Awful woman slagging off my family home

I think that's the way to go. People buy houses that they wouldn't live in with a view to making it right for them. This is why people add extensions and, rip out fireplaces and all sorts of things.

They don't understand how the previous family tolerated it simply because they wouldn't have been able to tolerate it themselves, and literally everyone is different.

You can’t control what this person says or does so you can stress about it or you can let it go.

easier said than done I know!

I bet in a few months time y will find her tactlessness upsets the neighbours or other mutual acquaintances
she sounds terribly rude
youll probably find she falls out with the workman or parks inconsiderately or creates other dramas for herself

find a handy phrase youre happy with - like you didn’t want the hassle of putting a bathroom in your old house before moving into your lovely new one !
say she got a bargain! Or the great thing is she can put her own stamp on it now - anything that makes her look rude and makes it clear you’ve moved on to better things

Sorry, OP. That situation sounds annoying, but there’s really nothing you can do about it. Try to distract yourself with something else when you start to think about it. She knew exactly what she was buying - or she should have done, assuming she had working eyes and a survey done.

Why is everyone telling you? It is quite normal for people to renovate when they move in to a new house. They are choosing to discuss what she said. Are you probing and looking for details or are they for some reason trying to upset you?

the woman who bought your house is a wanker. why would you give it a 2nd thought. id be laughing at her everything I seen her. people are dicks. what sort of wanker gets on like that. you're giving her too much power

The people that bought my house in 2008 now have a son in my son’s class. They bought just as the market was tumbling so while I didn’t get the price hoped for, the market fell further and they almost certainly resented that the house next door went for 75k less a year later. So I’d say they resent the price and the renovation cost, and they’re directing that with a bit of spite at you.

The dad, whom I met for the first time on a football sideline, was sarcastic and said ‘yeah, we absolutely loved having to dish out for new windows that first winter’ so I just shrugged and said ‘well, we were very happy there, even if we had to put on jumpers in December.’

its not you, it’s them.

Tell your “friends” to stop passing her comments on.

At a guess I'd say that the renovation work she had done before moving in opened up a whole can of worms that she wasn't expecting. It might have been a bigger and more expensive job than either of you realised.

This is a really good point, OP. If someone came to me gossiping and putting down my friends previous home, I’d shut that down at the source. And wouldn’t be sharing it with my friend in case it hurt her feelings.

Next time I saw her I'd say hi Sally how are you settling in? If she moaned I would say ah yes I had heard you were finding the house a bit harder work than you'd thought, still i would appreciate it if you wouldn't make negative comments about my family to mutual friends and the neighbours as it is unkind. I hope you get it all sorted soon, good luck.

its a bit awkward that you know her... but the two perspectives are entirely normal.

I've just moved house and we have had the previous owner come back to visit... they were shocked at the amount of things we've "fixed" because in their eyes it was a perfectly fine house. They joked about us destroying it all..

In reality, it makes sense. They lived there for years, and the gradual slow accumulation of issues that happens with houses isn't something you are really focusing on when you live there. You either don't notice or just accept small problems, and the stuff/decoration/furniture makes makes rooms nicer and allows you to overlook issues etc.

But someone comes in, from 0, no previous experience, no emotional attachment, no furniture, no slow adjustment, or gradual change - and they just see the stark reality and all of the flaws leap out at them.

They also want to fix it all at once, because they want their perfect house, so it all seems like a much much bigger deal that it was to the previous owners.

Both perspectives are valid and reasonable.

If anyone is that interested they will just search on right move

Have you actually heard any of this directly from her? It may just be hearsay and gossip, which I'd pay no attention to. Your 'friends' could be saying things to both of you. I'd just ignore it.

Unless you totally destroyed the house between her viewing and them moving in, she got no reason to be angry at you.

Just sounds like a jealous bitch, insecure that all she could afford is the regret of someone in her circle, who has now moved on to a bigger home, so trying to 1 up you.

Most people she speaks to about that will be curious and look at the listing themselves to see how much of a shit tip it really is, so don't worry about her fabrication. If you here her just say that is how you got it so cheap as we knew it needed work, but it was certainly not dirty or unsafe. It was never a forever home for us so we didnt sink money into renovations, to get a few extra thousand pound, that may not have been to the buyers taste anyway when we knew we wanted a nicer house

Your solicitor cocked up by not requesting the building reg cert @Sunbringer .

So she has purchased a house in need of renovation, got £5000 knocked off and is telling people when she moved ved in it was dirty, is that the crux of her tails?

did she have a survey that she paid for?

there is no rules about cleaning a house when you’re leaving, don’t worry about it

you are completely missing the point.
they have SOLD it. They don't live there anymore, it's someone else's home.

it's not about how long you live there, it's about NOT living there and not being the owner.

They only had it for 12 years, it's not even like a childhood home where they were born and have live ever since 😂. It can't be that hard to move on?

people keep quoting me, I am just replying!😂

I know you disagree, but you asked a question on AIBU, and my reply is that you are BU. I am not giving any narrative at all, you are taking all the comments from your buyer personally, when you really should let it go.

YOU are the one who gave a rather negative description of the place, none of us has seen it, but everything you say confirm what the buyer is saying. It's HER home, she can say anything she wants about it, she seems to spend a fortune to make it liveable for her own family.

If it was so amazing, why did you sell it, you should be grateful to have got rid of it? Anyone else would 😂

You think your “friends” are “stirring”.

why don’t you focus more on that issue then someone you say you don’t give a damn about

All you do is focus on posts about this woman who supposedly means nothing to you

rather than the more serious issue which is you seem to have shit friends!

This all seems like a lot of people with far far far too much time on their hands