To think if a 33 year old has kids

Nothingcampares8 · 2026-09-20T00:24:25+00:00

It will likely be in the next two years as otherwise they will be too old

ColdAsAWitches · 20/09/2026 01:25

Do you mean doesn't have kids?

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cadburyegg · 20/09/2026 01:31

Don’t be dense. Plenty of people have children when they are 35+ and older

AdeleRochester · 20/09/2026 01:33

If your question is “is 36 too old to have children?” Then obviously the answer is “no”

DramaAlpaca · 20/09/2026 01:35

Well, I had my third and final baby at 33, but lots of women have their first later than that. I know several women who've had a first baby in their 40s. It's not unusual.

HoppingPavlova · 20/09/2026 01:38

No. I was having kids after 33yo. Why would it be an issue?

tiredtiredd · 20/09/2026 01:40

Lay off the wine

Slightyamusedandsilly · 20/09/2026 01:46

More or less agree. While obviously people can have babies at whatever ages they want, some ages are too young and some are too old. Having children is a young adult's job. Not having children when you're a child yourself or when you're grandparent age.

Calliopespa · 20/09/2026 01:55

How many times will this question be asked on MN?

Yes, people can have babies - and more than one - after age 35.

And some others can't at 20.

Fertility is very dependent on the individual, but child bearing after 35 is not unusual these days. At all.

lxn889121 · 20/09/2026 01:59

The first half of your sentence: "likely be" - yes.

If you drew a bell curve of childbirth it would peak at 29.6 (current average) and then it is less common either side of that. So between 33 and say 40, year by year less women of that age are having children.

So technically your statement is correct, if a women doesn't have a child by 33, statistically on average she is most likely to have one at 34, then 35, then 36 declining in likelihood onwards.

The second half "too old" is a bit rude and going to get a quite a few people angry. Fertility does decline gradually, but the vast majority of women are still capable of having children at 35, so "too old" is a bit far. it is quite individual, some women see earlier drops in fertility, some can go on for ages, but even on average, it is a gradual decline from 30 to 45 in most, not a sudden drop at 35.

Boreded · 20/09/2026 02:22

Are you asking because you aren’t sure whether the home care person will be a mother soon…because you can’t refuse to hire someone because they are of childbearing age, it’s discriminatory

MrsTerryPratchett · 20/09/2026 02:39

Boreded · 20/09/2026 02:22

Are you asking because you aren’t sure whether the home care person will be a mother soon…because you can’t refuse to hire someone because they are of childbearing age, it’s discriminatory

Oooooh. Different thread? Hmmmmm.

JenRummy · 20/09/2026 02:48

Not sure why you’re getting grief OP. As others have said many women these days have children into their 40s. Read about one woman who was 57! Don’t have the energy I used to have but have way more patience so do admire older Mums. Teen years or younger with joys of perimenopause can’t be easy for many.

CamillaMcCauley · 20/09/2026 02:50

All of my children were born when I was over 35 so clearly I was not too old.

PyongyangKipperbang · 20/09/2026 03:06

If you are asking "how old is too old to have kids" I was 38 when I had my youngest, and there an awful lot of MNers who have had kids at 40+. I renewed my mirena at 51, just in case.

If you are asking literally what you said in the OP, no idea.

PyongyangKipperbang · 20/09/2026 03:07

Boreded · 20/09/2026 02:22

Are you asking because you aren’t sure whether the home care person will be a mother soon…because you can’t refuse to hire someone because they are of childbearing age, it’s discriminatory

Oooh, thats a good spot if it is the case.

PyongyangKipperbang · 20/09/2026 03:14

Slightyamusedandsilly · 20/09/2026 01:46

More or less agree. While obviously people can have babies at whatever ages they want, some ages are too young and some are too old. Having children is a young adult's job. Not having children when you're a child yourself or when you're grandparent age.

Define grandparent age please.

My grandmother became one at 38, younger than her own mother had been when she had her youngest kids (43 ish) and the same age I had my youngest child. Gma married at 18 and gave birth the same year (1939). She was by no means unusual.

The mother of DD2's best friend became a Gma at 31. I am mid 50's and unlikely to ever be a grandmother, nor do I want to be.

Aliceintheattic · 20/09/2026 03:15

If a 33 year old wants kids, they should be doing it now. Yes, some women have kids older, but the probability that it's harder to get pregnant increases with age.

CrazyMidget · 20/09/2026 03:23

Oh God. PLEASE don't tell me you're a senior who's baying for grandchildren. 🙈

PyongyangKipperbang · 20/09/2026 03:27

CrazyMidget · 20/09/2026 03:23

Oh God. PLEASE don't tell me you're a senior who's baying for grandchildren. 🙈

A senior

Really?

Boreded · 20/09/2026 03:28

MrsTerryPratchett · 20/09/2026 02:39

Oooooh. Different thread? Hmmmmm.

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Poster yesterday was unhappy with her home care worker cancelling as she had kids. I’m presuming that she now as been assigned a new one who is 33.

I could be way off though

Iocanepowder · 20/09/2026 03:45

Please don’t have kids

StolenTeapots · 20/09/2026 04:06

Uhoh not sure what to do with the baby sleeping beside me then...I'm 40

Sodthesystem · 20/09/2026 04:11

Nah. 43 maybe.

CrazyMidget · 20/09/2026 04:12

PyongyangKipperbang · 20/09/2026 03:27

A senior

Really?

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Eh? What's wrong with that? It's what they're called. Senior discount, senior mental health, etc. It's seen as more respectful than saying old or elderly. I can't believe you wrote "Really?" as if I'd said "batty old person" or something. My late father (died two years ago at age 84) used it often to refer to his generation. It's a very, very common and accepted way to refer to people experiencing what the French call the Third Age. Really no need for a "Really?" at all. I can't believe you're so astonished by that term.