AIBU to feel uneasy about a teacher commenting on my daughter's eyes?

Not read the whole post, just OPs comments.
I won't comment on the eye thing.

But I want to say that often trainee teachers are encouraged to make positive phone calls home. It's an example of 'communicating with parents' for their evidence, and it's a nice target for a mentor to set (eg this week make three positive phone calls). This might be what's happening here - or if he's newly qualified he might have kept the habit from his training. It can be a very pleasant thing to do, call a parent and praise their child, it gives you a lift after a difficult day.

I’ve had a teacher phone me to tell me how well my son is doing in her lessons.
I didn’t think it was a thing, either.

They do actually, the school my sons attend have rang many a time over the years to share how pleased they are with progress and their attitudes to learning. It’s lovely to get an update in between parents evening and having teaching staff who are very busy, finding the time to call and give praise.

So you don't even know which teacher/s, if the same teacher? Yet getting advice on here to raise a safeguarding issue before you've even found out the context.

He said this to an adult, not the child, so could simply be a case of an art teacher whose class has been drawing and she drew some punk eyes and he said oh what lovely eyes, a kind of in the moment joke to mention in a call so that when DD comes in she has a tale to tell and the context.

Please find out more before jumping to conclusions and if they are validated absolutely raise a concern because all concerns are acted upon, especially if it is a creepy and inappropriate trait, this teacher will already be on a high alert and collection of evidence paramount.

Each half term, for each subject at at my Daughters Secondary School, the best achieving child’s parents are given a phone call from the teacher to basically tell them how hard they have worked and to pass on praise!

The first time it happened we were a bit surprised, but now she has been there a while we are used to it!

I think the school ethos is that parents shouldn’t just be contacted for negative behaviour, but also positive behaviour too!

My word, sending postcards home to praise students hss been going on for years! I prefer to write them out immediately to give to parents rather than causing more admin for others.

I got a phone call from my daughter’s head of year to let me know she was top of the leader board for positive points and that he wanted to let me know as parents shouldn’t always get negative calls. It was lovely. I am also a teacher.

The comment about the eyes does sound inappropriate if quoted correctly. Context is everything. But definitely follow it up.

The teachers in our school
ring to say when a child is going well.

Agree. I was very happy to call or email with praise. It’s rubbish to have to only call for bad behaviour. If a student deserved a ‘good’ call, I’d do it, it’s very motivating and makes the parents really happy. Equally, I’d send praise postcards or give them out in our regular rewards assemblies. I’ve just signed off the Language Leader award students, different case, I know, but I like to motivate students!

Re commenting on pretty eyes, I’ll tell a student they look great on eg non uniform days if I genuinely like their outfit or they look great for whatever reason, eg the Pakistani boys in traditional gear on our Culture days or the Polish girl in her traditional outfit. Equally, I might tell someone they look great in their football top. I might say that someone’s new haircut looks great or their make up is nice. I might even say I love their eye colour! (We do a lot of physical description in languages) I think a male teacher commenting on a girl’s eyes might be misconstrued. It’s definitely trickier for male teachers.

And yet you created a post which is bound to wind everyone up…

she said
‘oh jeez, I hope he don’t mention my eyes again’ to which her friend replied.
’ok but (Name) you have such lovely green eyes”

The comment from the friend suggests that the eyes in question really are unusual, striking, in some way memorable.
I work with hundreds of kids and try to remember who is who by memorising their faces. I never comment on their appearance but sometimes in my head I do think "gosh those eyes", or "what an unusual face". I can imagine someone thinking out loud, without any dubious intentions.
I wouldn't worry about it unless there was other concerning context.

This thread really shows the worst, witch hunt aspect of mumsnet. People jumping over themselves going "teachers don't phone" when many examples on the thread say they do, and people wanting to report to the school comments based on hearsay.

I hope these people reflect, especially the ones wanting to cause trouble over the vaunted "spider sense" or "gut instinct" but I know they won't. They just want the drama.

I had inappropriate attention from a male teacher in 6th form. Some years later I worked with a very pretty girl who attended the same 6th form a few years after me. She talked about this same teacher whose favourite pupil she was, and he even came to see her parents at home one evening to discuss how fantastic she was.
Your situation is giving me the same vibes.

I don’t think it’s unusual to phone a parent and praise a student, some schools send postcards and only some teachers do this, the same with phone calls. As for the comment, lots of things are said off the cuff by staff , I think the assumption it’s the start of grooming is totally over the top.

Call on Monday and report thecomment to safeguarding lead. No teacher would say this.

@Kickinthenostalgia When I was a child, there were lots of adult women who complimented children on nice features, and sometimes I was complimented. It's very common, so I'm not sure how it's weird.

I make positive phone calls home all the time. It’s nice for parents to hear their children are doing well and are polite, respectful people. Far too often parents dread the school number coming up, particularly in secondary.

Keep a v close eye on this. Im a teacher and it’s completely inappropriate, I cannot think of any context it wouldn’t be. Safeguarding is huge in schools. You literally look through the lens of it constantly and he will know this. His phone call to you also is odd, all feels wrong and trust your gut.

If people honestly believe that one comment with no context and quite superficial is a safeguarding concern then I suspect that teachers are wary of every word they utter.

I don't think this adds much to the discussion but a teacher commented on my eyes when I was around 11. It was mid conversation about something I was doing in class. He said "you have really unusual eyes" or similar then went back to talking about my work and never made any sort of personal remark again. It didn't feel strange or uncomfortable at the time, but I do still remember it decades later. For the record they are a bit - but not exceptionally - unusual.

My DC’s school call when a pupil is working very hard.

We had a teacher phone and were surprised it was praise for how much my son was enjoying McBeth! A friend who is doing teacher training said sometimes teachers need to phone parents to practise doing feedback!

Not creepy at all.You cant say anything at all anymore without being called a pervert

Many, many, many people have said that their children's school do phone calls.
.also it was a different teacher who mentioned the eyes. And "trust your gut..." if you are actually a teacher I worry more about your pupils than the o.p's daughter