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To miss refined air travel?

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BABaby88 · 17/09/2026 10:05

It's great everyone can travel. I'm sure. But I grew up travelling in airport lounges and flight decks where people dressed for the occasion.

I was in the Gatwick BA first class lounge this morning for a long weekend with DP and DC and goodness it was horrendous. Tracksuits, flipflops, everyone's guts hanging out, people stuffing packets of crisps into their bags as if famine was incoming.

Am I awful to miss the days when non-economy air travel felt a bit like a luxury not an endurance?

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fumingrightnow1 · 17/09/2026 20:56

You want me to put on a ball gown to potentially end up sleeping on the airport floor

Toottooot · 17/09/2026 20:57

Surely you’ll be back to the Windsor Lounge in LHR next time.

Pedallleur · 17/09/2026 21:04

GasPanic · 17/09/2026 18:00

I thought I read somewhere there is a private terminal at Manchester.

Maybe you could fly from there.

There is. Most airports have them and there are other places you can fly from if you have the right connections eg military airfields like Northolt in West London

Pedallleur · 17/09/2026 21:06

Toottooot · 17/09/2026 20:57

Surely you’ll be back to the Windsor Lounge in LHR next time.

Is that the one Boris was always in? Imagine seeing him across the room!!

Pedallleur · 17/09/2026 21:19

Yogafiend · 17/09/2026 18:01

I’m not sneering at anyone. It’s been my experience and observation. There was surely no sneering from me.

I do agree with you that the airlines get away with much more now. Providing nearly no customer service whatsoever especially if you’re flying economy. And short haul flights is even worse!

They did it to cut costs so you got a cheap flight. Then monetised what used to be free so you ticked the box for the extras. I don't the need extras. I just want a safe flight to/from my destination. Have to say that the advent of cheap flights opened up a lot of places to use and created a lot of jobs.

TheBossOfMe · 17/09/2026 21:19

I’m a BA lifetime gold member so can access the first lounge regardless of which class I travel in - and I see zero point in paying for first on my own dime, especially for any flight to the Middle East (which is where I assume you were going). I usually get upgraded from Business anyway if there is a free seat in First, which there often is if I’m going west especially. I fly in what you’d probably term inappropriate wear- Hush joggers and t-shirt/sweatshirt combo. With trainers. As do almost all frequent travellers who are the lifeblood of airlines and get treated exceptionally well. Because we know comfort wins. The people I roll eyes at are people who turn up for a flight looking like they’re going to a wedding - how uncomfortable and DVT inducing.

LondonPapa · 17/09/2026 21:39

scalt · 17/09/2026 18:18

The thread for Basil Fawlty and Hyacinth Bucket.

“I just want to keep the riff-raff away, dear.”

If I was rich enough to fly first class, I would enjoy the privilege of wearing my comfy trackies, and trainers (without socks).

When my dad used to do a lot of flying for work, he noticed that his more senior (and presumably wealthier) colleagues often dressed down much more when they were not working: they would be in football shirts out of working hours. And I wonder if that smart, millionaire Eton-educated Boris Johnson wears a smart suit when he’s relaxing?

Alex call me Boris wears a football shirt or poorly ironed relaxed fit shirt in his down time. Most people do unless they’ve something to prove. His summer board shorts are a sight to behold.

Icanthinkformyselfthanks · 17/09/2026 22:25

BABaby88 · 17/09/2026 10:29

Oh of course it's ok to change into PJs long haul.

What I object to is dressing for the beach or the local Wetherspoons in the BA lounge and in first / business class.

@BABaby88 , I’m so relieved! My husband and I travel long haul business once a year with our Amex conpanion voucher. Bargain! If it’s an overnight flight I always change into my PJ’s, I would have been mortified to have upset you.
It still feels a privilege to me to travel so comfortably and I find it quite exciting; I’ve not seen anyone in the lounge looking scruffy they’re usually what I would describe as wearing flight comfy attire.
Do BA fly planes with ‘first’ out of Gatwick? I wouldn’t know because our long hauls have always emanated from LHR and we’ve never seen first offered as a reward ticket.
To be quite honest I am doubtful you’ve flown first class but on the off chance you have and your dissatisfied with the BA clientele I suggest you try alternative airlines.

Redpaisley · 17/09/2026 23:38

Crushed23 · 17/09/2026 11:52

Yes, flying used to be a much more pleasant experience as recently as 20 years ago, agreed.

