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Living next to asylum seeker HMO, ask me anything

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JapanesePotWeed · 24/09/2026 20:28

As the title says. I live in a Victorian mid-terrace, wall-to-wall, garden-to-garden with an asylum seeker dispersal HMO. They were moved in nearly two years ago, replacing a multi-generation family that were living there before.
There is another HMO directly opposite my house, where asylum seekers get rooms once they are approved to remain but don't have an income to support themselves.

Not AIBU but more like AMA. I'm wondering what people would ask me if they really could ask anything. Does anyone actually want to know what it is like? I hear a lot of political point scoring in the media regarding this topic but no one actually talks to people like me!

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givemesteel · 25/09/2026 06:37

It would be interesting to get a couple of estate agents round to value your property. It would be useful to know if no one would touch it with a barge pole vs having a lot of interest from landlords.

See how much the council would pay you for it?

I'm not sure why you continue to live like this, but you do sound very stoical and resilient. I would be much less so.

Rightsraptor · 25/09/2026 06:38

MixedBananas · 25/09/2026 06:12

Do you welcome them. Kind to them? A lot come from very disturbing situations bwxk home and need welcoming. I cwn not even beging to atart to relate or have a clue what horrora they lived through. Families they have witness die etc etc. I hope they are welcomed and make the best life for themselves.

Are you serious? Welcome them? You are seriously naive and I suggest you read the thread then sit down and have a think.

And be glad you're not facing this. Yet.

Be kind, my arse.

Zanatdy · 25/09/2026 06:39

have you considered moving? I think I would, as a woman on my own (well 18yr old DD too).

I’d definitely look at trying to report that as a fire safety issue and get the contractor to sort it. Either way whoever lived next door, I wouldn’t feel safe with the fact someone could just access your house via the loft. I remember reading that story you mentioned too.

pestowithwalnuts · 25/09/2026 06:47

Have you ever asked them why they wanted to come to the uk ?

JimBobsWife · 25/09/2026 06:58

MixedBananas · 25/09/2026 06:12

Do you welcome them. Kind to them? A lot come from very disturbing situations bwxk home and need welcoming. I cwn not even beging to atart to relate or have a clue what horrora they lived through. Families they have witness die etc etc. I hope they are welcomed and make the best life for themselves.

The reality is that there are many economic migrants mixed in with genuine asylum seekers. People fleeing genuinely life threatening situations would not cross the channel.

Dragonscaledaisy · 25/09/2026 07:02

Pumpkindice · 24/09/2026 23:41

Most of the men I've known (through work) in this situation have families back home, and are hoping they'll get their asylum claims granted so they can get their own accommodation and apply to have their wives/children join them. It isnt usually an expectation to live alone, just not to live with strangers in a set up that you have no choice in.
If they're economic migrants they wouldn't be granted asylum and wouldn't have a route to gain accommodation.

You obviously haven't read the latest UN report on the state of the asylum system in the UK under the Labour government - it's truly shocking what's been allowed to happen over the past two years. A significant number of cases are not being investigated thoroughly before asylum is granted, so the background and status of many claimants is never known.

Magicpaintbrush · 25/09/2026 07:10

OMFG, they can get into your loft from their side and potentially access your house??? That is horrific!

poetryandwine · 25/09/2026 07:16

samthepigeon · 25/09/2026 04:17

Can they really claim UC? I am surprised but happy to be proved wrong.

No, asylum seekers cannot but refugees can as discussed upthread.

Certain right wing politicians callbthe minimal stipend provid to adylum seekers a ‘benefit’. That amount is £49 plus change weekly for those who must provide their own food, and just under £10 weekly for those in accommodation providing food (of a kind).

Obviously tbere are no housing or utility bills, as OP says, but phones and phone contracts are not provided by HMG. All expenses including phones, food (if not provided), toiletries, transport and clothing must come out of this allowance or illegal earnings, as very, very few asylum seekers are allowed to work.

Bringemout · 25/09/2026 07:16

I think we should up the offer to 20k-30k for anyone inside the country from a certain date, any number cheaper than the cost of forced deportation. Tbh even 50k would probably be a bargain for the UK. Run an amnnesty for anyone who entered the country before today and registered with the authorities.

TheDaringFawn · 25/09/2026 07:18

Magicpaintbrush · 25/09/2026 07:10

OMFG, they can get into your loft from their side and potentially access your house??? That is horrific!

