the jawline. These were regular but occassional now. Although originally I did believe this was down to the tablets and zoladex injections I had had as part of the endo treatment to essentially remove, then replace hormones within the body. But since reading others mirena messages, it has got me wondering ....

After having the depo for five years previous to the marena coil, I would add it has worked better for me. As the depo caused huge weight gain and continous untimely spotting, whereas marena abolished all periods very quickly. (this was something I had to be assured was normal)

My worry now is since I have now had the marena removed two weeks ago trying for a baby with long term partner No sign of period yet... does anyone know how long the body takes to get back to normal? Also I am dreading it in case endo returns along with heavy painful periods . But most of all will I fall pregnant??? Cos I have read such conflicting stories whether marena good with endo, some good, some bad reports...especially as had one fitted before having a family. Besides the scare that endo itself affects fertility.

Sorry to ramble just grateful to be in touch with people that may have had first hand experience instead of doctors who have quite honestly confused me with all their opinions..

Thank You