The issue now is that not even the no frills options are cheap anymore, and so overseas travel is becoming less accessible to people than it used to be. I remember flying to Spain for £4 and thinking it was a bargain. Now I view anything under £100 a bargain, as flight prices have significantly outstripped inflation.

I don’t think flights getting more expensive helps OP’s “issue” though, as an increasing number of working class people are wealthy and more and more of the middle class is becoming impoverished due to COL and stagnant wages. The demographic of who can afford to fly regularly has shifted dramatically.

I never find flights to Spain for £100, its usually one leg much cheaper, by the time you select your return flight, it gets to £295. But I tend to book flights at last minute.

Calliopespa · 17/09/2026 23:53

nomas · 17/09/2026 15:34

I'm imagining that OP thinks travellers should be dressed like this

Oh no! That's not smart. Where's the pillbox hat?

To be fair, although she paints a rather snotty and classist picture of herself, I do know what she means (up to a poiint) about people no longer making things an occasion. It is things like the opera, theatre or a nice restaurant that make me notice it. They don't need to look expensively dressed, but I do think some of these things felt more of an occasion when people made an effort - if only because the process of making an effort becomes part of the fun.

I'm not old enough to remember dressing for a flight though ...

But I do remember as a child putting on a nice dress and hair ribbons to go to the theatre. When I was last there the kid in the row in front had stretched, washed-out leggings and a faded t-shirt with what looked like poo on it, though I'm guessing it was chocolate.

Calliopespa · 17/09/2026 23:58

TheBossOfMe · 17/09/2026 21:19

I’m a BA lifetime gold member so can access the first lounge regardless of which class I travel in - and I see zero point in paying for first on my own dime, especially for any flight to the Middle East (which is where I assume you were going). I usually get upgraded from Business anyway if there is a free seat in First, which there often is if I’m going west especially. I fly in what you’d probably term inappropriate wear- Hush joggers and t-shirt/sweatshirt combo. With trainers. As do almost all frequent travellers who are the lifeblood of airlines and get treated exceptionally well. Because we know comfort wins. The people I roll eyes at are people who turn up for a flight looking like they’re going to a wedding - how uncomfortable and DVT inducing.

I think the same actually. A fool and his money and all that ...

I have been a few times - a mixture of it being paid for and using "points" for the upgrade - and it only reinforced to me that business class is more than adequate for long-haul. Economy I think is a bit of a disgrace (in the sense that airlines are greedy enough to expect people to be that crushed and share so few loos for so long, NOT in the sense some people can't afford anything else and are disgraceful for using it), but it is perfectly ok for short haul.

Mirsine · 18/09/2026 00:06

You sound like a right classist snob.

I will never “dress up” for a flight. Tracksuits and sliders all the way.

Yogafiend · 18/09/2026 01:09

Pedallleur · 17/09/2026 21:19

They did it to cut costs so you got a cheap flight. Then monetised what used to be free so you ticked the box for the extras. I don't the need extras. I just want a safe flight to/from my destination. Have to say that the advent of cheap flights opened up a lot of places to use and created a lot of jobs.

I understand why they did it. And I understand many people don’t need the extras. But others do. Especially if you fly very often, or if you fly for work and/or with kids. I personally do need and want the extras.

Butchyrestingface · 18/09/2026 03:03

Gotta climb down from that ivory tower some time, princess. 👸

ElefantAndCastle · 18/09/2026 03:38

BABaby88 · 17/09/2026 10:05

It's great everyone can travel. I'm sure. But I grew up travelling in airport lounges and flight decks where people dressed for the occasion.

I was in the Gatwick BA first class lounge this morning for a long weekend with DP and DC and goodness it was horrendous. Tracksuits, flipflops, everyone's guts hanging out, people stuffing packets of crisps into their bags as if famine was incoming.

Am I awful to miss the days when non-economy air travel felt a bit like a luxury not an endurance?

And I grew up with air travel was too expensive for most people.
So no don't miss those times.

Frumpitydoo · 18/09/2026 06:11

Famine is coming.

CoffeeCantata · 18/09/2026 06:31

I think this applies to life in general nowadays.

People don't dress up any more. I do - I don't mean I wear a Chanel suit and heels - I just take care to choose nice clothes, often casual and make sure my hair looks OK. Yes, it's a bit of effort, but it's part of my self-image not to be a slob if I can help it.

