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Ireallycantthinkofagoodone · Yesterday 19:11

I recently attempted to renew a blue badge for an elderly (93 year old) relative. Despite him needing to use a walking frame or sticks, having had several falls, having stiff and painful joints, and a bit of confusion, he has been refused a blue badge.

I have lived in an area that had a ‘brown badge’ scheme, which were given to anyone over a certain age - I think it was 70 or 75. Now, not everyone needs to secure a space near to store entrances - I’m late 70’s myself and regularly walk 8-10k a day, but many people do need this, as they can’t confidently walk too far.

But aside from blue badge spaces, the only other close ones are parent and baby spaces. Why? I don’t understand why the latter can’t be further away, and wide enough to access car seats.

If my 93 year old relative is no longer entitled to a blue badge, I feel the only option is to park in a so called baby space, so that I can encourage his ongoing independence in choosing his food shopping. He just wouldn’t go if I couldn’t assist.

AIBU - Elderly people don’t need consideration in supermarket car parks

AINBU - If blue badges are being heavily restricted now, spaces in car parks should be set aside for the elderly, and parent/baby spaces moved further away.

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ToadRage · Yesterday 21:29

I have a blue badge as I am physically disabled but I can't understand why an elderly man with mobility issues would not be entitled to one, that is crazy. Tbh if there are no available disabled bays my husband and i have been known to park in a parent and child bay. We display my badge clearly and if one is around we let a parking attendant know and they have alwaysjways been fine about it. My husband has been mistaken for my Dad on a number of occasions despite only being 5 years older than me.

WhatsItAllForAnyway · Yesterday 21:44

Just use the parent and child spaces while you challenge the blue badge rejection.

TheFifthTellytubby · Yesterday 21:54

There was a report on our local news about a man with a leg amputation whose application to renew his blue badge was refused. The council's excuse was that he hadn't supplied sufficient "proof" that he needed it, despite having to use a prosthetic foot and walking aids. And they were very quick to point out that they were "following national guidelines" - otherwise known as passing the buck. Local councils always claim to be short of cash, but are happy to waste it on re-assessing blue badge applications from people who are never going to get any better. At any rate, I've never heard of someone with a temporary disability even being awarded a blue badge in the first place, so don't see the logic in their insisting that all renewals need to be treated as new applications. In the case mentioned above, it's not as though the poor chap's leg is going to miraculously grow back, is it?

nuttymut · Yesterday 22:05

My mother who’s 91 has a BB due to her being wheelchair bound . She doesn’t drive but Im her carer . I need a wider space to get her wheelchair alongside the car for access . If the BB spaces are full , I park at the entrance and get her out of the car and into the wheelchair, often causing a traffic hold up . I go off to park and meet her at the entrance and do everything in reverse when we’ve finished . It’s not ideal bit I wouldn’t park in a P&C space .

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · Yesterday 22:07

emuloc · Yesterday 21:21

Many disabled people have a BB, who cannot, or do not drive for whatever reason. You don't have to drive to be eligible for one, and if you read the OP, you would have read that he did have a BB, but for some reason it was not renewed by the LA, and should be appealed.

I cannot believe how many idiots people on this thread either can't read or are not capable of employing some critical thinking but still assume they know better.

Its quite the worry.

Ohhelpwhatnow · Yesterday 22:12

ILoveKits · Yesterday 19:55

It's cumulative. The far end of our carparks are about 800m. The elderly can do the store but not both. Also the additional space between cars helps them to get in and out if they are stiff, achy or need aids. The store is warm and dry; the car park may be slippery underfoot, if it's raining they struggle with a stick(s) and an umbrella.

Also getting out to shop is a social construct. Chosing, chatting to the cashier, bumping into an acquaintance, having a cup of tea and a cake in the cafe.

Edited

Well said. The argument 'if you can do x you can do y' often misses the point and works against disabled people.

Nsky62 · Yesterday 22:13

ToddlersAreBananas · Yesterday 19:30

No, these spaces are for p&c and there's never enough of them. Please don't use them and get the blue/brown badge sorted.

