Considering having a 3rd

Hi there gold 123!!

I TOTALLY know where you are coming from!! My DS is 6 and DD nearly 4 and due to start school this summer and yes, me and DH are thinking about a third! You have summed up my feelings exactly regarding how the family feel etc-My Mum makes me feel awful everytime I mention having another- she thinks it would be 'cruel' to my DS and DD -Even though I know I shouldn't ,it is SO hard not to take on board what your immediate family think -it's terrible the way they take advantage of that too. lol! I too just have that inexplainable urge to have another baby -

I want to thank you for posting! Now I truley don't feel mad OR cruel

I have 3 and want a 4th. Now tyhat is crackers

ooh expecially about the others fighting over the baby

Mine both jump into his cot when we go up to get him in the morning

exaclty ditto Ks except mine are all young, 5 , 3 and almost One! (yipee)

I was in the same position as you. Boy 6 and girl 4.(they are nearly 7 and 5 now) Wanted another, everyone thought we were mad, (getting life back and all that) but we didn't listen and now have the most beautiful baby girl (8 months now). The funny thing is, is that now I've had my third, I absolutely know that she will be my last and I can hold someone else's baby without getting broody because I KNOW WITHOUT A DOUBT I do not want any more, but before I had her, something inside of me said I had to have another and our family was not complete with just two children. I didn't want to get to 40 and then think 'if only...' Yes, it is hard work and I have to wake her up to collect the children from school in the afternoon and then she gets shunted around in the car seat when they have their 'playdates' and 'activities' (I sometimes give her to a neighbour to mind while I pick up or collect if I can) but 8 months down the line, we are so pleased to have had her and do not regret it for one single moment. The gap is really not that big, you will find the older two are fighting to be the one to 'help' get the baby's clothes out, fetch nappies, and to hold him/her. All the people who said we were mad are now fighting to have a cuddle when they see her and it's lovely being a mum of three so I definitely think go for it - you won't regret it!

I'd love a third, I know my parents would think I was mad. My only problem is DH he is dead set against it, so thats that. However, if I were in your position and he wanted another too, I'd just go for it and forget what family think.

gold123, sort of similar situation, ds and dd 8 1/2 and 7 and have just also got life back, enjoying job etc..but can totally understand what you are saying...like an inner urge or something within you makes you feel it's the right thing to do? dh and I also want a third and the age gap would be 9-10 years between oldest, possibly...sounds like you have the right reasons for having another one...if you feel you could cope with the upheaval and don't mind nappies and all that stuff again then good...think it's great that you both feel the same way btw..hope you can decide about this and reach a happy decision for all of you

Deciding to have a child should be the decision of the parents-to-be only. The views of extended family should only be taken into consideration if you are expecting them to take a major role in the child's life, e.g. childcare whilst you return to work, etc. I have 3 children. My mother, particularly, was completely against my having a third (mainly due to my age, but there were other factors). I'm one of 3 - she said that that was why she knew that 3 was a bad number! Mind you, I am one of 3 girls and I only have boys, so the make-up of my family differs in a fairly major way.

Go with your gut instinct. If you don't, you will wonder for ever if you did the right thing.

i want a 3rd but the age gap is closer with my 2 atm, dd1 will be four soon, and dd2 is coming up 18months. now thats mad!!

realy its got nothing to do with your family whether you have another one or not its down to you and your husband and when your mother says you were a mistake please dont take it the wrong wat she probably means she didnt plan to have you but she loves you all the same my mother in law planned on having one shes got five i think realy though you should sit down and explain to your kids first because i dont know if you had the problen with your eldest but when theres a new baby in the pictur some kids feel pushed out but if you want a third one and your partner wants a third one and you both think you could cope with a new baby aswell as the other two the realy you should go for it

I don't see why it should destroy the relationships you have with ds and dd gold123?

I too am tentatively considering a 3rd, but the age gap is bigger - dd is nearly 13 and ds is 10. Also don't know whether I'm mad or not! (Well, actually I know damn well )