To think if a 33 year old has kids

I do think 52 is far too old for a baby, what the hell are people thinking?

Providing that you have met someone right for you, it should be the social norm to have your children in a gap between uni and work. And men should be socialised to commit early, if they are with someone they love

Even if that was an option, there was no way I would have wanted to take that up. I was in no way interested in such a life in my 20’s, those are the years for exploration and fun without responsibility of kids.

I have kids in the demographic you talk about, and I would be sad for them if they had kids now. Getting ahead in careers aside, it’s a time for travel (unimpeded by having to cater for anyone other than yourself), evolving, and finding out who you are.

“Providing that you have met someone right for you, it should be the social norm to have your children in a gap between uni and work”

Eh…what’s the point in even going to uni if you just intend to piss it all away by having kids? Good luck doing anything with that degree if you spend 5 years raising a child fresh out of uni.

My grandmother was born in 1921, her mother was 45.

So, no is the answer, OP.

There is no right or wrong age to have kids. I had a child at 17 and it worked out fine, I also had another child at 41 when my grandchild was 4 it also worked out fine.

This is probably the most sensible answer. Everyone is different. Some people are mature enough at a young age to take on parental responsibilities and not crave a demanding career, travelling or clubbing etc and others don't feel ready until their late 40's but still have the energy levels of someone 10 or 20 years younger, and if unable to conceive naturally, there is always the IVF option with donor eggs open to them.

That's very cool! You have a sort of generation gap between your children.

I bet you could sell a sort of light-hearted parenting advice book based on that...

Having children when you are over 30 & a geriatric mum is to blame for the ADHD kids.
Older mums are unprepared for the energy required to parent toddlers and so they don't bother & then give their children the ADHD label.

Bollocks.

You must have been a very feeble creature, or done an awful lot of hard drugs, if you were that worn out by 30.

Are you on drugs or something because that is the most unsubstantiated ridiculous comment on this thread.

Eh? Loads of people have first babies late 30s or even 40 these days.

They’re in the middle of nowhere, I guess

Sighhhh. I've started to look at the number of OP responses before I even engage with these slightly or potentially goady threads. Inevitably it's a single post and no return. Mumsnet must enjoy the revenue from this sort of this, or the Daily Fail hacks might be gathering their so called material.

The child I had at 17 has ADHD and autism but the child I had at 41 doesn’t.

I got pregnant very easily at 38, nearly 39. It was our first time trying and it happened straight away.

Some 33 year olds may have 10 years to still have a baby. Whilst some 23 year olds struggle to conceive. Our bodies, circumstances and choices are all unique to us.

30 is not geriatric.

The counter argument to this is that young women themselves don't want to settle down until nearing 30 either.

Plenty of young women have had stable, nice, good but not exciting men wanting to settle down with them when they were both in their twenties but were rejected because they didn't tick ALL the boxes.

Sorry but if such men wised up and picked younger women when they themselves got to 35 and perhaps at the peak of their attractiveness then that's tough luck.

Regardless of when mums are having their first child, there are more risks associated in becoming pregnant over 37. Yes, many people do go on to have healthy babies, and having a child younger doesn’t mean you’re out if the woods, but it’s one thing to consider.

I think the term, coupled with your use of 'baying' (loud angry demand) for grandchildren and your jump to this as the reason for posting, indicates you stereotype older women in a way that has more than a whiff of agism about it.
'A' senior isn't a common way to refer to older people in the UK. A senior person would be more polite, if you must.

I'm British, and have heard the seniors in my life refer to themselves as such about a million times. It's very common, if you know people in that age group. As for being ageist, I'm 52 myself. As for baying for grandchildren, that's exactly what many seniors do the minute a couple gets married. Cue all the complaints about it on internet forums. The three parents were a total nightmare about it after I got married. Baying for grandchildren is a thoroughly accurate description of some seniors. If they don't want to be described as such, they should stop interfering in decisions that should be between the couple alone.

I think FAR more women in their twenties want to settle down than men in their twenties.