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AIBU to oppose housing 1,000 undocumented young men near Piddington?

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PiddingtonFan · 16/09/2026 09:38

We dont need anymore undocumented young males.

1000 proposed to be housed near Piddington. Young males from a different culture.

AIBU to agree with them. Enough undocumented males. Too many males overwhelming a small population. 😪

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nomas · 17/09/2026 13:44

AlphaQueue · 17/09/2026 13:39

Okay? And? No need to import more men from foreign nations that have no respect for women.

You can't import humans, they aren't a commodity.

hedgeknight · 17/09/2026 13:45

BIossomtoes · 17/09/2026 13:37

Exactly but I expect she’s the wrong kind of Piddington woman.

As an aside, why does the fascist gatecrasher at the Reform conference keep being brought up on these threads?

She wasn’t a gatecrasher she had a ticket and she wouldn’t have been protesting if she was a fascist, she’d have been right at home. It seems violence against women is perfectly OK if old, white men are the perpetrators.

I suspect you are right.

The right kind are those who ask for support from Musk, Trump, Daniel 'Tommo' Thomas and make some dewy eyed ai videos about the 1940's

shecanbe · 17/09/2026 13:46

AlphaQueue · 17/09/2026 12:04

Where are you more likely to face a horrific sexual assault in the west or in a country where women have no rights?

Well I can only answer that by telling you that I've travelled solo in Pakistan and India (in my 20s) and I did not experience 'any 'horrific sexual assaults.' Yes there are risks. Yes it's different for women. But don't confuse 'different attitudes' with propensity for sexual assaults or rape. It is far from being that simplistic.

Every culture is different. sexual harassment takes many different forms - sometimes it's overt, other times more hidden. In Italy, for instance, you may get more of a certain type of verbal hassle from groups of men. Does this mean that Italians are more likely to be rapists than countries where men might be less overt with sexual comments / hassle in the street? In the U.K even, can we say that the certain type of white van-driving men who feel the need to shout sexualised comments at any female in the streets, is more likely to be a rapist?

All I can tell you that the sexualised violence I've experienced in my life was perpetrated by a family member and someone I went on a date with at uni.

Conflating men from countries where women may have more restricted roles and those 'more likely to rape' is nonsense. It's like saying that because Americans come from a culture where it's legal to carry guns, that we are at risk of being shot by Americans coming to the U.K.

Lentilcakes · 17/09/2026 13:47

DebbieSavage · 16/09/2026 10:06

I was in the peak district visiting Buxton a few weeks ago and the amount of green spaces we encountered was staggering. With the right infrastructure in place there is no reason why we can't construct a couple of new towns in the Derbyshire Dales or High Peak constituencyies where refugees can be settled and homed safely at low cost.

😂 yeah that’d be lovely in the Peak District 🤦‍♀️

AlphaQueue · 17/09/2026 13:48

LuckyHazelFox · 17/09/2026 13:42

So she had a ticket for a party she's meant to support and then just decided to stop supporting them at the conference, we are led to believe. Hmmm. Anyway, as I said, I don't see how she's relevant here.

I've been to events where people speak in favour of fossil fuels a lot. I might disagree with them. So I raise my hand and politely ask a question. I mean we still need oil and gas essentially anyway.

nomas · 17/09/2026 13:51

LakieLady · 17/09/2026 13:43

According to a former colleague who lives there, the biggest problem is the anti-migrant protest marches that bugger up the traffic through the town centre every sodding Sunday.

That's what the people who live near RAF Wethersfield asylum say:

Jacqui Braithwaite, landlady of the nearby Finchingfield Lion, said of Wethersfield: "I certainly don't see it as a holiday camp.
"It doesn't make any difference to the people around here, other than the racism it's brought out of people."
She said the village - adorned with tea rooms and a duck pond surrounded by Georgian homes - had been weaponised by the far-right.
"We have had some really unpleasant, far-right people come to the village and be really unpleasant. Really nasty, horrible people," Braithwaite added.
"I am far more scared of the far-right coming here to protest than from any of the asylum seekers."
Finchingfield is two miles (3.2km) away from the migrant accommodation at MDP Wethersfield
She dismissed the suggestion that the 1,400-resident village had been overrun by migrants.
"They mostly don't look at us because, mostly, they're terrified of everybody, but if you do catch their eye they smile, they're respectful," the landlady continued.
"We're so lucky to be here and the migrants a mile-and-a-half away make absolutely no difference to our lives."

