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AIBU to tell my neighbour’s Year 6 child to stop walking to school with us?

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Msjamtoast · 24/09/2026 10:13

I have two children, one in Year 4 and one in Reception. Every morning I walk them to school.
For the past two weeks, a neighbour’s Year 6 child has been coming along with us every morning. Our children know each other and sometimes play together locally, but the parents and I have never actually spoken. When the children play together, the parents don’t usually come out, so we’ve never met or had any arrangement about walking to school together.
The child told my Year 4 child that his mum had said it was dangerous for him to walk to school alone and that he should walk with us.
I’m uncomfortable with this. I’m already responsible for my two children, including a Reception child, and I don’t want to take responsibility for another family’s child.
If his parents feel he isn’t safe walking to school alone, I feel they should make their own arrangements rather than relying on us.
Would you tell the child he needs to make his own arrangements, or just let him continue walking with us?
Has anyone else experienced something similar with a neighbour’s child joining your school run?

OP posts:
Timeforachange26 · Yesterday 08:42

Sherararara · Yesterday 08:16

No, by that time they either go together without me or if it’s a genuine friend they want to walk with it wouldnt be an issue would it?

Edited

Why wouldn't it be an issue if it's cutting into your " precious family " time

Besidemyselfwithworry · Yesterday 10:18

Timeforachange26 · Yesterday 08:14

What will you do when your kids want to chat to their own mates on the way to school rather than chatting to you. Cry and sulk?

Edited

If it’s their own mates it’s not some randome hanger on tho is it??

hopingforabigchange · Yesterday 11:11

Greengage1983 · Yesterday 07:15

How sad. Everyone complains that communities are dying and there’s no “village” anymore to support parents, and then people go along and encourage you to prevent a child, who’s old enough to walk to school alone and who is friends with your children, from walking next to you on a public footpath. Lord almighty. Like a pp said, just tell the child to make sure his/her mum knows you won’t always be walking to school, but if you are, then what’s the problem?

That's not the issue though. If what the boy's mum said is true, she is the one with no community spirit as she has never even spoken to this family, yet is telling her boy to stick with them everyday on the walk for safety.
I would be quite concerned if I had been nominated in a childs eyes as a safe person and had not been told, whilst also having my attention taken up with watching my own two, especially if they are younger and definitely need to be supervised as in the OP's case.
We also don't know what this walk is like - I don't think the OP came back. Five minutes through a quiet estate? Ten minutes along busy main roads and with several crossings? We have no reference.
Where I live there's loads of community spirit, but as I say, I'd expect someone to at least ask me if they wanted me to keep an eye on their child, especially if they intended this to be a daily occurence.

Timeforachange26 · Yesterday 12:00

Besidemyselfwithworry · Yesterday 10:18

If it’s their own mates it’s not some randome hanger on tho is it??

It still takes away from the " precious family time " though

Besidemyselfwithworry · Yesterday 21:42

Timeforachange26 · Yesterday 12:00

It still takes away from the " precious family time " though

Edited

But that’s natural procession as they get older to be with their friends
it is not normal for some randome kid to be hanging on and I’d be nipping this in the bud straight away!

Timeforachange26 · Yesterday 21:50

Besidemyselfwithworry · Yesterday 21:42

But that’s natural procession as they get older to be with their friends
it is not normal for some randome kid to be hanging on and I’d be nipping this in the bud straight away!

Yeh of course it's natural. But some of the women on here seem to only want themselves and their kids walking. No one else. My DD1 collected hordes of friends walking with us en route to school from year 4, which meant she was 8. So same age as OPs eldest

WhatTheFudge0 · Yesterday 21:52

What a bunch of horrible replies. No wonder this society is doing down the toilet. Such hostility and lack of compassion. Could it be that he may come from a negligent family? It’s not like you’re expected to clothe and feed him …just simply to let him walk with you. It that really so offensive?

Besidemyselfwithworry · Yesterday 21:52

Timeforachange26 · Yesterday 21:50

Yeh of course it's natural. But some of the women on here seem to only want themselves and their kids walking. No one else. My DD1 collected hordes of friends walking with us en route to school from year 4, which meant she was 8. So same age as OPs eldest

If this was happening to me I’d be round to the neighbour telling them and I can’t see why op hasn’t done this to be honest

Besidemyselfwithworry · Yesterday 21:52

It also mentions this child is in year 6, what
does his mother think is going to happen to get him to secondary??

Timeforachange26 · Yesterday 21:58

Besidemyselfwithworry · Yesterday 21:52

If this was happening to me I’d be round to the neighbour telling them and I can’t see why op hasn’t done this to be honest

If what was happening to you?

Besidemyselfwithworry · Yesterday 22:00

Timeforachange26 · Yesterday 21:58

If what was happening to you?

Some randome kid was tagging along on my school runs

Timeforachange26 · Yesterday 22:02

Besidemyselfwithworry · Yesterday 22:00

Some randome kid was tagging along on my school runs

But that's not what I was talking about is it? I was speaking of my DD collecting friends on our wkj

Besidemyselfwithworry · Yesterday 22:04

Timeforachange26 · Yesterday 22:02

But that's not what I was talking about is it? I was speaking of my DD collecting friends on our wkj

We don’t collect anyone they’re all with their own parents to be honest they might start talking but their parents are there not expected me to be an unpaid childminder

I had an issue in our old house where the neighbours kids kept knocking to ask to come and play but ring doorbell soon sorted that out !!

Timeforachange26 · Yesterday 22:07

Besidemyselfwithworry · Yesterday 22:04

We don’t collect anyone they’re all with their own parents to be honest they might start talking but their parents are there not expected me to be an unpaid childminder

I had an issue in our old house where the neighbours kids kept knocking to ask to come and play but ring doorbell soon sorted that out !!

But when my DD was that age the kids were allowed to walk alone to school. And we lived halfway down the hill so they'd join her as we left house. I wasn't a childminder If we weren't going to school they'd just walk anyway

She was always very socialble

maxslice · Today 03:52

The thing that stands out to me is “public foot path”. That child has every right to walk to school on it. Either talk to the child’s parents or drive your kids to school. Stop whinging and do something.

GoldenGirl85 · Today 04:09

What happened to community?! Why don’t you reach out to the parents? I would be interested to understand more about this treacherous journey to the school which makes it such high stakes for you to have another child walk with you?!

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