Lending things to neighbours

What the hell have I just read?

When you moved in you were told what the expectations were. It sounds like a concentration camp

Do you have to get written permission first to do things like wash the car at the weekend or stay out past 9pm on a week night?

They want to save themselves money by using your things. Feck off. Pay the gardener , not like they can't afford it as they were paying previously.

And the cheek of them to not take no for an answer from your husband so try to involve you .

Your neighbours are continuing to try to dominate you, you have to stand up to them or they will get worse. Don't explain or apologize (it makes you look weak) just say no.

If you break it, can you buy me another one?

Yes? Then go buy your own.

No? Then no.

IS this an unofficial HOA? They're nuts.

This does seem a little overbearing. And a hard no on lending out the ride on mower; what a cf.

coming into my perimenopauasal time of life the filter has been flung off and I find a very polite no and laugh like there taking the mickey is becoming a lot easier. Just say “no and that’s a bit forward of you”.

I sort of wouldn't explain myself about it, and continue not lending your mower out...they do sound quite overbearing.

Yes, go with the insurance. The whole set up sounds very cloying!

Came here to post something like this 😂 perhaps I am just very insular but this set up sounds like my idea of hell. I take in my neighbours parcels if they’re out and did my other neighbours bins when they were on holiday but nothing out of the ordinary and certainly nobody ever came round laying down rules when we moved in.

in your position OP I honestly would just reply ‘no sorry’ and change/leave the conversation. YANBU for not wanting to lend such an expensive item - nor would I ever ask to lend such an expensive item.

I was aghast when I read about the their list expectations when you first moved in! I’d have said well, we try to be good neighbours of course and left it at that. And yes, I’d have taken in the odd parcel or put the bins away just as I do for my current neighbours. But I’d never dream of asking them to pet-sit, take me to the airport or borrow their ride-on lawnmower. That’s massively overstepping the mark!

And there’s no way I’d accost a new neighbour and say anything more than hello, I’m FloofyKat, welcome to your hew home - hope you’ll be very happy here. No way would I be setting out how everyone behaves on the street and what our expectations’ of thrm are 😱

“My husband has already told you no!” “Which part of no do you not understand?!!”

Lol. Good idea.

what favours have they done for you op since you moved there?

When we moved in, some of the neighbours spoke to us about expectations of living there

Jeez they sound like twats.

Agreed.

Don't be a doormat. Lay out new expectations, "we don't lend this and the other, we do this and this up to x times in exchange for..."

Shame to be having to say things like that but you have no choice. Who the h&ll decides what "we do in this neighbourhood "anyway, since when did people sign up to that, wheres the contract. Whoever says that can stick it. You need to be far more assertive or they'll walk all over you.

I have a rental property next door and some new tenants asked to borrow my lawnmower but they returned it broken. I don’t lend out gardening tools any longer.

Another neighbour approached me about it and said again that we all help each other out here.

This part would have infuriated me! Who do they think they are?!

I’d say the mower isn’t ours, we’ve borrowed it. Not much they can say to that. Best thing to do is go in shut the door and keep yourself to yourself; wherever you live. I couldn’t bear the intrusion and the feeling that I was living in some sort of commune/holiday park.

A talk about what is expected FFS! Just let them pay for their own mower.They are being ridiculous and a lot of CFs .Take no notice .Apparently you have to pass a test of no noisy parties ,or anything that may disturb neighbours in Salisbury close next to the Cathedral!

Don’t do the insurance thing. You don’t need to give a reason. Just say no that won’t work for us.

Pet sitting? Just no. Close friends and close family maybe. Not neighbours.

You need to see if there is a local Library of Things, which lend out big items which you seldom use, from Lawnmowers to sanders, Step Ladders to drills etc. There is usually a small fee but they are very handy... And no, it is not necessary to lend it to an over-eager amateur gardiner!

The cheeky swine! If they're too bloody mean to pay for a gardener they should get their own lawnmower.
I can just imagine the type of people they are, wannabe king of the road, give an inch and they take a mile. Just stick to bins and parcels but only if it suits you to help. They've used up their share of goodwill.

You should be able to say no without feeling you need an excuse

“I’ve checked the house deeds and there’s nothing there about having to share all my stuff with CF neighbours”