Help! DH having general anaesthetic. Friend dreamt he died!

Anaesthetic is very, very safe and deaths are rare. When things do go wrong, that is more likely the more dangerous and complicated the surgery, the older the patient is and the poorer their health is. Your husband will be fine. I would go ahead and get the benefits of the surgery. Dreams mean all sorts of things but hardly ever that the thing you dreamed actually happens! I'd be married to all sorts of weird people by now if it did 😄

Last night I dreamed I was being chased around the bathroom by an out of control shower head. The real shower behaved in a perfectly normal manner this morning. Dreams are weird but thankfully not premonitions.

I have had 2 dreams where I was married to Donald Trump. Nightmares yes but so far he’s still married to Melania and I’m still single 😂

Oh I’m sorry OP, I can see why this has upset you and made you worried. I’m inclined to believe in “signs” but as awful as this was, I don’t believe a sign would come in this way. It could mean that this friend felt instinctively that your husband was going to be going through something major, particularly if there was a time that they were close. Signs are very rarely literal in the sense of dreaming that someone’s died and then they do, but it could just point to a shared connection that your husband has with this friend and perhaps they’re connected on a higher plane. I know not everybody will believe in this and I do understand why, but I just wanted to offer this opinion in case it gave you some comfort.

I Constantly dream that I am drunk. I am a teetotaler

Scientifically speaking, dreams are a form of mental processing. Fears, big decisions, sometimes fantasies, anything that is very present in our conscious or subconscious mind, good or bad, often makes its way into dreams in some way.

So all this means is that it is on the mind your dh's friend, probably a very clumsy way of caring about him. It's only a reflection of what is going on in his friend's mind, nothing more than that.

General anaesthetic risk is tiny. You’re probably more likely to have a fatal car crash driving to the hospital. And if there’s any chance your husband might have something that isn’t benign, the risk associated with that is also likely to be far higher.

I’ve had four general anaesthetics in the last year and don’t even recall being consented for risk of death from the anaesthetic.

I think you need therapy if I’m honest

https://www.buzzfeed.com/asiawmclain/17-people-share-the-premonitions-they-had-that-came-true

The Famous "Documented" Cases
While not scientifically proven, there are well-documented historical archives where researchers tracked dream claims. The most rigorous attempt to study this was The Premonitions Bureau, established in 1967 by British psychiatrist Dr. John Barker. Following the 1966 Aberfan landslide disaster in Wales—where a coal waste tip collapsed and buried a school—Barker collected reports from across the country. src="https://www.youtube-nocookie.com/embed/UDX5oDxd5C0" frameborder="0" allow="accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture" allowfullscreen> 1, 2]
He discovered that several people had reported highly specific, chilling dreams of the disaster before it happened. For example:
The Aberfan Disaster: A young victim named Eryl Mai Jones reportedly told her mother the day before the disaster that she had dreamed of a "black mass" coming over her school.
Robert F. Kennedy's Assassination: A music teacher named Kathleen Middleton submitted multiple written and phoned-in warnings to the Premonitions Bureau in the months and days leading up to June 1968, urgently dreaming about Senator Kennedy's impending assassination. He was shot on June 5, 1968.
The Titanic Sinking: In 1912, multiple individuals claimed to have mailed letters or told family members about consecutive nightmares involving a massive passenger ship floating upside down in the sea just days before the Titanic sank. 1, 2, 3]

Unless the friend is prone to prophesying it's just crap timing that's made you spiral. Would you have worried if you'd learned about it after the op?

When I came round from GA a couple of years ago I heard the nurses in recovery discussing which local firm of undertakers was best. I was worried for a minute but I'm still here

Explaining it like that, in terms of people in a space that you can visualise like a stadium or airport, makes the risk seem greater, not smaller! It sounds less scary in the abstract.

OP, your friend dreamed your DH had died. This is not a prediction. It will be based on your friend's subconscious making some connection or other that's probably very obscure, and serving it up as a dream.

People remember occasional dreams that have an echo in real life precisely because they are rare and coincidental. Think of the thousands of dreams a person has in their life that are completely meaningless in terms of predictions.

However, if you are determined to believe it's a premonition, bluntly, there's not much you can do about it. Cancelling or postponing an operation doesn't eliminate the possibility of death. If you look at films with this sort of premise, it usually goes along the lines of the person thinks they're going to die so they avoid a planned risky activity only to die in some other freak accident.

Why? It's a huge number of people in a huge space. And just one random person, not the single bloke that shares her sofa, as it's impossible to personally know 100k people.

Friend was a little dickish in bringing it up - however im assuming your DP knows you and knows you struggle with anxiety so we he was being very unreasonable in bringing it up knowing it would trigger you

Why did they suggest you need therapy? Because this should be unsettling at best. Dreams aren’t prophesies. This shouldn’t freak you out. And the stats you quote show this procedure to be very safe. You sound like you’re prone to extreme anxiety and catastrophising.

Because it turns abstract numbers into a familiar image.

Because this is not normal, do you have a habit for this?

Hahahahahahaaaa

The therapy isn’t for this particular instance, it’s to retrain your brain not to process information in the way it currently does