Unbalanced Inheritance Division

So my partner has suggested I clarify a few points, which is why I'm adding this post.

My sister and I have 2 kids each, roughly the same age, I believe they all have a good relationship with the remaining Parent/Grandparent.

How do I know I would not allow this to happen if the situation was reversed, a few years ago whilst visiting they told me they were amending their will.

I thought maybe a charity donation.

No, they were going to alter the will and leave me as the sole benefactor, I have no idea what my sister had said or done, maybe cut her potatoes with a knife instead of a fork, who knows!

After a few milliseconds of thinking how that would change my life, I told them in no uncertain terms I would not allow that to happen, did not want it to happen or be okay with it.

After a bit of back and forth they agreed to a 60:40 split in my favour, I was still uncomfortable with this but they would not budge.

The reason I concluded for disagreement.

1. I am not altruistic and quite generous, my partner says its one of my Green Flags I did not like this or was okay with it.

1. I believe in fairness wherever possible, and although my sister might not need it her children might.

3, I would have to face up to her forever, and I thought it would destroy our relationship.

As as parent you can punish your kids if they do wrong and it doesn’t last long, a grounding, no TV, chores for a week, you can patch things up and move on.

But to do this as a punishment over and above what the perceived wrong is, is not right and it lasts a lifetime!

Many many thanks for all the comments. :-)

Your first post refer to both parents being deceased. The last post suggests that one is living. Which is it? I do think relevant as if you’ve inherited from one surely you can ask the other for an answer.

There is something odd about this thread.

I'll keep it brief, my parents both died some time ago, and I can't get over this.

The estate was split with 20% going to me and 80% to my sister. She gets £160k I get £40k.

Both about the same age, both been a part of the family equally, she is wealthier than me by a large margin.

I want to cut all ties as she refuses to balance out the amounts, even a 60:40 split.

We're it the other way round I would be uncomfortable with the settlements and would rectify it, she won't.

AIBU?

My father died many years ago, my mother died 10 years ago.
In her will my youngest brother got half of her estate, the remaining 5 siblings shared the other half - so he got 50% and we got 10%.
None of us fell out over it, we all are on very good terms and love each other.
It's completely up to you how you want to react.

So my partner has suggested I clarify a few points, which is why I'm adding this post.

My sister and I have 2 kids each, roughly the same age, I believe they all have a good relationship with the remaining Parent/Grandparent.

How do I know I would not allow this to happen if the situation was reversed, a few years ago whilst visiting they told me they were amending their will.

I thought maybe a charity donation.

No, they were going to alter the will and leave me as the sole benefactor, I have no idea what my sister had said or done, maybe cut her potatoes with a knife instead of a fork, who knows!

After a few milliseconds of thinking how that would change my life, I told them in no uncertain terms I would not allow that to happen, did not want it to happen or be okay with it.

After a bit of back and forth they agreed to a 60:40 split in my favour, I was still uncomfortable with this but they would not budge.

The reason I concluded for disagreement.

1. I am not altruistic and quite generous, my partner says its one of my Green Flags I did not like this or was okay with it.

1. I believe in fairness wherever possible, and although my sister might not need it her children might.

3, I would have to face up to her forever, and I thought it would destroy our relationship.

As as parent you can punish your kids if they do wrong and it doesn’t last long, a grounding, no TV, chores for a week, you can patch things up and move on.

But to do this as a punishment over and above what the perceived wrong is, is not right and it lasts a lifetime!

Many many thanks for all the comments. :-)