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Please can someone help, panicking so much about mortgage

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Pancis125 · 17/09/2026 12:17

I am completely alone and have one small dc. My mortgage is 280k. I am due to renew next August 2027.

At the moment I have a good rate of 2.7%. This means repayments are 1k a month.

I have been looking at rates and they are up to close to 6%. If I re mortgage with 270k on this rate then the repayments will go up to close to 1,600 a month. I just can’t afford this.

I feel physically sick. I don’t know what to do. I potentially have access to 50k but that would be all the inheritance I am likely to get and even that I don’t think would reduce it enough. I am sitting here crying my eyes out. I know there are bigger problems in the world but this is all on my shoulders and I am struggling to stay calm.

OP posts:
BarbaraUsher · 17/09/2026 13:42

Would it be possible to take in a lodger? The income is tax free.

IndigoBluey · 17/09/2026 13:42

Could you be strict and up your monthly saving to 400 and stick it in a savings accounts until August 27? Then you could drawdown on that amount to supplement the increased mortgage payments

AlwaysExtraHot · 17/09/2026 13:49

I also wonder if you need to take a good look at your outgoings. Your income and mortgage don’t sound too bad on the surface.

hangingplant742 · 17/09/2026 13:50

What did the broker tell you at the time? I got a mortgage in 2007. Average then was 5.5%. 6-8% is commonplace over decades. At that point in time, the banks were willing to lend me much more than I took. Because even I could see back then they at 8% I would not be able to afford my mortgage. So I had to settle for a tiny house in a bad area. I can’t understand how people are taking mortgages out and not risk assessing it for the future. Bonkers.

You need to buy a cheaper house AND use the very lucky £50k you have. You could along interest only but I’d avoid that if possible.

Imdonehere · 17/09/2026 13:50

Op, you are catastrophising. Nobody knows what will be happening in a year.

I understand it's hard if it's just all on you, but atm you are able to save a little each month as a buffer.

If you did have to use the 50k, you could leave that in savings, making interest, and use a little each month for any increase in your monthly mortgage payment.

50k, even taking out £1000 each month ( not adding on any interest) would help you for over 4 years.

You'll be fine.

hangingplant742 · 17/09/2026 13:51

Rent a room to a lodger. £7000 per year is tax free.

RabbitHead · 17/09/2026 13:52

Pancis125 · 17/09/2026 12:21

I just can’t do this on my own anymore I am so sad

How about an interest only mortgage? You won't pay off the debt, only the interest, but it will give you breathing time (((hugs)))

Pancis125 · 17/09/2026 13:53

I am reading through all the replies. I am so thankful for the advice. I am in a complete state today and can’t stop crying which is NOT like me. I’m starting to wonder if part of my panic is hormonal! The weight of being a lone parent in situations like this is so horrible. It’s the feeling of vulnerability that breaks me. Thank you to everyone who has posted I am reading them all

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Boreded · 17/09/2026 13:53

Pancis125 · 17/09/2026 12:20

Do you think the rates might go down? My current mortgage is with NatWest

You will get a remortgage with NatWest at 4.X

log in online and check, but that’s who mine is with and there is plenty of options that are sub 5%

Itsnotallaboutyoulikeyouthink · 17/09/2026 13:54

It’s a non issue if you have access to £50k. It will last you about 6 years. Other than that move house if you can. Honestly no need in your situation to get into such a state.

UntitledGooseOnTheLoose · 17/09/2026 13:54

Do you know what your current LTV is? You often get lower interest rates if you have a lower ltv so that's something to speak to your broker about. You could also use the 50k (or some of it) to pay off a lump sum which would bring your mortgage down further.

I think it's unlikely rates will come down anytime soon, so it's best to plan for a worst case scenario.

RowsOfFlowers · 17/09/2026 13:55

You could consider moving to a cheaper property?

Pancis125 · 17/09/2026 13:56

AmethystDeceiver · 17/09/2026 13:16

£75K is a high wage for a single earner, but not as a household right?

I have no advice better than what's already been said, but just wanted to comment as a few people know have asked where 'all' of OP's money is going.

My husband and I earn similar between us, that is very much in the average/ low average range for a household no? But as a single parent @Pancis125 is probably more reliant on childcare, and possibly cleaners etc than we are. And possibly more limited in her capacity to take on more - whether that be more work, a second job or more hours. And also paying more in tax than an individual mid earner, and losing child benefit. It sounds like a lot but I'm sure it doesn't always feel that way!

@AmethystDeceiver thank you for this post. This is exactly it. Im not on the breadline but my income isn’t as it seems to most people when you’re on your own with a child

OP posts:
Calliopespa · 17/09/2026 13:56

RealFlawless · 17/09/2026 12:28

Don't panic. You have nearly a year to work things out.

I think it is unlikely that rates will come down so it's sensible to plan for 5-6%.

If you can use the £50k to reduce the mortgage debt, that should bring payments at 6% to closer to £1200 which is more doable than £1600. You may also be able to access a better rate if you can improve your LTV.