That’s unreasonable, an able adult, should be able to park on an end space, life is easier with kids than being disabled

WhatsItAllForAnyway · Yesterday 22:15

nuttymut · Yesterday 22:05

My mother who’s 91 has a BB due to her being wheelchair bound . She doesn’t drive but Im her carer . I need a wider space to get her wheelchair alongside the car for access . If the BB spaces are full , I park at the entrance and get her out of the car and into the wheelchair, often causing a traffic hold up . I go off to park and meet her at the entrance and do everything in reverse when we’ve finished . It’s not ideal bit I wouldn’t park in a P&C space .

For the amount of time that would have taken, it would be better to park in the parent and child space, unload your mother, then move yourself elsewhere. People who hold up the traffic in car parks, especially for how long that would have taken, are really annoying.

lanthanum · Yesterday 22:20

The best arrangement I've seen for P&C spaces had them round the back of the store, so not near the door, but no crossing traffic between the spaces and the supermarket door.
I think our local supermarket has a couple of benches near a drop-off layby immediately outside the front, making it an easy option to drop off a physically disabled adult and then go and park further away.

Yetone · Yesterday 22:25

Nsky62 · Yesterday 22:13

That’s unreasonable, an able adult, should be able to park on an end space, life is easier with kids than being disabled

End spaces are not always available. People are debating here if you can be charged for parking in P and C spaces. As I said previously, supermarket car parking is usually on their land and they make the rules. The usual public car parking/ road parking rules do not apply. Sometimes these supermarket car parks are managed by private companies. They can send you a fine in the post if you don’t go by their rules. Yes this can be if you have incorrectly used a P and C space.

Ponoka7 · Yesterday 22:26

Nearly50omg · Yesterday 21:05

If he’s confused and doddery then he doesn’t need to be taken shopping does he!

Do you think that disabled people don't need to be taken shopping either? What about days out? Perhaps just reopen the institutions for disabled children. Why wouldn't someone still want to be involved in running their house.
@Catapultaway if the supermarket is on a retail park, it can easily be half a mile. Ours is a third of a mile (just looked it up). Walking using the trolley as a walking aid, inside is a lot easier. Then there's the wheelchairs.

@Ireallycantthinkofagoodone as said, challenge the decision, take over the application.

ThePieceHall · Yesterday 22:34

Nearly50omg · Yesterday 21:05

If he’s confused and doddery then he doesn’t need to be taken shopping does he!

I imagine that Dignitas will be mentioned in your next posting.

BirdLandedonmyHead · Yesterday 22:39

Ive had two childten under 2, and a patent with a wheelchajr who isnt disabled enough for aBlue Badge.

It was a hell of a lot easier to get the baby/toddlers out of the car and into a shop from a normal space than it is with the wheelchair user.

Livelovebehappy · Yesterday 22:44

In supermarket car parks the disabled parking spaces never seem to be policed. I’m pretty sure if your elderly friend parked there without a blue badge he would be absolutely fine. I doubt that staff are going to get into a confrontation. Tbh they seem to just allow people to pinch things and walk out without being challenged, so I’m sure a 93 year old parking in a disabled spot without a badge isn’t going to be confronted. That’s the least of their worries.

remotescontrol · Yesterday 23:20

Mumof2wifeof1crazytimes · Yesterday 19:40

It is for those over 65 and meet the eligibility requirements. Not all councils offer these so not well known.

But what do they do? There are no brown badge spaces, so what is the brown badge for?

Mumof2wifeof1crazytimes · Yesterday 23:32

remotescontrol · Yesterday 23:20

But what do they do? There are no brown badge spaces, so what is the brown badge for?

Works the same as blue badge parking spaces, closer to amenities in city centres. I don’t much about these, I just noticed it was something when I was trying to argue my mums point when she was refused a blue badge. These are not a thing in the city I live in.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · Yesterday 23:48

BlueFlyCheetah · Yesterday 20:36

and what happens if the elderly person is confused and wanders off or falls over before you can get back with the car?

