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Living next to asylum seeker HMO, ask me anything

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JapanesePotWeed · 24/09/2026 20:28

As the title says. I live in a Victorian mid-terrace, wall-to-wall, garden-to-garden with an asylum seeker dispersal HMO. They were moved in nearly two years ago, replacing a multi-generation family that were living there before.
There is another HMO directly opposite my house, where asylum seekers get rooms once they are approved to remain but don't have an income to support themselves.

Not AIBU but more like AMA. I'm wondering what people would ask me if they really could ask anything. Does anyone actually want to know what it is like? I hear a lot of political point scoring in the media regarding this topic but no one actually talks to people like me!

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LakieLady · 25/09/2026 09:44

Jonesmaximus · 25/09/2026 09:32

This surprised me too, OP originally states she hardly speaks to them, but knows a lot of personal info. I did wonder was this a thinly veiled anti asylum seeker thread.

I'm afraid you're wrong.

It's not "thinly veiled" at all...

Bunnyofhope · 25/09/2026 09:44

Jonesmaximus · 25/09/2026 09:40

All men, quelle surprise, because men and women are housed separately the vast majority of times in emergency accommodation HMOs.

Does anyone live next to a female occupied HMO for asylum seekers? I am in and out of these places often and have never come across one.

5MinuteArgument · 25/09/2026 09:44

EarthSight · 25/09/2026 09:35

This sounds really stressful OP, and an unsafe environment for a woman to live alone in particular.

This is why I can't stand middle-class support for all of this - they like preaching from their pulpits that everyone should be illegal immigrant or refugee friendly, but that's because they make the assumption they'll be dumped on the working classes whom they regard as scum.

Agree 1000%

That's exactly what's happening.

SevenYellowHammers · 25/09/2026 09:48

You sound like a lovely tolerant and balanced person OP. Thanks for the insight. I’m horrified by the actions of the likes of Daniel Thomas, but equally, I think a lot more care should go into settling asylum seekers more securely for the benefit of the wider community.

CremeDeMure · 25/09/2026 09:50

LakieLady · 25/09/2026 09:44

I'm afraid you're wrong.

It's not "thinly veiled" at all...

Quite.
The veil is completely and utterly absent.

dizzydizzydizzy · 25/09/2026 09:50

Bunnyofhope · 25/09/2026 09:44

Does anyone live next to a female occupied HMO for asylum seekers? I am in and out of these places often and have never come across one.

There is one in my area for women and families only.

thestudio · 25/09/2026 09:52

JapanesePotWeed · 24/09/2026 21:29

@OldWallpaper

I get scared when there is an issue, like the alley blocked with bikes or a 2am disposable barbecue "event" and I realise that I can't just tell a group of transient males to quit it.
Can't speak to them, not a police matter, the landlord lives in Spain and the contractors MEARS are so secretive they take a week just to confirm it's one of their houses.
The tenants (well the ones thus far!) have never made me scared directly. They don't harass me in any way. Though there have been some leading questions about my relationship status, whether I live alone and telling me they're looking for a wife just like me. I feel it like a nuisance more than fear.

That IS sexual harassment.

Branleuse · 25/09/2026 09:55

If there is a refugee action charity in your area, it would probably be worth speaking to them and asking if they have any interpreters or people from their community who could talk to them about the issues you are feeling.

A friend of mine who currently rents to refugees did have to get some help with explaining to tenants about importance of certain things like smoking indoors and a few cultural differences, and luckily my friends husband who is native Arabic speaker and been here decades was able to explain to them better and the problem resolved.

I think you get similar issues with a lot of HMOs whether that's students or refugees or anyone tbh.

Winter2020 · 25/09/2026 09:57

Summerlovingtheraspberries · 25/09/2026 08:16

Interesting to hear how other countries deal with this.
In particular the USA where border controls are very tight, every time I have been they are.
Do they put these men straight back on a plane?
Do asylum seekers just know not to bother trying to gain entry?

Millions of people walked into America under Biden crossing from the Mexican border.

Anyone pushing for safe and legal routes should be aware that the CBP1 APP where people could apply to come to America from Mexico led to people moving to Mexico and living in camps to apply and wait for an interview. 60,000,000 people applied using the app
https://www.cbsnews.com/amp/news/immigration-cbp-one-app-migrants-mexico-64-million/

Video of the migrant camps in Mexico with people trying to get to America - a lot by using the CBP1 APP.

