Parents in law mispronounce daughter’s name

Yeah I’m not convinced that your way is how you’re meant to pronounce Adeline… I’m with your in-laws pronunciation. I think you and your daughter are going to be fighting this battle everywhere she goes for the rest of her life! I’d change it

Sing to the tune of ‘happy and you know it’, on repeat, every time they get it wrong:

My name in Adeline it rhymes with fine, My name is Adeline it rhymes with fine, ‘Add-eh-lin’ can get in the bin,
Add-eh-leen’, you’re being mean,
My name is Adeline it rhymes with fine!

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Stop being polite!! They’re doing this on purpose as a way of controlling and upsetting you. They’ve had nearly 2 years to get it right.

Tell your husband to grow and spine and tell his parents that he knows they’re doing this on purpose to be nasty and they’re no longer welcome into your home.

I would also stop visiting them with Adeline too. I wouldn’t even give them the option of using a nickname. His parents clearly don’t like you very much so I’d stop making an effort to see them.

edit - your pronunciation is how I would pronounce the name.

This is brilliant 👏

My daughter is about to turn 28. I made the stupid mistake when pregnant thinking sharing our short list was wise.
Maybe it was. Naming...pronounced Nay-ome-me was our top choice but PILs weren't keen on ot, voiced thier disapproval and kept saying Ni-om-ee instead.
It drove me insane so we opted for something different. Can't imagine her being Naomi now!!
No help, but an appreciation of understanding how bloody annoying it is for you and frankly rude, now your daughter is here living with her name.

And a great song to teach your daughter!

Lovely name OP.

Based on my own mother struggling with DS’s name for quite a while after he was born (it would have been ongoing when he was the OP’s daughter’s age certainly), no, not necessarily!

To her it was an embarrassing, unusual ‘old man’ name from her childhood, and as it was habitually mispronounced where she was from (‘th’ dropped, one syllable pronounced with a different vowel sound, and the emphasis on a different syllable), and she just couldn’t manage it for years. Think pronouncing Adeline, not the way the OP wants it, but ‘Hay-de-LEEN’ or something.

I think it was a combination of genuine confusion, knowing she was getting it wrong and panicking every time she said it, and, possibly entirely unconsciously, a wish we’d called DS John or a ‘nice ordinary name’.

They will get over it soon enough. Perhaps pull back from them for a while

One of my DDs has a name that can be pronounced different ways. My MIL would repeatedly use the wrong one. We used to laugh it off, and DD still talks with fondness of how her granny couldn’t pronounce her name correctly. I can’t say it really bothered me because I chose a name that would possibly be controversial.
‘My other DD has a name that can be shortened two completely different ways - think Margaret shortened to Maggie or Peggie. My dad called her by the shortened version that was different to ours. He said it suited her better. As she got older, if she gave him a card or gift she would always sign it with his version of her name. She still has birthday cards off him where he used that name. He died 10 years ago but she knows he loved her to bits as she did him.

Adeline is such a beautiful name.
I think your dh needs to firmly say to them Adeline is her name and they either call her that or Addie and to stop messing about because he is getting sick of it.

I'd just stop rising to it and reinforce Addie.

It's a nice name but you say 25% of the time, it's mispronounced, so it isn't just them.

Soon she will be old enough to pointedly tell them herself (if she's not already), so make sure she does, every time.

...get her to sing a couple of lines from "sweet Caroline", with "Adeline" instead, whenever they do it. It will become an earworm and train them how to pronounce it. Do not make her accept the wrong name from anyone.

That’s actually not a bad idea.

Is the child your grandchild though? My mother is similar, I’ve been married for 25 years, my mother still can’t get my mother in laws name consistently right.I’ve given up correcting her. She’s very self absorbed though.

Yes I am of the mind that it's a genuine mistake. I immediately thought of the character in Bread so I got the pronunciation correct but in a scouse accent! Some of the tips about rhyming it might work. If they still can't get it right then ask them to use Addie

No, but as I said up the thread, my own mother struggled with years with DS’s name. He’s her only grandchild and she adores him, but had a mental block, exacerbated by the fact that she clearly wished we hadn’t give him a name she considered an ‘old man’s name’. So I do t think ‘beloved grandchild’ status stops some people struggling with a name.

It's a toughie.
Rhyming with fine is the more common North American pronunciation, while rhyming with green is the more common European and UK version. I can see why the PiLs had a bit of a challenge. However, it has been 18 months, so plenty of time to learn it.
I think it's time for a blunt conversation that after so much time it has become offensive that they can't call their own granddaughter by her proper name. It's offensive to her and you as her parents.

Wasn’t she Aveline?

Mispronounce their names constantly and with a happy smile. What a couple of idiot pills. Why hasn't your husband sorted this out?

I like the idea to begin mispronouncing their names. Perhaps in a completely different and exaggerated accent?

My MiL struggled for ages with DD's name. No idea why - I guess it could be classed as 'slightly' exotic version of a normal name (It really isn't!!). However, I don't think she meant it maliciously & now calls her just by the shortened form of her name which she can get her head round.

SiL on the other hand consistently gets it wrong. Even when we correct her. It is beyond irritating but so is SiL. If we see her at xmas I am tempted to put DD in a t-shirt with her name written in big letters on the front & mispronounce SiL's name if she still mis-pronounces her name. Petty I know but I've reached the end of my patience with it (DD is 8 so she's had plenty of time to learn the correct name!!)

Isn't Adaline pronounced Add-uh-leen?
Rhymes with Madeleine, Pauline and Emmaline.
I would never guess anything else.

You need to ask PIL to please call her Addie.
Interupt every time and say ..
Please call her Addie. We want her to know her name.

This thread is baffling. I know several Adelines and they are all Ah-duh-line. I have literally never heard of ah-duh-linn or ah-duh-leen. There is no reason they can’t pronounce a perfectly normal and relatively common name. Tbh this is a game you will win long term, as your dd will start correcting them soon!