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To miss refined air travel?

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BABaby88 · 17/09/2026 10:05

It's great everyone can travel. I'm sure. But I grew up travelling in airport lounges and flight decks where people dressed for the occasion.

I was in the Gatwick BA first class lounge this morning for a long weekend with DP and DC and goodness it was horrendous. Tracksuits, flipflops, everyone's guts hanging out, people stuffing packets of crisps into their bags as if famine was incoming.

Am I awful to miss the days when non-economy air travel felt a bit like a luxury not an endurance?

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hotmumshit · 17/09/2026 12:42

Me and dd wore fur coats to the airport for our trip last Christmas 😄😄 to be our most iconic selves

Was hot and sweaty - don't recommend

Clean, smelling good, and cosy is the way to do it

Annoyedbyhusband · 17/09/2026 12:42

Have you been to an office lately? People wear this stuff to work now. and if they work from home they might be even wearing PJs all day.
General day to day attire has changed, fashions have changed and leisure wear has become the norm.
Couple this with flights that cost £29 return to Spain and you you can see that travel overseas isn’t really an occasion at all anymore.
Planes are basically buses in the sky.
Travel is not a luxury item for the western world.
People don’t even own smart clothes anymore.
Comfort is king.
Airports are manic, busy, packed and involve a lot of walking, rushing, navigating all best done in comfortable clothes.
Economy seats are tiny squashed and uncomfortable and you need to be as comfortable as you can be.
A lot of people are rushing and eat where they can in airports.

When air travel was all new and an occasion that was very special then I can see why people would dress up. Also the actual acceptable fashions for every day wear have changed.

Basically if airplanes are now like buses, in volume and often cheaper than getting on a train, people just treat the experience as such. Like a transport mode rather than an experience.

its not really an experience anymore it’s the necessary horrible part you have to do to get somewhere, and most people just want to get through it in comfort.

kittensinthekitchen · 17/09/2026 12:43

Quite, OP. I'm frankly disgusted the fatties and their guts even leave the house, never mind think they are welcome to avail of the same facilities as myself and my family.

Catcentral · 17/09/2026 12:43

Is that you Hyacinth?

OneNewLeader · 17/09/2026 12:44

Bizarre. Our family home is beachfront we dress for the beach because that’s where we’re headed on landing.

GasPanic · 17/09/2026 12:46

This is giving me good ideas for my influencer page.

"Airport Lounge Chic".

canklesmctacotits · 17/09/2026 12:47

lol. You’re flying BA, and from Gatwick at that. Your expectations are misplaced!

user427654 · 17/09/2026 12:47

Agrumpyknitter · 17/09/2026 12:29

If you are travelling in First with your children you can enter and use the Concorde lounge as there is no minimum age, you don’t even have to have blue or bronze status just fly in the cabin and you all automatically get access. Nothing to do with Tier points, it’s the cabin that gets you access.

There are different rules for imaginary children in imaginary lounges on imaginary holidays @Agrumpyknitter. I'm sorry you failed to understand that. 😆

TwoBagsOfCompost · 17/09/2026 12:50

BABaby88 · 17/09/2026 10:33

And that's brilliant! No frills airlines are great and serve a purpose. I use them sometimes for work.

My issue is paying to use the BA / Emirates lounge and finding people dressed like they're going to a football match shovelling food into their guts / bags.

Please would you stop saying “guts”? It’s so rude. You’d think you would know this, what with your refined ways and smart clothes.

Wadsworthy · 17/09/2026 12:52

I'm with you @BABaby88 If I'm in a lounge, I want quiet, no noisy children tearing around with those awful Trunkies, and people dressed decently, talking in quiet voices. And really, do people need to steal the food? Are they starving? Eat it there in the lounge, FFS.

I remember the days when travelling by air, children were given aeroplane bags (I had my BOAC and Qantas ones throughout my childhood), games, and badges to sew on your anorak or bag.

I tend to wear decent business clothes, and then change into soft cotton trousers & hoodies when I get on the plane, generally while the cabin crew are making my bed ready.

TwoBagsOfCompost · 17/09/2026 12:54

I probably look very unrefined (!!) at the airport as I dress comfortably (trackies). I also have severe flying anxiety (getting better with medication) so no matter how much I’ve scrubbed and put on deodorant, I will inevitably end up having that stinky anxiety induced pit sweat. Of course the anxiety is written all over my face which makes me look extra horrendous, especially on early flights.

I am also stuffing crisps in my backpack, I don’t have a gut so hopefully the OP would let that slide.

I have never ever thought about what others could think of my appearance! I just would think they’re there to travel and not judge.

Should I print a PhD in Engineering name badge to score some points 🤣

MadisonMarieParksValetta · 17/09/2026 12:58

I'd never dress anything other than comfortably for a flight.

WearyAuldWumman · 17/09/2026 12:59

46 years ago, I was on an aeroplane conveying a large party of British students to a one month student placement.

The working class students were dressed in smart suits or coordinates; the middle class (and a handful of upper class) students were the travellers wearing holey jeans and tatty t-shirts.

I'd be wary of equating 'casual' dress with class.

dottiedodah · 17/09/2026 12:59

Im sorry to say you sound a bit of a snob!Many dress for comfort now .As above PP says we ,are lucky to go on some flights when many people world wide dont get that chance at all.Be grateful you are luckier than some!