I don't imagine Trump will be letting many people into America that apply on an app so wonder what will happen to these people longer term. Will they stay in Mexico or go home?

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FedUpCelery · 25/09/2026 10:02

Fast800goingforit · 25/09/2026 08:11

Do you own or rent? Having no party wall in the loft space is a fire risk (is the place insured?) and means anyone with access to loft can get into your house. I would not feel safe with that set up whoever was living next door.

Really? Our next door neighbour used to be an elderly woman. We would hear her stairlift so I really wouldn't have worked about her pottering into our attic.

The current family next door have one child and a dog. I know where they work and where their daughter goes to school. What should I be worrying about it my attic was open?
To be honest, it may well be. It is boarded out and we have cupboard doors into the eaves. I've never investigated to see if there is a crawl space between.

DownToTheGround · 25/09/2026 10:02

Bunnyofhope · 25/09/2026 09:44

Does anyone live next to a female occupied HMO for asylum seekers? I am in and out of these places often and have never come across one.

There are different types of accommodation for different categories of asylum/refugee.

The Afghan Resettlement Scheme offers support to families who have worked with the British Army in Afghanistan and are under threat because of their work. This is family housing for the families who arrive here. A range of working people from low skilled to doctors. Some are housed in empty military quarters.

The same with the Syrian Refugee Programme. Family housing, not council properties, below market rents sought by the Home Office with a cap on costs. Some horrific, confidential information provided about their backgrounds, to the point of not being able to read the detail.

MamaToABeautifulBoy · 25/09/2026 10:03

LakieLady · 25/09/2026 08:21

It seems impossible to debunk this myth that asylum seekers get benefits. I've pointed it out on many threads and so have several others. People seem not to want to believe it, or they prefer to perpetuate the misinformation.

Asylum seekers generally cannot claim mainstream UK benefits. Destitute asylum seekers may instead receive Home Office asylum support, which can include accommodation and, in self-catered accommodation, £49.18 per person per week for essential living expenses.

DownToTheGround · 25/09/2026 10:09

Branleuse · 25/09/2026 09:55

If there is a refugee action charity in your area, it would probably be worth speaking to them and asking if they have any interpreters or people from their community who could talk to them about the issues you are feeling.

A friend of mine who currently rents to refugees did have to get some help with explaining to tenants about importance of certain things like smoking indoors and a few cultural differences, and luckily my friends husband who is native Arabic speaker and been here decades was able to explain to them better and the problem resolved.

I think you get similar issues with a lot of HMOs whether that's students or refugees or anyone tbh.

The OP has had many, many conversations (it seems) with the asylum seekers, using English learnt in their free classes.

She knows so much detail about them, their lives, their entitlements, where they have moved from and to, the many languages they speak, their calls to their wives and children at home, their plans for the future, the work they do/don’t do, their illegal drug dealing/activity that I am sure she doesn’t need an interpreter to speak with them. 🤔

poetryandwine · 25/09/2026 10:10

Winter2020 · 25/09/2026 09:26

I think your maths is wrong.
12 in 1000 is 1.2%.

Thank you! Just over one person in a group of 1000 people living in the UK would be an asylum seeker. A negligible influence on the health service and other public services.

Teach me to do mental maths during the morning rush.

SadieandLucy · 25/09/2026 10:12

Lucyslocket · 25/09/2026 09:17

There are no British Forces in Iran, Eritrea, Sudan or Somalia and never have been. British Forces left Pakistan in 1947.(Those countries make up the majority of refugees to UK BTW)
Your post is arrant nonsense.

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I used to live in The Sudan and can say there were definitely British Army there as we used to go swimming in the Nile with them.

Bunnyofhope · 25/09/2026 10:12

dizzydizzydizzy · 25/09/2026 09:50

There is one in my area for women and families only.

Yes families.They are a huge rarity, but do exist. I have never visited a single woman though.

thetinsoldier · 25/09/2026 10:16

JapanesePotWeed · 24/09/2026 21:13

Yes, I don't think a woman living alone is a suitable neighbour to all male asylum seekers, particularly when we didn't have full height fences between properties (I had to build a fence), our lofts have no party wall and are mutually accessible and we have shared land in the form of that access alley. But hey, no one asked me or even considered the things I mentioned.

Your lofts are mutually accessible?? How does that work, even without an HMO next door? What about fire safety?

