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To expect people ill with Covid stay home?

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LakelandHiker · 12/10/2026 18:09

This week, my manager and a friend who goes to my exercise class are ill with Covid. I don't know if they've tested, but they've both said they have it. However one is still coming into the office and the other still attending the exercise class. AIBU or overreacting here... but why don't they stay home until clear? Even if 'feeling 95% better' wouldn't you wait until potentially exposing others? I can't help but feel mad at them both for being so selfish. I often look after an elderly relative and can't risk passing Covid on to her as she is frail. I get life can't be on pause forever but my manager can get paid sick leave and my friend can miss a class, it isn't like there's anything at stake...

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Greedybilly · 13/10/2026 22:48

It's a crazy world where
people are too frightened to be off ( as will lose money)
but then people like me ( who caught covid off a clearly sick collegue who could and should have stayed home ) had to give up work and now claims benefits.( like many thousands with Long Covid)
I'm not an economist but that makes no sense for the country does it?
Not paying sick pay is such a false economy ( and I hate the macho work culture around this)
Also it's f*cking horrible being stuck at home all day with no cure in sight but that's a different thread.

PeasOff · 13/10/2026 22:49

ExpectMore · 13/10/2026 22:46

I answered you, or another poster, previously.

Not me. You said it was self explanatory to me and then didn't respond to me challenging this.

Can you remind me of your answer please?

XenoBitch · 13/10/2026 22:53

ExpectMore · 13/10/2026 22:44

Why didn’t you say no and self declare as being unwell?

I did.
I had to deal with this for half the day otherwise it would have been counted as sickness.

ExpectMore · 13/10/2026 22:57

XenoBitch · 13/10/2026 22:53

I did.
I had to deal with this for half the day otherwise it would have been counted as sickness.

Presumably it’s ok for it to have been counted as success as… it was sickness?!

XenoBitch · 13/10/2026 22:58

ExpectMore · 13/10/2026 22:57

Presumably it’s ok for it to have been counted as success as… it was sickness?!

I still had to deal with feeling like death and expected to work... I literally could not.

mumatlast14 · 13/10/2026 23:01

Covid isnt "just a cold'. Keep catching it at your peril. Initial infection may seem mild but the risk of long covid, brain damage, blood clots, heart damage, etc isnt. At some point the ever increasing numbers of disabled and those unable to work might just make the penny drop. Stay home if sick, wear an FFP3 or FFP2 mask to prevent spreading it or to protect yourself from others. There are many many global studies proving this. But hey it took 50 years for NHS & Gov to admit to causing the blood scandal. Not to mention originally encouraging smoking for lung health and thalidomide drugs in pregnancy. Don't expect quick acknowledgement that catching covid is a bad idea anytime soon - they can't afford the payouts.

FunPartyIdeas · 13/10/2026 23:02

@ExpectMore A negative cash flow on a property you rent out?! Clearly economics and managing money isn't your forté?
Unless you are letting it out to tenants for a cheap price and taking the hit out of the goodness of your own heart?

ExpectMore · 13/10/2026 23:13

XenoBitch · 13/10/2026 22:58

I still had to deal with feeling like death and expected to work... I literally could not.

That’s poor. Well done for saying no and standing up for yourself.

ExpectMore · 13/10/2026 23:14

FunPartyIdeas · 13/10/2026 23:02

@ExpectMore A negative cash flow on a property you rent out?! Clearly economics and managing money isn't your forté?
Unless you are letting it out to tenants for a cheap price and taking the hit out of the goodness of your own heart?

I repeat, Landlords aren’t coining it in…. Despite what you may wish to believe.

edited to add: per my previous post, I could charge them c£300/month more but choose not to as it’s not worth it given they’re good tenants.

FunPartyIdeas · 13/10/2026 23:17

@ExpectMore So sell it then.

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FunPartyIdeas · 13/10/2026 23:33

@ExpectMore Rude as well as arrogant I see.
Anyway, best you go to bed - I imagine it will be an early start tomorrow with your little ones keeping you busy.

popdepop · 13/10/2026 23:40

My understanding is Covid is BAU now. My son currently has it, as does his dad. They tested. I have cough and headache and assume I’m getting it or have it. I’m fine to work and going about life, as per government advice, unless I’ve missed something?

