Awful woman slagging off my family home

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misscee5 · 19/09/2026 15:09

I recently sold my old house (where Dh, dc, our dog and I) had lived for 12 years to a friend of a friend. She viewed the house, offered 5k below asking price and I accepted. The house was clean and functional but dated in places and did need work - things that were obvious upon viewing like the old bathroom, some walls needed replastering that kind of thing.

Since she moved in she has apparently been slagging me off to old neighbours, friends and anyone who’ll listen it would seem about how grim the house is, it’s a total renovation project, she doesn’t know how I could have lived there with kids etc etc etc.

I understand that houses can look different when they’re empty and perhaps she has buyers remorse which is fair enough, I’ve felt that way about properties before as well. But I’d never make such personal remarks about the previous owner especially if there were mutual people involved who knew them. Aibu to think this is shitty behaviour? I’ve tried not to let it bother me but her dc has just started school with mine so I have to see her around a bit more now. She blanks me and that’s fine with me but I just think it’s bloody cruel. It’s not my fault that the house isn’t what was expected. I left it clean and even left her a bottle of fizz.

If she starts slagging me off to school mums I will feel really pissed off as she’s basically insinuating my family lived like pigs. Aibu to be pissed off here?

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Surprisinglynice · 20/09/2026 16:59

misscee5 · 20/09/2026 16:51

I have focused on posts where the posters are suggesting things that aren’t true - for example I’m emotionally attached to a house just because I used the phrase family home to describe somewhere my family lived. I’m just trying to correct that because it isn’t the case. I am upset about the comments. Not because she means anything to me but because it paints my family in a bad light to others. And it’s unfair and untrue. I think most people would be a bit put out by that even if we do have to act like we’re all too cool to care on MN.

As for my friends, I’m not thrilled about it. At the time I was more focused on what had been said and unwisely tried to find out more when really I should have just shut it down and said I didnt want to know. I think with at least one friend there was an element of shit stirring. I don’t actually see much of her anymore due to a disagreement over something else.

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But seriously why be so bothered what anonymous posters who don’t know you think about you??

Focus on real shit. Like your crappy “friends”

PineConesAndBerries · 20/09/2026 17:03

misscee5 · 19/09/2026 15:17

It did need some work. But she saw this when she viewed it and we even discussed how the bathroom was old and could do with replacing. It wasn’t like she’d never seen the property before. At this point it’s less about the house and more about the implication that my family and I are scruffy.

I do think there’s an element of shit stirring with the ‘friends’ who are feeding this info back to me. I’d rather not have known tbh.

It's her responsibility to check the house before buying. It was sold as seen. She chose to buy it with work needing doing. There's no rule that houses have to be perfect before selling. It's now her responsibility to get it how she wants it. If she doesn't like that she shouldn't have bought it.

WallaceinAnderland · 20/09/2026 17:04

But she is going way beyond that by implying it wasn’t fit for children to live in and then it was ‘grim’ and dirty which are outright lies. I don’t care about her opinions on the house but I do care about the reflection on my family.

Many people would think that living with walls that need plastering is grim and not really fit for children. But not everyone has the money for repairs and maintenance and families do sometimes have to live with poor conditions. If you had to choose between repairing walls and buying a bigger house, then that's what you had to choose. You couldn't afford to do both and passing the problem on to the next person is a perfectly valid and logical step. Honestly, don't worry about it. She will fix it up and everyone will be happy.

Cyclebabble · 20/09/2026 17:05

If she keeps doing it I would respond to (these unhelpful) friends by being clear it was clean, surveyed and you agreed a price. That is all you need to say.

aLFIESMA · 20/09/2026 17:16

I'm sorry that this has upset you OP, moving is stressful enough as it is!
I've moved a fair few times, mostly chosen to do up.
The 'friendly' inquiries from new neighbours about the state of my new home or the standard it has been left in tell me who are the sh*t stirrers & gossip mongers.
Eager faces dying for me to put down previous occupants get no truck from me, I simply say that I love making a house my own with decor/projects etc.
I do like to buy a house at a price adjusted to allow for my choice in decor rather than spend on someone else's taste -win, win.

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