Is drinking a bottle of wine four nights a week a problem?

Yes, it is a private drinking 4 bottles of wine a week to relax

It’s not healthy but my god people get preachy about alcohol. Overweight and eating yourself to death though- the person knows already and it must never be pointed out.

Yes it's a problem in three ways:

Roughly 3x the recommended maximum weekly alcohol intake (worth noting the UK limit is now higher than other nations).

4 nights per week of consumption at the level considered binge drinking.

The person doing this doesn't recognise they are drinking a large amount.

Is it 4 bottles a week or 1 bottle a week, spread over 4 times?

That's a lot to me, I would be absolutely hammered on a bottle. Could you go a week without drinking. I would be very worried if a family member told me they drank that much.

One bottle of wine each night for 4 days, or drinking through a bottle of wine over the course of 4 days?

It would be a problem for me, I wouldn't be able to function normally if I drank that much.

But you can function. Obviously it could still be a problem because it's bad for your health (and finances? must be costing a fair amount each week).

And someone else is concerned for you, so possibly this is a drink problem by proxy. Why are they bothered by it?

It's definitely causing problems. They might not be visible yet, but that amount of alcohol will be causing liver damage.

Yes. That amount of alcohol is damaging your body and significantly increasing cardiometabolic risk.

Four bottles a week, regularly, is excessive yes.

It’s a problem from the health perspective, as has already been pointed out.

The question is: now that you know it’s a problem from the health perspective, can you cut it down to a safe level - which would be about a bottle and a half over the course of a week, with several days free of alcohol.

If you try to cut down but can’t, or if you find reasons why you don’t want or need to cut down, then it is also a problem from an alcohol dependence point of view. Which means it will persist, and probably escalate. Unless you take action, and the sooner the better.

LOL, who drinks a quarter of a bottle of wine?

You're drinking less than me Op, and less than a lot of people I know. I can drink 2 bottles in one sitting and do so often. I do know I have a problem though. I am fully functioning in every way and hold down a very good job.

Look up functional alcoholic.

If you haven’t reached that stage yet, you are well on the way.

This

There is technically no "safe" upper limit, alcohol is a poison
Regardless of the effect on your liver etc,you could well be over the drink drive limit,if you do a school run or commute to work. This happened to a friend,it was lunchtime, someone hit her car on a roundabout, standard breath test, she failed,was arrested and lost her licence.

One of the features of alcoholism - and of all addictions - is denial.

We tell ourselves it’s not a problem because I can still hold down a job and keep my relationship together, or because we can’t see any health effects (yet) or because we’re not as bad as THEM.

As long as someone is in denial, there is really nothing anyone else can do about it. But it’s good you asked the question,

It's a problem because that's very bad for your health. It doesn't mean you are an alcoholic unless you couldn't manage without doing that. A small glass a night, not such an issue as that would be below the recommended maximum. But ideally need 2-3 days of no alcohol a week.

I would say it is a problem. Over covid I drank half that amount (half a bottle of wine 4 times a week) and looking back it definitely causes some minor health issues. I stopped and felt far better physically and emotionally.

Very easily done. Don't beat yourself up. Get it down bit by bit.

Yes I would say that’s a drinking problem. Well if you can stop with no issues, maybe it isn’t but it’s just far far too much. One bottle to yourself in one sitting? Four nights a week?

I would be pissed as fart and fat as fuck if I drank that much wine.

that's about 56 unitis a week depending on the alcohol content of the wine but most of them are around the 14% mark these days. Then there's the financial cost, assuming £7 a bottle, that's £28 a week. So I'd be thinking about the hit to your pocket as well as your liver.

Is that a bottle per night or one bottle over four nights, are you drinking alone or sharing? If its one bottle per night, alone, I would think thats a little excessive. One or two nights or just one glass per night I could agree with. My parents liked their wine and would share a bottle a few nights a week, my husband might have a bottle on the weekend and will share it if a friend comes over. I don't like wine.

So, if you went to a wedding or similar at the weekend, would you drink more alcohol? Or would cut back on your weekday bottles to allow for a weekend binge?

Yes it is a problem- for your health now, for your future health.

YANBU. This is definitely a problem