AIBU to be fed up with inappropriate comments from men at work

It’s astoundingly rude to suggest a 47 year old woman couldn’t be attractive and so a twenty something year old “stunner” would be the right target audience for sexual interest.
51 and leaving my obviously “stunning” looks and married status aside aside I get more unwanted male attention from 40 upwards than I did before then. To the point that one 30 something year old man married to a STUNNER actually went OTT in his approach into dangerous territory.
OP - you will get the obviously dismissive comments because how DARE a 47 year old have notions of herself… etc.
If you don’t like the behaviours, and you are perfectly okay not to, it’s a good idea to shut them down in an HR appropriate way as its work.

Apologies Samantha08
I see that you said you are meeting these men through your work, not that they are your colleagues.
I'd ask the company to put a disclaimer that comments like will not be tolerated.

I think each incident on its own could be easily dismissed but the cultural impact of lots of low level sexism/inappropriate behaviour and comments can feel demeaning.
I would suggest the organisation needs to roll out some sexual misconduct in the workplace training with a particular focus on frequent, low level issues. I think people sometimes genuinely don’t know what’s meant by sexual harassment and think it amounts to overt behaviour such as inappropriate touching- it’s much broader and often far more deeply ingrained.

The updated employment law means your employer should also protect you from clients, contractors, customers who are harassing you.

We had a contractor sacked last year because of sexual harassment- much easier to get rid of him; permission are entitled to a full disciplinary investigation and interviews.

I agree with this, and it's what I'd like training to focus on. Everyone knows you're not meant to grope someone by the printer. But they might not be aware these low level things could be creating a hostile work environment and that sort of thing. I'm pretty sure that's the case in my workplace.

I agree with all of this you're 47 not 22. Please don't let things bother you x

This is an excellent observation / comparison.

Doesn't matter what was intended - if someone on the receiving end feels harassed, it's harassment.

you won't be able to say "good morning" to the permanently offended soon. But then, if you don't say "good morning" to them, they will ALSO feel harassed.😂

You can't win with some people. Working in HR is even worst than dealing with school parents

They are all unacceptable comments.
The posters discussing whether or not the OP is likely to be beautiful or not are a great example of women doing the patriarchy’s work for it.

Interesting you made an assumption on my age, I am not in my 20s either.

I don’t care if I’m labelled misogynistic, I live in the real world and go off reality.

Sorry, total non events.

Beautiful - reply, thank you gorgeous!

X on the end of a message, complete and utter non event.

Same. The man commenting on the OP's financial situation needs to be told next time (FIRMLY) that her finances are not his concern, and to stay out of her business. The massage comment was creepy as fuck, and no WAY would he say this to a man, and the 'hello beautiful comment' IMO wasn't that bad. Yes he wouldn't have said it to a man, but I don't think this was that bad. Just as a one off. But does he say this - or something similar - every time he sees her? THAT would get annoying! I really dislike sycophants.

I find it incredulous though that a few posters have said that he wouldn't have meant it, (the guy who said 'hello beautiful!') as no way can a 47 year old woman still look good! I know many women around that age who still look good, and are attractive, and still get male attention. AND women who are older. One of the most attractive women I know is a 63 year old German lady who lives in my village. Striking blue eyes, and natural blonde hair, and so much style. Another woman in my village is a mix of Jamaican and Filipina, and she is striking! Looks like a fashion model! She has just celebrated her 50th birthday!

'Women aged 47 can't be attractive' is either coming from a man, or a woman who has never ever been attractive, and has had little attention from men. When you are a woman who is classed as conventionally attractive, and have put up with unwanted attention from men, (and have been doing so since you were bloody twelve!) the comments and catcalls get you down a bit. They still continue (for some women,) way past 47!

'All right luv, give us a smile' is fairly harmless in itself, but when it's the 15th time you've heard it that week, it wears you down.

And as I said, these men would NEVER say stuff like this to a man. Imagine a man saying to another man 'give us a smile mate, things could be worse!' with stupid fucking grin. Most men would say 'fuck off!'

@Samantha08 YANBU, and do keep an eye on these men, and make a note of what's being said, and when. Keep a diary. If it carries on, I would make an issue of it, and complain...