AIBU to resent funding my husband while he works part-time?

For an educated woman you are being incredibly silly OP. He brings nothing to the table, nothing. You are working to support you both, he relies on other people to support and always has done. You basically chose to marry a child, so yes YABU to complain that you received exactly what you willingly signed up for. You're young and have only been married for 2 years. The sensible thing would be to walk away now, while you still can, and before you have kids. Alternatively you can stick with it and complain about the situation for years to come.

Why are you still with him? You resent him. You feel disgusted by his null working ethic. He snidely makes you feel "less" than him calling you lucky when it's the other way around (diminishing you as a person to cover for his own failures)

You are young, hard working and with a great future ahead. You don't have children together.

Again the question....WHY are you still married to him?

This is such an interesting test and you have certainly proved your point. I wonder how many people realise though? 98% think you're not unreasonable... if you changed the 'he' for 'she' you'd get a very different response. Hypocrisy is rife on Mumsnet!

I really hope the OP reads this post and understands how important it is .

Get out now. It won’t get better (can you imagine him pulling his weight with a couple of kids?)

BTW, I bet he reignites his relationship with wealthy dad when you leave. He will always feel entitled to a patron.

Honestly why are you still with him.
Sadly this was me. But I stayed and had 2 children. We are long divorced. But he was/is a terrible father and was an abusive husband.
Leave now. Run as fast and far as you can.
He brings nothing to your life and never will.

I don’t think that’s true at all. There’s a woman on another thread who is getting hammered because she wants half her husband’s pension as well as her own in a divorce when she has never worked - and she raised children, did all the life and kid admin, and even hosted dinner parties. So she made a substantial contribution to the home and family.At least half the posts are telling her to get a job.

In this case, there are no children, the husband has a part time job, and then appears to sit around in his own filth for the rest of the day, sponging off his partner. That’s not attractive regardless of sex.

lol, not a single response would be any different. But also women don’t tend to add nothing to a relationship whilst simultaneously insulting the one who does. I think I recognise your username as coming out with some crazy misogyny on another thread too.

You are wrong! There is another thread where the OP is getting divorced from a high earning husband. She is 60 and has never worked and expects more than 50% of their assets and his pensions. The vast majority of posters think that she is being unreasonble

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5580659-aibu-to-want-half-of-the-pension-after-divorce

The husband in this thread is clearly an entitled trust-fund baby who has never had to work for anything and whose father has now cut him off. He is selfish and lazy and only a complete misogynist would take his side.

Omg OP, I only have two points:
If you split from him you will have more money, which you could spend on a mortgage on a lovely small flat for yourself.
Secondly this is a very stressful situation for you that is going to take its toll on you physically as well as mentally in the long run. For your own health you need to end this marriage, that anger and that exhaustion from working unsustainable hours in a highly complex and difficult job on top of the emotional strain of your home life will wreck you.
Please think about the answers wise mumsnet women have given you, we want and need excellent female doctors in this country, we dont need any more man children being looked after by good women like yourself.

You’re 29, no kids together. Throw him back in and create the life you want and deserve. Xx

I'll add my vote to those saying divorce now before your wages go up. This man is a leech, sorry.

Yes, clearly both written by the same entity! 36% think the sponging woman is reasonable but only 2% think the sponging man is reasonable. That's the hypocrisy! The only slight positive is that it does seem women are waking up slightly to thinking that, in modern day, it's embarrassing that some women still want to idle around whilst leaching off a man. Still some way to go though!

If you are going to be tedious @OutOfTheOtherSide, at least read the thread. PoppyBell already made your point.

I speak as a man -- you need to split. Will only get worse.

Could that perhaps be because, in one case, the “sponging” spouse has raised kids and been a true partner for decades, and on this thread, that’s not the case?

You have two options. Accept how he is and that you will be the main earner forever, and he will be the stay at home parent if you ever have kids, or, leave now why you are still young and find someone who has a similar work ethic to yourself.

Good lord, just call time, you are not obliged to carry this albatross.

This guy is not going to change. You need to dump him and divorce him, sooner rather than later so he can't get your assets or pension in a pay off.
If you're renting that's easier to do, tell him to move back to his mum's or you end the tenancy you are currently in and get somewhere by yourself. Don't buy a property before you get divorced though as that'll be an asset he'll be entitled to half of.

Slightly beside the point here, as I agree he's a lazy cocklodger and you need shot of him, but is he actually producing any art in the pursuit of his 'passion'? I live in an area with lot of artists, and I've observed that even the bad and mediocre ones seem to be able to sell at least some of their pictures if they produce enough and work at being commercial with their art. You said he makes nothing at all. That's really shocking. But get rid, anyway. Your relationship is doomed - you can't go on living with a lazy and entitled teenager.

@gmgnts i also wondered that - is OP coming home and tripping over canvases, or is the art perpetually in the planning stages until not-so-D-H gets inspired?

With the glaring difference that many don’t think a person who has raised the children, taken care of everything in the house hasn’t contributed whereas they do think that a person who spends half their time doing a hobby job as their entire contribution hasn’t.

Do not have children with him. Cock-lodgers don't do childcare, but they'll only tell you this after week 24. It's all about pinning down that revenue & free labour to them. They're abusers. Winy little manipulative mummies boys.

My passion is also art which is why I both work in a non creative job that I love and have a small art business on a side building up to reduce my hours in the main job. Most artists I know have supplemental income through teaching and other ad hoc endeavours which pays the bills. Even when they have been making art for decades.
If your husband is planning on becoming the next Damien Hirst, I'd leave him to it and get out of this relationship as soon as I could.