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Is drinking a bottle of wine four nights a week a problem?

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Dersnannienow · 16/09/2026 14:10

If someone drank a full bottle of wine to relax 4 nights a week every week would you consider that a drink problem? Even if they functioned properly still worked still took care of their family etc. Would they be kidding themselves to think that this is a normal and acceptable way to relax?

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mumumental · 17/09/2026 22:20

It isn’t just your liver. It’s lots of organs. Eg the kidneys and it also affects your brain. Also your risk of both high blood pressure and of cancer are significantly raised.

ForLimeHiker · 17/09/2026 22:28

My husband was like this in his early twenties with a very stressful job. I’m not really a drinker and did comment on it quite a lot as he needed it to get over his day, but it wasn’t a dependency thing. It is bad, and you do need to cut down. Try to gradually reduce rather than cut it off totally. A good goal is nothing Monday-Thursday and a little bit Friday/Saturday so it’s not a wind down from the week/work etc. get nice drinks like cordials/treat feeling drinks to make something more interesting than a glass of water, but you don’t need this much alcohol.

Canwerecover · 17/09/2026 22:32

@Dersnannienow I would say yes, but I too noticed I was drinking more over the summer. I am doing sober September and don’t miss it at all. My sleep is better, my resting heart rate at night is significantly lower, I have lost 4kg, I am eating better, exercising more etc. I am not actually sure if I’ll drink alcohol again, it’s not the alcohol I like, it’s the cold drink of an evening and socialising. Thankfully I like several non-alcoholic alternatives (am watching the sugar content!). If you can’t suddenly stop, try to reduce or try non-alcohol alternatives

staceyflack · 17/09/2026 22:37

Yes. Healthwise, that's way to much. But, im guessing you know this already. There's lots of places that can help, if you want it. 🪷

Alwayswonderedwhy · 18/09/2026 20:46

I'd be concerned about them. They must feel rough even if they think they're fully functioning.
Do they not worry about the effect it will have on their health in the long term?

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