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/ckg0298vlkeo

LuckyHazelFox · 17/09/2026 13:52

So overseas students could pose more of a threat than illegal migrants. We've got the usual, I've been attacked by British men, now we are meant to believe that cultures hostile to women isn't necessarily going to manifest itself in the UK. Divert attention and distract.

BIossomtoes · 17/09/2026 13:53

LuckyHazelFox · 17/09/2026 13:38

That's not the version I saw. The fascist pretends to vote Reform so she can stand up and shout at them midway through a conference. Also totally irrelevant to this thread.

She had a ticket so she wasn’t a gatecrasher. She was protesting at the conference of a neo fascist party, ergo she’s not a fascist. Protest is not illegal and doesn’t merit assault. She was violently attacked so it’s entirely relevant to this thread.

LuckyHazelFox · 17/09/2026 13:54

nomas · 17/09/2026 13:51

That's what the people who live near RAF Wethersfield asylum say:

Jacqui Braithwaite, landlady of the nearby Finchingfield Lion, said of Wethersfield: "I certainly don't see it as a holiday camp.
"It doesn't make any difference to the people around here, other than the racism it's brought out of people."
She said the village - adorned with tea rooms and a duck pond surrounded by Georgian homes - had been weaponised by the far-right.
"We have had some really unpleasant, far-right people come to the village and be really unpleasant. Really nasty, horrible people," Braithwaite added.
"I am far more scared of the far-right coming here to protest than from any of the asylum seekers."
Finchingfield is two miles (3.2km) away from the migrant accommodation at MDP Wethersfield
She dismissed the suggestion that the 1,400-resident village had been overrun by migrants.
"They mostly don't look at us because, mostly, they're terrified of everybody, but if you do catch their eye they smile, they're respectful," the landlady continued.
"We're so lucky to be here and the migrants a mile-and-a-half away make absolutely no difference to our lives."

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/ckg0298vlkeo

A pub landlady reliant on business 😆 🤣

LuckyHazelFox · 17/09/2026 13:56

BIossomtoes · 17/09/2026 13:53

She had a ticket so she wasn’t a gatecrasher. She was protesting at the conference of a neo fascist party, ergo she’s not a fascist. Protest is not illegal and doesn’t merit assault. She was violently attacked so it’s entirely relevant to this thread.

She's an intolerant person who is a fascist. My description doesn't have to tally with yours. Is this thread about her? No, it's not. It's about the people of Piddington.

Getdowntohappyshopper · 17/09/2026 13:57

The word “fascist” is nearly as misused on this site as “introvert”.

EasternStandard · 17/09/2026 13:59

nomas · 17/09/2026 13:51

That's what the people who live near RAF Wethersfield asylum say:

Jacqui Braithwaite, landlady of the nearby Finchingfield Lion, said of Wethersfield: "I certainly don't see it as a holiday camp.
"It doesn't make any difference to the people around here, other than the racism it's brought out of people."
She said the village - adorned with tea rooms and a duck pond surrounded by Georgian homes - had been weaponised by the far-right.
"We have had some really unpleasant, far-right people come to the village and be really unpleasant. Really nasty, horrible people," Braithwaite added.
"I am far more scared of the far-right coming here to protest than from any of the asylum seekers."
Finchingfield is two miles (3.2km) away from the migrant accommodation at MDP Wethersfield
She dismissed the suggestion that the 1,400-resident village had been overrun by migrants.
"They mostly don't look at us because, mostly, they're terrified of everybody, but if you do catch their eye they smile, they're respectful," the landlady continued.
"We're so lucky to be here and the migrants a mile-and-a-half away make absolutely no difference to our lives."

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/ckg0298vlkeo

I’m fine with those who wish to embrace it do. If pp on the thread are keen then great, it’s 21% so far. That could halve as Piddington switched from for to against, and you’d still find enough keen people.

nomas · 17/09/2026 13:59

LuckyHazelFox · 17/09/2026 13:54

A pub landlady reliant on business 😆 🤣

I don't think the men from RAF Wethersfield can afford a £5 pint on their £10 per week subsistence payment.

EasternStandard · 17/09/2026 14:01

nomas · 17/09/2026 13:59

I don't think the men from RAF Wethersfield can afford a £5 pint on their £10 per week subsistence payment.

I don’t see her as any guarantee.

LuckyHazelFox · 17/09/2026 14:02

nomas · 17/09/2026 13:59

I don't think the men from RAF Wethersfield can afford a £5 pint on their £10 per week subsistence payment.

I doubt it's those punters the landlady is thinking about. Reputations can damage a business.