An old friend used to have student accomodation in a terraced house, where money, booze, straightners, playstation etc would go missing early 2000s. Never clicked tey were comkng in through the loft hatch when they were on nights out! Once they secured it, the theft stopped.

poetryandwine · 25/09/2026 07:19

Dragonscaledaisy · 25/09/2026 07:02

You obviously haven't read the latest UN report on the state of the asylum system in the UK under the Labour government - it's truly shocking what's been allowed to happen over the past two years. A significant number of cases are not being investigated thoroughly before asylum is granted, so the background and status of many claimants is never known.

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But the success rate is also falling all the time, and even successful claims will no longer come with permanent settlement.

Those are Labour results, too. Does the literature discuss them?

Onlyyoucanknow · 25/09/2026 07:19

poetryandwine · 25/09/2026 00:01

Asylum seekers cannot claim benefits. Those in an HMO have housing expenses covered and receive a weekly welfare payment of £49.19. That is to cover all of their other expenses.

You can see why they pick up the illegal Deliveroo work.

Yeah poor them. Having their housing paid for. So not paying tax either. Then helping to block up our doctors surgeries, hospitals, dentists as well.

SaySomethingMan · 25/09/2026 07:21

JapanesePotWeed · 24/09/2026 23:28

With "single" I mostly mean they don't have anyone with them when they arrive next door.
They do talk to families back home and it is mostly women that are on the phone (mums, wives?)
The guys in the HMO opposite have been in the country for a while and I never see any female visitors/ girlfriends. They sometimes have complained to me that it is very hard to live life in UK alone and that they'd like a wife. Do we even have enough culturally compatible women in this country to give these men any chance for a family life?! I suppose that is why they sneak back and bring a wife from their country...

You’d be surprised to find how many down the line will end up with white native women. It’s their quickest way to permanent residency and some of these women would be forever single otherwise.

SaySomethingMan · 25/09/2026 07:24

Onlyyoucanknow · 25/09/2026 07:19

Yeah poor them. Having their housing paid for. So not paying tax either. Then helping to block up our doctors surgeries, hospitals, dentists as well.

Living n a house either 5 or 6 other strangers in houses mostly in poor condition, away from friends and family.

SaySomethingMan · 25/09/2026 07:28

Bringemout · 25/09/2026 07:16

I think we should up the offer to 20k-30k for anyone inside the country from a certain date, any number cheaper than the cost of forced deportation. Tbh even 50k would probably be a bargain for the UK. Run an amnnesty for anyone who entered the country before today and registered with the authorities.

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They would probably come back on another boat.It probably costs some people somewhere near that amount to get here from their home countries

Fivebyfive2 · 25/09/2026 07:29

Thecows · 24/09/2026 21:41

Oh well that's just fine then isn't it ..

I mean I absolutely understand the issues surrounding these set ups, especially the secrecy and obvious chances of corruption and some of them causing trouble in the area... but getting snippy about some of them learning the language, trying to communicate in a civil war and hoping to have a fairly normal life where they can contribute seems a bit odd?

Dragonscaledaisy · 25/09/2026 07:35

poetryandwine · 25/09/2026 07:19

But the success rate is also falling all the time, and even successful claims will no longer come with permanent settlement.

Those are Labour results, too. Does the literature discuss them?

I'm not sure what you mean by 'success rate'. It sounds as though you haven't actually read the report before commenting.

poetryandwine · 25/09/2026 07:37

Onlyyoucanknow · 25/09/2026 07:19

Yeah poor them. Having their housing paid for. So not paying tax either. Then helping to block up our doctors surgeries, hospitals, dentists as well.

There are currently fewer than 90,000 asylum seekers on the UK with its population of
69,600,000. In a group of 1000 people who live in the UK, only 12 would be asylum seekers.

Asylum seekers are too concentrated in a few places. That’s wrong, and Burnham is the first PM from either party to attempt to disperse them properly. We shall see. Possibly in these places they do challege public services. Hopefully that will ease.

But 12 people in 1000 is not enough overall to clog up the services you mentioned.

