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Living next to asylum seeker HMO, ask me anything

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JapanesePotWeed · 24/09/2026 20:28

As the title says. I live in a Victorian mid-terrace, wall-to-wall, garden-to-garden with an asylum seeker dispersal HMO. They were moved in nearly two years ago, replacing a multi-generation family that were living there before.
There is another HMO directly opposite my house, where asylum seekers get rooms once they are approved to remain but don't have an income to support themselves.

Not AIBU but more like AMA. I'm wondering what people would ask me if they really could ask anything. Does anyone actually want to know what it is like? I hear a lot of political point scoring in the media regarding this topic but no one actually talks to people like me!

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EarthlyNightshade · 25/09/2026 09:05

OP, this is an interesting thread and you have managed to discuss the (many!) negatives without resorting to hyperbole.
You clearly see the people as people, and that is great.

I don't know the answers to any of this but I have found your responses very thought provoking.

Lucyslocket · 25/09/2026 09:08

Namechangerage · 25/09/2026 08:51

I actually met the landlord doing this in my street as he was sussing out the property after purchase. I asked him why he was doing this to our road as there was so much antisocial behaviour etc and he just shrugged :(

😮

Winter2020 · 25/09/2026 09:08

MixedBananas · 25/09/2026 06:12

Do you welcome them. Kind to them? A lot come from very disturbing situations bwxk home and need welcoming. I cwn not even beging to atart to relate or have a clue what horrora they lived through. Families they have witness die etc etc. I hope they are welcomed and make the best life for themselves.

Perhaps you could buy OPs house and welcome them?

If you can't move house - work, kids etc why not invite a few to live with you and put your money where your mouth is?
https://refugeesathome.org/
You can help them make the best life for themselves.
Or is it just other people that should welcome them?

Homepage - Refugees at Home

Homepage - Refugees at Home

https://refugeesathome.org

LakieLady · 25/09/2026 09:13

DownToTheGround · 25/09/2026 09:04

But how would you stop landlords renting their HMO to the council and if that were the case where would the people you talk of live?

Councils had so many budget cuts and had to make so many saving under the Conservative government, that properties were sold. Councils cannot afford to reinstate these either as council housing or council facilities. Government departments the same. Private venture steps in because of the gaps left. (Same in alternative provision, residential children’s care, care homes). Massive costs to the tax payer because their is not enough publically owned provision to meet demand.

And taking leases on properties owned by private landlords, whether HMOs or ordinary flats and houses, is much cheaper for councils than putting people in hotels/B&Bs.

I know of at least 2 councils that do this in my area; they take a 3-year lease and the owners like it because the income is guaranteed, the councils bear much of the maintenance cost and undertake to hand the properties back in the same condition they got them in.

The bit that got me was how often the properties they lease were former council properties that had been bought by tenants under RTB and subsequently sold on. The councils were paying landlords to house tenants in properties that the council used to own...

Capillaryaction · 25/09/2026 09:14

I have asylum seekers who live in a group home on my college course this year.
Funded by the govt.

nomas · 25/09/2026 09:15

Maomee · 25/09/2026 08:01

Yes absolutely. I work with migrants of all kinds so can confirm first hand that there are cases where both people waiting to be accepted as asylum seekers and those whose claims have been processed receive UC. I think it's simply the case that as it's the benefit that most access then the extra few who don't have means of support but aren't entitled to it van also claim because the local councils don't want to develop long term homeless populations. So this is why we often see the tents spring up, people will arrive in the UK by any route, pose as homeless and be fast tracked into housing and a UC income. It may not align with policy but it is definitely what we see regularly.

Saying ‘absolutely’ does not make a lie a fact.

Or you’re doing your job wrong.

whereswilliam · 25/09/2026 09:16

Do you live opposite a school?

Lucyslocket · 25/09/2026 09:17

MixedBananas · 25/09/2026 06:17

These refugee men wouldn't be here if it was not for British invading and raping and medling in other countries business. You reap what you sow.
My HD uncle was in the army and he said where British forces are present currently. Places we are not told in the public. So we need to look at our government and tell them to wothdraw and comoensate abroad so these families can rebuild their lives.
Don't wwnt them here sropp fing up their country and stealing thwir reaources etc etc, etc.