AlphaQueue · 17/09/2026 14:03

shecanbe · 17/09/2026 13:46

Well I can only answer that by telling you that I've travelled solo in Pakistan and India (in my 20s) and I did not experience 'any 'horrific sexual assaults.' Yes there are risks. Yes it's different for women. But don't confuse 'different attitudes' with propensity for sexual assaults or rape. It is far from being that simplistic.

Every culture is different. sexual harassment takes many different forms - sometimes it's overt, other times more hidden. In Italy, for instance, you may get more of a certain type of verbal hassle from groups of men. Does this mean that Italians are more likely to be rapists than countries where men might be less overt with sexual comments / hassle in the street? In the U.K even, can we say that the certain type of white van-driving men who feel the need to shout sexualised comments at any female in the streets, is more likely to be a rapist?

All I can tell you that the sexualised violence I've experienced in my life was perpetrated by a family member and someone I went on a date with at uni.

Conflating men from countries where women may have more restricted roles and those 'more likely to rape' is nonsense. It's like saying that because Americans come from a culture where it's legal to carry guns, that we are at risk of being shot by Americans coming to the U.K.

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There was a thread a few months back where a woman explained her constant SH and even SA in India. Women saying they've hated their trips there and would never let their DDs go.

Verbal hassle is disgusting and no girl should experience, but it's not on the level of a physical assault is it? It's disgusting and crass and not acceptable but it's not on the same level as a physical sexual assault.

Where would most MNers rather their DDs go on holiday, Rome or New Delhi?

In these countries you and I mention the rates for rape and VAWG are horrific and catastrophic. There are way above what we have here.

LakieLady · 17/09/2026 14:05

EasternStandard · 16/09/2026 12:10

If you were in Piddington would 1000 plus men waiting for asylum be fine for you?

I'd be fine with it.

It's a shame there isn't a disused military base or similar near where I live, tbh. There's a very active refugee and asylum seeker support group here, so they'd be welcome.

Lugol · 17/09/2026 14:06

hedgeknight · 17/09/2026 13:32

Farage responded to a woman's fear about racism aimed at her husband and children with laughing at her.

I'm talking about the Labour Government.

AlphaQueue · 17/09/2026 14:08

BIossomtoes · 17/09/2026 13:53

She had a ticket so she wasn’t a gatecrasher. She was protesting at the conference of a neo fascist party, ergo she’s not a fascist. Protest is not illegal and doesn’t merit assault. She was violently attacked so it’s entirely relevant to this thread.

It's not illegal per se. I can go into the lobby of BP and scream and shout about the evils of fossil fuels. I'd expect security to physically remove me and use force if I resist. If someone came was invited into my house and started screaming and shouting and causing a fuss I'd swiftly show them the door.

Lugol · 17/09/2026 14:10

BIossomtoes · 17/09/2026 13:31

I was abused in Tesco’s car park a few months ago - by a nasty piece of work who was as British as I am.

What the fuck does this have to do with us discussing the migrants?

Lugol · 17/09/2026 14:13

EasternStandard · 17/09/2026 13:34

Most middle class would probably do as Piddington women have, if in the same position.

Why does everyone on this classist thread assume that if one is middle class they want them living nearby?

I don't want them nearby nor do I want to pay for them either.

I think what you meant to say is most PEOPLE would do the same as the women of Piddington.

The UK is crumbling and people can't afford to fund their own lives never mind thousands and thousands of men on top.

AlphaQueue · 17/09/2026 14:14

LakieLady · 17/09/2026 13:43

According to a former colleague who lives there, the biggest problem is the anti-migrant protest marches that bugger up the traffic through the town centre every sodding Sunday.

According to a friend of mine. His gf and their mum both get hissed at by the migrants there (and they also spotted them delivering drugs).

nomas · 17/09/2026 14:16

Lugol · 17/09/2026 14:10

What the fuck does this have to do with us discussing the migrants?

Equally what does your random 'man' have to do with the thread?

She can mention her experience if she wants to.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 17/09/2026 14:17

No, not at all. It’s unfortunate that it has come to this. If people had of objected strongly when it begin in working class areas it wouldn’t be as bad as it is today.
Finally the unnerving situation is branching out to the more educated people, the government might be open to listening to them instead of branding them as racists.

AlphaQueue · 17/09/2026 14:17

Switchnow · 17/09/2026 13:42

So you think some women deserve to be assaulted, and you want to ban any people from entering the country. Congratulations, you’ve also got something in common with North Korea too!

North Korea don't let people out

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