You go to the theatre - people are in all sorts of things. People on MN are always telling us they go to breakfast on holiday, or on the school run, in their nightwear and slippers.

Does this matter? It matters to me. The world is a nicer place for everyone when people take a bit of trouble. It's not about wealth - it's about consideration.

I find a load of people in trackie bottoms and flip flops, outside their own homes, really lowers my mood.

Before anyone asks: why do you care, what business is it of yours etc, I've explained why I care.

CoffeeCantata · 18/09/2026 06:33

ElefantAndCastle · 18/09/2026 03:38

And I grew up with air travel was too expensive for most people.
So no don't miss those times.

I think air travel (and all travel) should be expensive. It should be special and a luxury which you have to save for. it's really bad for the planet that so many people fly so frequently.

I speak as someone who's flown 4 times in my life. I travel by other means usually, and never plan to go long-haul.

Yes, I think air travel shouldn't be like getting on a bus - it should be the special experience it once was.

ERthree · 18/09/2026 09:16

bingobangs · 17/09/2026 17:50

I think it’s weird to dress up in uncomfortable clothes for a flight tbh.

You can dress up in comfortable clothes ,you don't have to be in stiletto heels just nice clean presentable clothes.

ChunkyMonkey36 · 18/09/2026 13:56

CoffeeCantata · 18/09/2026 06:31

I think this applies to life in general nowadays.

People don't dress up any more. I do - I don't mean I wear a Chanel suit and heels - I just take care to choose nice clothes, often casual and make sure my hair looks OK. Yes, it's a bit of effort, but it's part of my self-image not to be a slob if I can help it.

You go to the theatre - people are in all sorts of things. People on MN are always telling us they go to breakfast on holiday, or on the school run, in their nightwear and slippers.

Does this matter? It matters to me. The world is a nicer place for everyone when people take a bit of trouble. It's not about wealth - it's about consideration.

I find a load of people in trackie bottoms and flip flops, outside their own homes, really lowers my mood.

Before anyone asks: why do you care, what business is it of yours etc, I've explained why I care.

I find a load of people in trackie bottoms and flip flops, outside their own homes, really lowers my mood.

I hope you’re okay. Really.

CoffeeCantata · 18/09/2026 14:06

ChunkyMonkey36 · 18/09/2026 13:56

I find a load of people in trackie bottoms and flip flops, outside their own homes, really lowers my mood.

I hope you’re okay. Really.

As long as they don’t wear their trackies and flip flops out, I’ll be fine🤣🤣.

Bigcat25 · 18/09/2026 14:09

Airplane seats are pretty dirty. I'm not wearing a tracksuit but also not going to wear anything I have to dry clean, iron, or hand wash, as it's going right to the laundry bin.

You sound like a snob and it makes extra chores, but perhaps you don't do your own laundry.

mcmuffin22 · 18/09/2026 14:37

CoffeeCantata · 18/09/2026 06:31

I think this applies to life in general nowadays.

People don't dress up any more. I do - I don't mean I wear a Chanel suit and heels - I just take care to choose nice clothes, often casual and make sure my hair looks OK. Yes, it's a bit of effort, but it's part of my self-image not to be a slob if I can help it.

You go to the theatre - people are in all sorts of things. People on MN are always telling us they go to breakfast on holiday, or on the school run, in their nightwear and slippers.

Does this matter? It matters to me. The world is a nicer place for everyone when people take a bit of trouble. It's not about wealth - it's about consideration.

I find a load of people in trackie bottoms and flip flops, outside their own homes, really lowers my mood.

Before anyone asks: why do you care, what business is it of yours etc, I've explained why I care.

I don't really find this. At the theatre no one ever stands out as looking really scruffy to me. There's usually a mix of students, tourists and people thay have come from work and everyone is dressed accordingly. I've been in airports a fair bit over the summer and people tend to fly in holiday wear or normal casual clothing or sports clothes if they were going off on a sports tour (as quite a few seemed to be). Aside from the fact that this is a made up thread, I don't really understand how someone can be harking back to the golden age of the 90s as the pinnacle of glam air travel.

BugJuice · 18/09/2026 20:02

ERthree · 18/09/2026 09:16

You can dress up in comfortable clothes ,you don't have to be in stiletto heels just nice clean presentable clothes.

I genuinely don’t think I’ve ever seen anyone on a plane in visibly dirty clothes. Maybe a toddler.

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