There are no British Forces in Iran, Eritrea, Sudan or Somalia and never have been. British Forces left Pakistan in 1947.(Those countries make up the majority of refugees to UK BTW)
Your post is arrant nonsense.

5MinuteArgument · 25/09/2026 09:20

JapanesePotWeed · 24/09/2026 20:45

The ones who stay go to courses. A lot of courses. Some go to English lessons and of course barbering is popular. Some do shifts in takeaways. All complain about the shared accommodation and hope to get a house/flat.

They hope to get a house or flat. All provided by the ever-generous local council or housing association, funded by the taxpayer. Great.

Winter2020 · 25/09/2026 09:20

poetryandwine · 25/09/2026 07:16

No, asylum seekers cannot but refugees can as discussed upthread.

Certain right wing politicians callbthe minimal stipend provid to adylum seekers a ‘benefit’. That amount is £49 plus change weekly for those who must provide their own food, and just under £10 weekly for those in accommodation providing food (of a kind).

Obviously tbere are no housing or utility bills, as OP says, but phones and phone contracts are not provided by HMG. All expenses including phones, food (if not provided), toiletries, transport and clothing must come out of this allowance or illegal earnings, as very, very few asylum seekers are allowed to work.

I would be very willing to bet that an asylum seeker getting free housing, utility bills and council tax paid has more disposable cash (whether that is £10 after food or £49 including food) each week than a single British person on universal credit.

A google tells me a single person under 25 gets £338.58 a month (and has to pay their utility bills from that as well as all the other things you have mentioned - food, toiletaries, a phone).
A single person over 25 gets 424.90 (and again has to pay their bills).

I think the asylum seeker would have more money and at least they will be warm, dry (under a maintained roof) - and if food provided fed - if food not provided able to use their oven as the bills are paid.

Lifelover16 · 25/09/2026 09:23

Lucyslocket · 25/09/2026 09:17

There are no British Forces in Iran, Eritrea, Sudan or Somalia and never have been. British Forces left Pakistan in 1947.(Those countries make up the majority of refugees to UK BTW)
Your post is arrant nonsense.

Edited

And the migrants all seem to have come from France or via other European countries where there are no wars.

Lucyslocket · 25/09/2026 09:24

Winter2020 · 25/09/2026 09:20

I would be very willing to bet that an asylum seeker getting free housing, utility bills and council tax paid has more disposable cash (whether that is £10 after food or £49 including food) each week than a single British person on universal credit.

A google tells me a single person under 25 gets £338.58 a month (and has to pay their utility bills from that as well as all the other things you have mentioned - food, toiletaries, a phone).
A single person over 25 gets 424.90 (and again has to pay their bills).

I think the asylum seeker would have more money and at least they will be warm, dry (under a maintained roof) - and if food provided fed - if food not provided able to use their oven as the bills are paid.

In this area they use the local food bank.
It's only open 3 days a week now because they can't get volunteers to staff it and deal with these rude entitled, grabby, people.

thebabessavedme · 25/09/2026 09:26

As an aside OP, fit a couple of bolts to your loft hatch as a safety measure.

Winter2020 · 25/09/2026 09:26

poetryandwine · 25/09/2026 07:37

There are currently fewer than 90,000 asylum seekers on the UK with its population of
69,600,000. In a group of 1000 people who live in the UK, only 12 would be asylum seekers.

Asylum seekers are too concentrated in a few places. That’s wrong, and Burnham is the first PM from either party to attempt to disperse them properly. We shall see. Possibly in these places they do challege public services. Hopefully that will ease.

But 12 people in 1000 is not enough overall to clog up the services you mentioned.

Are you confusing asylum seekers and refugees? The total is still well under 1% of the population. The NHS is badly overstretched, but these numbers do not explain it.

I think your maths is wrong.
12 in 1000 is 1.2%.

Jonesmaximus · 25/09/2026 09:32

DownToTheGround · 25/09/2026 08:13

Goodness, you know your HMO neighbours well, you must talk to them loads and have fantastic relationships in place, to be sharing so much information.

I don’t know that much about my neighbours of 25 years.