Lucyslocket · 25/09/2026 10:20

SadieandLucy · 25/09/2026 10:12

I used to live in The Sudan and can say there were definitely British Army there as we used to go swimming in the Nile with them.

What year was this?
General Gordon died in Khartoum in 1885
Sudan declared independence on January 1, 1956, so just how old are you ?!

poetryandwine · 25/09/2026 10:24

Winter2020 · 25/09/2026 09:20

I would be very willing to bet that an asylum seeker getting free housing, utility bills and council tax paid has more disposable cash (whether that is £10 after food or £49 including food) each week than a single British person on universal credit.

A google tells me a single person under 25 gets £338.58 a month (and has to pay their utility bills from that as well as all the other things you have mentioned - food, toiletaries, a phone).
A single person over 25 gets 424.90 (and again has to pay their bills).

I think the asylum seeker would have more money and at least they will be warm, dry (under a maintained roof) - and if food provided fed - if food not provided able to use their oven as the bills are paid.

It is an interesting question. Gemini differs with you. Admittedly it uses the higher UC payment, for the over 25s, in its calculations.

With the housing element paid separately, directly to the landlord, the question mainly comes down to utility bills. A convincing case is made that the utility bills for a single person are far outstripped by the extra money from UC.

I would be interested to know of any AI analysis that turns out differently.

Also, those eligible for benefits have the right to work which asylum seekers do not.

Apmraea · 25/09/2026 10:24

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Pumpkindice · 25/09/2026 10:27

JapanesePotWeed · 24/09/2026 23:55

If they're economic migrants they wouldn't be granted asylum and wouldn't have a route to gain accommodation.

It's not like they tell the Home Office or their case workers where they've been before and that they intend to work here!
Some of the more "experienced" asylum claimants are very aware of all laws, regulations and what could catch them out. For example, they knew very well to store their delivery bags on shared land to claim plausibly those things are mine. They have a whole house, a shed and a large garden but they knew exactly the benefits of that shared alley.

Sorry I didn't mean to imply some aren't canny with it, more that if they are here for that reason they're not likely to be here long term as they'll move on, and won't be 'given' housing, as a PP had implied. Obvs the huge backlog in getting claims assessed doesn't help because it's in that limbo period that people are in govt accommodation and some doing illegal work, and that can be years.

EmeraldRoulette · 25/09/2026 10:27

@JapanesePotWeed hi there

because I was so puzzled by the firewall/loft thing, I looked up

I note that you said you can’t get insurance anymore anyway. If you come to a point where you can get insurance….

I thought that insurers had a specific question about this because I’ve seen it on my parents house insurance forms

I asked mum and she said there was a lot of fuss when they bought it, and they were told that they would have to get it made safe.

So since then, she has had to declare it on insurance forms and eventually I’ve just seen it as a part of a list of stuff that’s written on the forms

Anyway, the point I’m making rather badly…

I looked it up and surprisingly the insurance companies expect you to actually declare it. It comes under non-standard construction apparently.

I bet a lot of people fall foul of it because there’s no question about it specifically.

It jumped out at me because in my first flat, I was responsible for annual maintenance of those firewalls.

Anyway, just saying that to you in case you are able to get out of this place and you find yourself in another house that’s got a similar setup.

Obviously I realise there are far bigger issues than this right now, but I’m just sharing that in case it’s useful.

I really hope something happens that makes this nightmare go away. So many streets being ruined like this. 💐

Pumpkindice · 25/09/2026 10:29

Dragonscaledaisy · 25/09/2026 07:02

You obviously haven't read the latest UN report on the state of the asylum system in the UK under the Labour government - it's truly shocking what's been allowed to happen over the past two years. A significant number of cases are not being investigated thoroughly before asylum is granted, so the background and status of many claimants is never known.

Edited

I know very well about the backlog, where do you think that backlog came from? Hint, Labour weren't in power.

poetryandwine · 25/09/2026 10:29

Maomee · 25/09/2026 08:08

OK, I'd better tell some of the asylum seekers I work with to cancel their active UC claims. Will let them know today 😂

Seriously though, there's a difference between something being policy and whether it actually happens or not. The benefits system in all it's forms is open to compromise and abuse.

Please share how it’s done because my upstanding friend whose claim has been open for ages could use the dosh.

Lucyslocket · 25/09/2026 10:30

dizzydizzydizzy · 25/09/2026 09:50

There is one in my area for women and families only.

There were some women and children in a hotel on the seafront here, but that has now closed. I don't know where they have been relocated to.