ExpectMore · 13/10/2026 23:51

FunPartyIdeas · 13/10/2026 23:33

@ExpectMore Rude as well as arrogant I see.
Anyway, best you go to bed - I imagine it will be an early start tomorrow with your little ones keeping you busy.

Edited

I’m ok thanks. I’ll probably have a little lie-in as we’ve some live-in help staying with us for a bit.

Sleep well mind, I suspect your brain is a little tired after all this trying to keep up

Missbeeintheplace · 13/10/2026 23:53

Agreed. Covid has ruined my life, I have long covid and now me/cfs due to it. Often housebound or bedbound and people out there not giving a care in the world about spreading it 😔 x

Missbeeintheplace · 13/10/2026 23:55

Agreed. Thank you for caring about others. Covid has ruined my life, I have long covid and now me/cfs due to it. Often housebound or bedbound and maybe soon to lose my job and people out there not giving a care in the world about spreading it 😔 xx

Missbeeintheplace · 13/10/2026 23:57

As someone disabled my this. Thank you! 🩵🩵🩵🩵

JenniferBooth · 14/10/2026 00:00

Well back in 2020 it sure wasnt those on low incomes who kept going on ski trips to affected regions What short memories some do have.

Just sayin!!!!!!!

FunPartyIdeas · 14/10/2026 00:02

@ExpectMore Oh I'm fine -.the live-in nanny gets up all of my five children too, even when I'm off work.
Not that you're entitled 😀
Why parent when someone else can do it for you?

ExpectMore · 14/10/2026 00:05

FunPartyIdeas · 14/10/2026 00:02

@ExpectMore Oh I'm fine -.the live-in nanny gets up all of my five children too, even when I'm off work.
Not that you're entitled 😀
Why parent when someone else can do it for you?

Edited

Entitled? No, not one bit. I know I’m not entitled to anything I can’t fund myself. Unlike many on here

FunPartyIdeas · 14/10/2026 00:08

@ExpectMore You're on the wind-up now! Live-in help but off work on "parental leave" for six weeks!! 😄 🤣 😂 😆

ExpectMore · 14/10/2026 00:21

FunPartyIdeas · 14/10/2026 00:08

@ExpectMore You're on the wind-up now! Live-in help but off work on "parental leave" for six weeks!! 😄 🤣 😂 😆

Well what’s the point taking the leave just to spend it running around doing life admin and not actually enjoying time with the kids? That would make zero sense

ThisBlueLemur · 14/10/2026 02:18

Our society is just horribly individualistic and selfish. I have chronic fatigue from long covid and there is no way I would want to cause that for anyone else. This week I have a throat infection and I am putting on a mask when I go out. In countries like Japan this is just expected if you are sick; it's part of being a good neighbour and citizen. Whether it is covid or something else, if you are contagious you should always either stay home or wear a mask to protect others. It is just common decency and kindness to those who are more vulnerable.

Pir · 14/10/2026 02:51

mumatlast14 · 13/10/2026 23:01

Covid isnt "just a cold'. Keep catching it at your peril. Initial infection may seem mild but the risk of long covid, brain damage, blood clots, heart damage, etc isnt. At some point the ever increasing numbers of disabled and those unable to work might just make the penny drop. Stay home if sick, wear an FFP3 or FFP2 mask to prevent spreading it or to protect yourself from others. There are many many global studies proving this. But hey it took 50 years for NHS & Gov to admit to causing the blood scandal. Not to mention originally encouraging smoking for lung health and thalidomide drugs in pregnancy. Don't expect quick acknowledgement that catching covid is a bad idea anytime soon - they can't afford the payouts.

It’s almost too strange that long covid is missing from political conversations about increased sickness levels and those no longer able to work given the figures are available. The impact on children isn’t mentioned either. There are hundreds of thousands of studies now.

Vse500 · 14/10/2026 05:15

HappyLizard23 · 12/10/2026 18:14

YABU, stay at home is no longer required and most workplaces will expect people in if they have a cold (which Covid is a variant of).
edit; also who is testing these days?! I just assume I have a cold and go about my life

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People with long term conditions can test, as they are eligible for treatment for it