Are you confusing asylum seekers and refugees? The total is still well under 1% of the population. The NHS is badly overstretched, but these numbers do not explain it.

noodlebugz · 25/09/2026 07:40

I’ve just looked up the fire risk because of the loft situation.
It LOOKS like the council could have their HMO licence for it unless it’s rectified?
HMOs are obviously a much greater fire risk than normal houses and the fire could travel much more easily.
Obviously in practice it’s much trickier especially if Mears / landlord are interested in doing as little as possible but worth looking into.
Dealing with any bellend landlords whomever the tenants are is always a nightmare! Often more than the tenants.

Living next to asylum seeker HMO, ask me anything
Onlyyoucanknow · 25/09/2026 07:41

SaySomethingMan · 25/09/2026 07:24

Living n a house either 5 or 6 other strangers in houses mostly in poor condition, away from friends and family.

The heart bleeds. Meanwhile many people here waiting years with small children living in cramped, awful conditions waiting to be housed. Wouldn't mind but many of the asylum seekers aren't genuine, throwing their passports in the sea. (Ooh I wonder why that is??!!-maybe because many have criminal convictions) Men who have left women and children behind. Men that have been known to assault women here.
Why, when we're a country in dire straits are we allowing these people in when other countries aren't and are looking after their own? Hmmmmm.......

Bringemout · 25/09/2026 07:44

SaySomethingMan · 25/09/2026 07:28

They would probably come back on another boat.It probably costs some people somewhere near that amount to get here from their home countries

Possibly but if you can return to country it would take the pressure off a lot of systems, fairly sure you would get a big exodus.

There was that whistleblower who said only 1% of asylum claims were basically valid but there was pressure to just validate claims.

Rawanda would have been a good option, if you are just going to get put in a third county it would massively reduce incentives for economic migrants.

Jonesmaximus · 25/09/2026 07:44

My sister is in the same position. She lives in a terrace fairly near a city centre, 20 years ago it was mostly residential but it's now fairly commercial. In recent years there has been a lot of HMO applications and a lot of the houses have been turned into emergency hostel accommodation, which has brought a lot of drugs and antisocial behaviour into the area. Opposite her there is a chain hotel that was turned into asylum seeker accommodation for men, mostly from Somalia and neighbouring countries. Two years ago a group of the men rented the house beside her and converted it into a small teashop/takeaway. It seems to be exclusively for men, very rarely do you see a woman sitting there (they have seating outside).
Everyone is horrified when they find out but my sister (who has 2 young adult daughters) loves it, she says it's like having a private security company for free. The people from the hostel down a bit (all local people) don't loiter anymore, previously they would drink in the street which caused fighting and brought trouble. They help her if she has car trouble, are polite and respectful and she doesn't worry about burglary if she's away, which had been a previous problem. She also feels her daughters are safe when they are alone at night as the cafe is open to all hours. Her only complaint is that they talk at high volumes, the walls upstairs are quite thin so she can always heat them, but feels that's a small price to pay.
In the last year there has been an increase in 'citizen journalist' type of people who will come outside and film the men, shouting things at them, accusing them of stuff and then uploading it onto social media. This then brings other 'protect are women [sic]' locals in who want to stir up trouble which is a shame.

Lifelover16 · 25/09/2026 07:49

poetryandwine · 25/09/2026 00:15

Asylum seekers cannot claim UC. They live on a pittance: a welfare payment of less than £50 per week if responsible for feeding themselves, or a payment of less than £10 (that is not a typo) per week if the accommodation provided board.

Refugees, like other UK passport holders, can. One does not become a refugee until
one’s claim of asylum is granted. Only a minority of claims are successful.

If it’s such a difficult life why are they here? Especially from countries where there are no wars?

LakieLady · 25/09/2026 07:56

Anendlessseriesofunfortunateevents · 24/09/2026 21:28

The not blocked off attic space is something I've never considered as a women that's lived as a single mum most of my adult life.

Why haven't I thought of that before from a security point of view?! 😱

I had no idea it was even a thing. Every house I've ever lived in has had walls that go right up to the roof!

The thought that someone could get into the loft next door and come down into my house is really quite perturbing, I would hate it. I'd have to put a lock of some sort on the access to the loft, I think.

Jonesmaximus · 25/09/2026 07:56

Lifelover16 · 25/09/2026 07:49

If it’s such a difficult life why are they here? Especially from countries where there are no wars?

Have you ever gone onto the Living Overseas board? Lots of migrants don't particularly like their host country, some even hate it, and despite even owning a home in the UK and having close family they don't come back. There are lots of reasons for this.