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Parking and the elderly

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Ireallycantthinkofagoodone · Yesterday 19:11

I recently attempted to renew a blue badge for an elderly (93 year old) relative. Despite him needing to use a walking frame or sticks, having had several falls, having stiff and painful joints, and a bit of confusion, he has been refused a blue badge.

I have lived in an area that had a ‘brown badge’ scheme, which were given to anyone over a certain age - I think it was 70 or 75. Now, not everyone needs to secure a space near to store entrances - I’m late 70’s myself and regularly walk 8-10k a day, but many people do need this, as they can’t confidently walk too far.

But aside from blue badge spaces, the only other close ones are parent and baby spaces. Why? I don’t understand why the latter can’t be further away, and wide enough to access car seats.

If my 93 year old relative is no longer entitled to a blue badge, I feel the only option is to park in a so called baby space, so that I can encourage his ongoing independence in choosing his food shopping. He just wouldn’t go if I couldn’t assist.

AIBU - Elderly people don’t need consideration in supermarket car parks

AINBU - If blue badges are being heavily restricted now, spaces in car parks should be set aside for the elderly, and parent/baby spaces moved further away.

OP posts:
JenniferBooth · Today 17:49

Goldenboysmum · Today 16:18

Im more shocked that council staff are making decisions on whether someone qualifies for a BB or not, at least thats how im reading the posts.

Ive Just been awarded a BB and although I applied to the council I had to go for a clinical assessment at a hospital, maybe its different in Scotland?

DH applied for his blue badge to be renewed and was told he had to go to an assessment in another town. He couldnt travel that far and the council told him there was no alternative so tough shit basically. So he just went without i This was about 13/14 years ago. He gave up driving at the beginning of 2020 He has COPD and ischemic heart disease as well as arthritis.

DoubleBusy2026 · Today 17:55

LadyGardenersQuestionTime · Yesterday 19:44

It’s very unusual for someone’s blue badge to be taken away and he certainly sounds as though he qualifies for one. Did something significant change? Have you considered appealing?

Blue badges have to be renewed every 3/4 years and it’s a whole new application

DoubleBusy2026 · Today 17:56

JenniferBooth · Today 17:49

DH applied for his blue badge to be renewed and was told he had to go to an assessment in another town. He couldnt travel that far and the council told him there was no alternative so tough shit basically. So he just went without i This was about 13/14 years ago. He gave up driving at the beginning of 2020 He has COPD and ischemic heart disease as well as arthritis.

I never had to go for any assessment, I just had to provide proof of my PIP

Ponderingwindow · Today 17:57

Our supermarket has parent spaces and separate senior spaces. It gets a bit silly. All are courtesy spaces that are not enforceable. People seem to forget that the space creation is a marketing strategy.

I don’t use the spaces. I prefer to park at the back and walk in unless the weather is truly awful.

forgot my point, to ahead and park there. He needs a close spot and the store wants his business.

DoubleBusy2026 · Today 17:58

Sirzy · Today 16:54

Those who get enough points in the right area of PIP get one automatically. Otherwise you apply to the council and provide evidence and they decide if they are going to be accepted or not, some may be called for an assessment but not everyone.

interestingly DS has just moved to PIP and now gets too MANY points to automatically qualify for blue badge 🤦‍♀️

This is not the case in every area, some areas they don’t take PIP into account at all. It varies quite a lot

Sirzy · Today 18:01

DoubleBusy2026 · Today 17:58

This is not the case in every area, some areas they don’t take PIP into account at all. It varies quite a lot

I thought legally things like planning a journey 10 points led to a badge? Ds gets 12 so is somehow too disabled?

Yetone · Today 18:11

Ponderingwindow · Today 17:57

Our supermarket has parent spaces and separate senior spaces. It gets a bit silly. All are courtesy spaces that are not enforceable. People seem to forget that the space creation is a marketing strategy.

I don’t use the spaces. I prefer to park at the back and walk in unless the weather is truly awful.

forgot my point, to ahead and park there. He needs a close spot and the store wants his business.

Edited

But actually the store doesn’t want most old people’s business. Especially if they spend a long time in the store and don’t spend very much. Really, I used to know a manger of a large supermarket. Families are their best and most favoured customers. Customers with young children will be good customers for a long time.

JJWT · Today 18:18

humptydumptyfelloff · Yesterday 19:15

Ok il bite.

wtf are you doing encouraging a 93 year old with body issues and disabilities to still
drive

The blue badge is not connected to the disabled person driving! Its for use in any car giving them a lift too. Does a wheelchair bound six year old with a blue badge drive??! OP mentions taking him shopping.

Jacqueline2456 · Today 18:54

As a parent with two children under 1 1/2 the parent and child spaces are full of blue badge holder anyhow!
I wish the parent and child spaces were at the furthest end of the car park with a nice path. People wouldn’t probably abuse them then and I wouldn’t have to squeeze to get car seats in and out.

saraclara · Today 18:59

You can let him out at the entrance, park anywhere and pick him up again at the entrance or collection point if he's not driving.

That wouldn't have worked for my MIL at all. Her Alzheimer's would have meant that she couldn't have been left alone, and she needed significant help to get it of the car, as her brain was not capable of telling her what to do with her legs in order to get in and out. We couldn't 'drop her' anywhere.

PetuniaT · Today 19:13

emuloc · Yesterday 19:17

Who said that he is driving? He can use the BB in any car, as it is assigned to him. I do believe that the OP is driving him around.

..and probably using it when he's not in the car. The BB system is abused by family just like the Motability scheme was.

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