This surprised me too, OP originally states she hardly speaks to them, but knows a lot of personal info. I did wonder was this a thinly veiled anti asylum seeker thread.

roxyro · 25/09/2026 09:34

JapanesePotWeed · 25/09/2026 01:41

OMG,yes. It is just like my street. Can't even get the police to come out in 999 situations - they hear the street name and just glaze over. And it used to be a nice street with families, a chapel and a small primary school!

On the positive side - if you want to do anything bad, you can have your fill because NO ONE would complain. Could blast music all night, deal and do drugs, dump your white goods in the street, buy an XL Bully, go out stark naked, climb all the fences in the gardens, remove your front door, can have a disposable BBQ in July and break hose pipe bans - NO ONE will notice or judge or Mumsnet report anything!
Can't beat them - join them! That's my option C on the list 😂

Handhold.

I feel your pain. I bought a Victorian terrace house in 2008. I'm in the Midlands. On the edge of an area known as drug dealing etc but ok. Very quiet, clean and mostly populated by retired people who'd probably paid about 2k (if that) when they originally bought the houses. Then came the credit crunch, people dying, relatives selling house off cheap to landlords and it became a shit hole.

It really opened my eyes and I couldn't wait to get out but was in negative equity and had to wait until the property market recovered. The first HMO's were full of Polish guys but gradually it changed and we'd have Africans, Pakistanis, various Middle Eastern types. The ones renting whole houses as families weren't too bad unless it was the Roma as they moved in en masse. My neighbour let her house to one of the Roma, young couple with two kids and I cried when I found out. It was awful. Having to hear him beating her up in front of his father, him standing in front of me outlining his dick through his trousers (Think he thought single woman must be frustrated), They were, at least very clean. Young wife, about 19, used to clean and scrub all day, every day.

The other ones think nothing of throwing all sorts of rubbish into the street. Literally fridges, washing machines, sofas. Pull up in cars and empty overflowing ashtrays in piles in the middle of the pavement (yes pavement, not gutter) and throw rotting food, takeaway cartons etc out the door or car. It was truly like living in the middle of a rubbish dump.

I managed to move out just before the covid lockdown and have never been so thankful. I used to send pictures to the council and they'd send street cleaners but nothing ever done to stop the filthy habits, yet my son, 17 at the time, working long hours, stood waiting for bus and dropped cigarette butt. Fined £75. Personally I'd have told them to f.... off but he's not that type.

Regardless of what anyone says there is two tier justice in the UK. This will probably get deleted as some just don't want to hear the facts.

5MinuteArgument · 25/09/2026 09:35

MixedBananas · 25/09/2026 06:12

Do you welcome them. Kind to them? A lot come from very disturbing situations bwxk home and need welcoming. I cwn not even beging to atart to relate or have a clue what horrora they lived through. Families they have witness die etc etc. I hope they are welcomed and make the best life for themselves.

Yes, let's welcome them by turning parts of the UK into a complete dump.

Landlord companies are making a killing out of this. Buying up properties, usually in the poorest neighbourhoods, and turning them into HMOs for asylum seeking males. And the neighbours just have to put up with it or move out if they can afford to, which then causes further decline in the area.

EarthSight · 25/09/2026 09:35

This sounds really stressful OP, and an unsafe environment for a woman to live alone in particular.

This is why I can't stand middle-class support for all of this - they like preaching from their pulpits that everyone should be illegal immigrant or refugee friendly, but that's because they make the assumption they'll be dumped on the working classes whom they regard as scum.

Jonesmaximus · 25/09/2026 09:36

Capillaryaction · 25/09/2026 09:14

I have asylum seekers who live in a group home on my college course this year.
Funded by the govt.

Why do people add "funded by the government" after such statements? Surely people are aware that the asylum act covers such things? They can't fund rent, bills, food and english classes out of £49 per week and they aren't entitled to work or have recourse to any government funding such as student loans. I personally am more than happy that my taxes are going towards people wanting to better themselves with education. They don't have to take them, it's a choice and I'm very glad there are ones that do. There have been great stories in our city of refugees going onto postgrad education and young women who came here aged 8-10 who are now working in local government.