Exactly
There might be nowhere to sit .
They might get stressed and try and find the driver .
Other pedestrians walking about looking at their phones not their surroundings are a massive hazard .
They might get bumped into.
They might be robbed .

PigletJohn · Today 00:07

Createausername1970 · Yesterday 19:26

You are not being unreasonable, your relative sounds like he could benefit from a wider space to allow you to open the door wide to allow him to get in and out.

What I am about to say will no doubt get me flamed. My understanding of disabled spaces in supermarket car parks is that they are not just for blue badge holders - unless it specifically says so - as it's private land.

A lot of supermarkets use blue branding and signage, but unless it clearly says blue badge holders only then you don't need one to park there. I have used them in the past when my husband broke his knee and was in a leg brace /on crutches for a month or so. No-one said anything, and from my point of view it might only have been a temporary condition, but the wider spaces were needed at that time. Once he was mobile again we parked in the wider car park

I can't imagine anyone would bat an eyelid about an obviously frail older person, using walking aids making use of the spaces. Your relative sounds to me like the person they were designed to assist.

Edited

You say it is private land, so surely the owners are allowed to impose whatever restrictions they like.

My garden is private land. I do not give you permission to park on it.

ThePieceHall · Today 00:19

Brown Badges are relevant to TWO local authorities in the whole of the country. And they are both in Greater London. It’s a nebulous discussion.

seahorsessky · Today 00:25

We do need a better system. Anyone in pain, including temporary issues such as a 6 week recovery from an operation, should be allowed closer parking spaces, and I know sometimes people are perfectly safe to drive, but in agony when they walk (eg left leg injury but drives an automatic). Older, frail people are often scared to use public transport, and seeing how kids harass them on the bus, I don't blame them.
But as you say OP, some people in their seventies regularly jog, so an age pass alone isn't sensible. And reading how many parents on here get priority passes/things for their kids when they admit they don't really need them, e can't just rely on people being decent.

5foot5 · Today 00:33

There was a story in The Times one day this week of a 70-something guy with one leg who uses a wheelchair. He had a blue badge but needed to reapply, because the blue badge needs to be renewed at intervals. He was turned down.

Apparently someone who had interviewed him had commented that there are people with one leg who run marathons. Probably not people who have had a leg amputated above the knee in their 70s!

Ireallycantthinkofagoodone · Today 02:09

@Nearly50omg - I hope people don’t treat you in that way when you are older!

I think it’s very important to support and enable people to do as much as they are able and willing to do, at whatever age. Yes, I could do his shopping, or help him to do it online, but he likes to see the vegetables, and the fish, and I think that deserves to be encouraged.

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nomas · Today 02:15

Ireallycantthinkofagoodone · Today 02:09

@Nearly50omg - I hope people don’t treat you in that way when you are older!

I think it’s very important to support and enable people to do as much as they are able and willing to do, at whatever age. Yes, I could do his shopping, or help him to do it online, but he likes to see the vegetables, and the fish, and I think that deserves to be encouraged.

You absolutely should use the P&C bay for him.

Just make sure the parking sign doesn’t say that there is a charge if there isn’t a child in the car. (Unlikely).

nomas · Today 02:17

seahorsessky · Today 00:25

We do need a better system. Anyone in pain, including temporary issues such as a 6 week recovery from an operation, should be allowed closer parking spaces, and I know sometimes people are perfectly safe to drive, but in agony when they walk (eg left leg injury but drives an automatic). Older, frail people are often scared to use public transport, and seeing how kids harass them on the bus, I don't blame them.
But as you say OP, some people in their seventies regularly jog, so an age pass alone isn't sensible. And reading how many parents on here get priority passes/things for their kids when they admit they don't really need them, e can't just rely on people being decent.

They should just use the P&C bays if they have a genuine need.

Ireallycantthinkofagoodone · Today 02:19

@remotescontrol - an area where I used to live did indeed have brown badge spaces in some car parks, and they were for people over a certain age. Not too sure of all the rules etc., as it didn’t apply to me at the time.

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