You will also be able to improve your LTV (and so maybe get a better rate) if your home has increased in value since you last mortgaged it. What was it valued at then and how long ago was it? Might be worth getting an EA valuation done (this is obviously not the same as a valuation by your mortgage co but it's a starting point for you to consider asking them to revalue. It's also free.)

Any scope to save a bit now to use if needed next year?

Good advice in this post OP.

You can also ask about interest only if that helps get you through a tricky patch.

Please don't despair until you have talked this over with them.

Tiptopflipflop · 17/09/2026 13:58

Once your rate ends you can move providers for a better rate or to get interest only potentially. Book a free appointment with a fee free all of market broker like London and County to discuss your options. It might be much better than you think.

Calliopespa · 17/09/2026 13:59

Pancis125 · 17/09/2026 13:53

I am reading through all the replies. I am so thankful for the advice. I am in a complete state today and can’t stop crying which is NOT like me. I’m starting to wonder if part of my panic is hormonal! The weight of being a lone parent in situations like this is so horrible. It’s the feeling of vulnerability that breaks me. Thank you to everyone who has posted I am reading them all

It is very natural to feel like this op. Being a single parent isn't easy, and you have done well to get into the position you are in.

There WILL be a solution, though maybe not your first choice, and you are giving yourself time to plan.

Give yourself a big hug and a pat on the back for all of the above.

LiuBei · 17/09/2026 13:59

Pancis125 · 17/09/2026 12:24

@MelissaLovedMantari i am trying to do this but only save around 350 a month

Okay, so if you manage to save 350 a month now on top of paying a 1000/month mortgage, this means that you could, at a stretch handle a 1350 a month mortgage. You'd need an extra 250 a month to get to the 1600 a month you suspect it will be.

If you have an inheritance of 50k combined by the 350 a month you're saving between now and august, and you took 250 from it each month - that would last you 215 months ((50,000 + 11*350)/250)

215 months is around 18 years.

In 18 years will you be able to earn more? Probably!

I understand that this probably isn't what you'd dreamed of doing with the inheritance. I'm not trying to minimize your challenges, but I just want to point out that by your own numbers, I think you'll be okay.

millymollymoomoo · 17/09/2026 14:00

Interest rates are likely to increase over the next year rather than come down.

look at discounted deals rather than standard variable rates. Speak to a broker

Calliopespa · 17/09/2026 14:02

LiuBei · 17/09/2026 13:59

Okay, so if you manage to save 350 a month now on top of paying a 1000/month mortgage, this means that you could, at a stretch handle a 1350 a month mortgage. You'd need an extra 250 a month to get to the 1600 a month you suspect it will be.

If you have an inheritance of 50k combined by the 350 a month you're saving between now and august, and you took 250 from it each month - that would last you 215 months ((50,000 + 11*350)/250)

215 months is around 18 years.

In 18 years will you be able to earn more? Probably!

I understand that this probably isn't what you'd dreamed of doing with the inheritance. I'm not trying to minimize your challenges, but I just want to point out that by your own numbers, I think you'll be okay.

☝Take this as a worst case scenario OP. Once you have reconciled yourself for a worst case, the only way is up!

I think you are likely to be able to negotiate something to bring the payments down a little tbh.

LowAndSlow · 17/09/2026 14:02

You can earn up to £7,500 a month tax free if you take in a lodger,that's £625 a month.

hellomellow · 17/09/2026 14:03

Selling your home would be too much stress right now.

£280k approx. now, so should be around £270k next Aug.

Use £40k inheritance to bring that down to £230k, assuming no penalties.

£230k would be approx. £1,379 per month, so maybe doable?

Conundrummum123 · 17/09/2026 14:03

millymollymoomoo · 17/09/2026 14:00

Interest rates are likely to increase over the next year rather than come down.

look at discounted deals rather than standard variable rates. Speak to a broker

Ermm… you can’t say that. You’ve no evidence that is the case.

The announcement from BoE has calmed the market which was clearly in a bit of a panic before, but it is volatile so it can go either way.

but it is better to mentally prepare for a higher rate (that is inevitable as OP is on a ‘low’ one now) and then you can only be pleasantly suprised if they come down.

Fixed rates aren’t linked to the base rate, they are linked to swaps. So even if the base rate goes up, the swap for a specific term may be higher or lower

DeftGoldHedgehog · 17/09/2026 14:05

See what offers they have at your bank or others and what the repayments will be first.

AmethystDeceiver · 17/09/2026 14:05

Pancis125 · 17/09/2026 13:56

@AmethystDeceiver thank you for this post. This is exactly it. Im not on the breadline but my income isn’t as it seems to most people when you’re on your own with a child

I get it, I have been a single parent and it's not just the financial side - it's the 'everything' ness of it that gets you. All of the decisions and all their consequences lie with you and it can be really overwhelming.

You sound overwhelmed, is this feeling like one more thing on a really full plate? If so that is normal and understandable. I read something recently that said to pick a date 6 or 12 months in the future and write in your calendar on that date - It all worked out. So everyday you're getting closer to that day, because it will happen. It will all work out, you will get there, just like you have before no doubt.

Hang in there, it will be okay

TheStepboardisfullofbitteroddos · 17/09/2026 14:06

Put the 50k in a high interest account- this should get you £2-3k a year and use this to help.

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