TallulahBetty · 25/09/2026 09:38

All men? Quelle surprise. This isn't asylum; this is an army.

FedUpCelery · 25/09/2026 09:39

MixedBananas · 25/09/2026 06:12

Do you welcome them. Kind to them? A lot come from very disturbing situations bwxk home and need welcoming. I cwn not even beging to atart to relate or have a clue what horrora they lived through. Families they have witness die etc etc. I hope they are welcomed and make the best life for themselves.

Have you read the op's posts? They are very balanced, factual and compassionate.

These people can have had terrible lives and trauma and also the way they have been housed can cause difficulties and worry to the op. Both can be true. In some cases, with a steady flow of men, the former will not always be true.

These difficulties have included being disturbed through the night by working illegally, never knowing who is next door because of the transience of the situation, worrying that someone may come through into her home through the opening between loft spaces. Being asked intrusive questions about her own status as a lone female next door. Her home being unsellable and uninsurable.

The op has described conversations with these men so I hardly think she is being unpleasant, obstructive or aggressive. She has described typing directions to the nearest Tesco into their phone. This sounds helpful to me. It is a wise strategy to be open to conversation and curious to understand their situation as it is better to know who your neighbour is.

Namechangerage · 25/09/2026 09:40

LakieLady · 25/09/2026 09:13

And taking leases on properties owned by private landlords, whether HMOs or ordinary flats and houses, is much cheaper for councils than putting people in hotels/B&Bs.

I know of at least 2 councils that do this in my area; they take a 3-year lease and the owners like it because the income is guaranteed, the councils bear much of the maintenance cost and undertake to hand the properties back in the same condition they got them in.

The bit that got me was how often the properties they lease were former council properties that had been bought by tenants under RTB and subsequently sold on. The councils were paying landlords to house tenants in properties that the council used to own...

Make it make sense 😢

Jonesmaximus · 25/09/2026 09:40

TallulahBetty · 25/09/2026 09:38

All men? Quelle surprise. This isn't asylum; this is an army.

All men, quelle surprise, because men and women are housed separately the vast majority of times in emergency accommodation HMOs.

HalzTangz · 25/09/2026 09:41

Are the residents as bad as the media make out

5MinuteArgument · 25/09/2026 09:42

roxyro · 25/09/2026 09:34

I feel your pain. I bought a Victorian terrace house in 2008. I'm in the Midlands. On the edge of an area known as drug dealing etc but ok. Very quiet, clean and mostly populated by retired people who'd probably paid about 2k (if that) when they originally bought the houses. Then came the credit crunch, people dying, relatives selling house off cheap to landlords and it became a shit hole.

It really opened my eyes and I couldn't wait to get out but was in negative equity and had to wait until the property market recovered. The first HMO's were full of Polish guys but gradually it changed and we'd have Africans, Pakistanis, various Middle Eastern types. The ones renting whole houses as families weren't too bad unless it was the Roma as they moved in en masse. My neighbour let her house to one of the Roma, young couple with two kids and I cried when I found out. It was awful. Having to hear him beating her up in front of his father, him standing in front of me outlining his dick through his trousers (Think he thought single woman must be frustrated), They were, at least very clean. Young wife, about 19, used to clean and scrub all day, every day.

The other ones think nothing of throwing all sorts of rubbish into the street. Literally fridges, washing machines, sofas. Pull up in cars and empty overflowing ashtrays in piles in the middle of the pavement (yes pavement, not gutter) and throw rotting food, takeaway cartons etc out the door or car. It was truly like living in the middle of a rubbish dump.

I managed to move out just before the covid lockdown and have never been so thankful. I used to send pictures to the council and they'd send street cleaners but nothing ever done to stop the filthy habits, yet my son, 17 at the time, working long hours, stood waiting for bus and dropped cigarette butt. Fined £75. Personally I'd have told them to f.... off but he's not that type.

Regardless of what anyone says there is two tier justice in the UK. This will probably get deleted as some just don't want to hear the facts.

Agree 100%, sounds like where I live. So many multicultural neighbourhoods are like this.

I wish the open borders / refugees welcome brigade were forced to live in places like this without the prospect of being able to move out. To live permanently in a place like this.