OneLilacHedgehog · 17/09/2026 13:01

WearyAuldWumman · 17/09/2026 12:59

46 years ago, I was on an aeroplane conveying a large party of British students to a one month student placement.

The working class students were dressed in smart suits or coordinates; the middle class (and a handful of upper class) students were the travellers wearing holey jeans and tatty t-shirts.

I'd be wary of equating 'casual' dress with class.

This is my experience too. Because the rich people just see it as like taking a bus. Nothing special

LondonPapa · 17/09/2026 13:01

BABaby88 · 17/09/2026 10:05

It's great everyone can travel. I'm sure. But I grew up travelling in airport lounges and flight decks where people dressed for the occasion.

I was in the Gatwick BA first class lounge this morning for a long weekend with DP and DC and goodness it was horrendous. Tracksuits, flipflops, everyone's guts hanging out, people stuffing packets of crisps into their bags as if famine was incoming.

Am I awful to miss the days when non-economy air travel felt a bit like a luxury not an endurance?

Oh boy. So the first thing is none of the passengers were in First as BA don’t have First class flights from LGW. They’re all Gold and above members. That is how you entered. It doesn’t surprise me that standards were lacking.

That said, I found the BA First lounge to actually be decent and not full of what you’ve described. The Business lounge absolutely. But not First. I tend to fly AF/KLM, AY or LH and that is a different ball game altogether. Much nicer lounges (not AMS), clientele aren’t dressed like they’re off to the dog track etc. it does seem to be a uniquely British thing to dress like a slob when travelling.

Berniestavern · 17/09/2026 13:12

Massively enjoying these bants OP..you should definitely try writing chick lit next

Berniestavern · 17/09/2026 13:13

I have a feeling the OP’s tongue is firmly in her cheek

Pedallleur · 17/09/2026 13:14

BABaby88 · 17/09/2026 10:29

Oh of course it's ok to change into PJs long haul.

What I object to is dressing for the beach or the local Wetherspoons in the BA lounge and in first / business class.

Strangely the airline doesn't care because someone who may appear casually dressed has paid the bill. But the op could find herself sitting next to a lovely sex offender/drug baron/crime boss. Bet Harvey Weinstein flew First Class. Luckily there is a solution. Private jets. No poor people or undesirables.

https://www.netjets.com/en-gb/?utmsource=google&utm_medium=paidsearch&utmcampaign=njeukengooglebrandcore&utmterm=netjets&gclsrc=aw.ds&&infinity=ict2~net~gaw~ar~652833351345~kw~netjets~mt~e~cmp~NJEUKENGoogleBrandCoreExact&gadsource=1&gadcampaignid=11888759756&gbraid=0AAAAABtYgOsPw7huu5LaxEGQgLySCFud1&gclid=CjwKCAjwn67VBhBnEiwAXUIN1c23b8tZIsSQGs-vuVPGu964-ntCjrxb5QAV2tXZ4IlUKfV2jEIULBoCpDoQAvDBwE
Although Trump and Epstein liked a private jet so its mark of distinction

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 17/09/2026 13:14

MaturingCheeseball · 17/09/2026 12:03

Yeah, right. You’d rather sit next to a man in a vest with hairy armpits on display and wearing short shorts with a bare thigh half an inch away from you, than a person fully dressed who might be a snob ?

Yep.

Yogafiend · 17/09/2026 13:15

BABaby88 · 17/09/2026 10:38

I do, but I cannot when travelling with the children. Sadly. They lack the tier points (for now).

If you are flying first class you can use the Concorde lounge. Your kids don’t need any tier points at all. We can only access that lounge when we fly first. If we fly business we can’t (even though we are all gold members and my husband is gold guest list member). I think you’re probably mistaken and are going to the galleries and think that’s the first class. But having said that never seen anyone there with their “guts hanging out”.

whymadam · 17/09/2026 13:22

backformoreofthesame · 17/09/2026 10:08

A bit lost to be honest

dressing for the occasion means dressing comfortably and with layers ready for whatever temperature/ weather you are heading into so people sound appropriately dressed

and what does “everyone’s guys hanging out” mean

and whilst I don’t think we need to eat as frequently as many do - if you have had a 5 hr trip to arrive 3 hrs before your flight , snacks will be needed if not a full dinner

Edited

OP said 'guts', and also used capital letters and punctuation. Go figure.

Pedallleur · 17/09/2026 13:22

Stealth snobs are out today. People flying and not in full evening wear??? Our Virgin flight had to circle for 30 mins to allow those ghastly Ryanair flights to land and then we had to collect our bags from the carousel next to Easyjet passengers with their fake LV cases.
Clearly fares need to be 10x higher to deter the plebs

Calliopespa · 17/09/2026 13:23

BABaby88 · 17/09/2026 10:42

No, sorry, your mistake.

My children's schools ban football shirts at mufti days because they're uncouth.

They were surprised football shirts are acceptable attire in a lounge, considering:

I don't think that is because they are uncouth. It's because the children can get childish about team allegiances.

Calliopespa · 17/09/2026 13:25

Maybe don't take commercial flights?

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