Lending things to neighbours

Very, very cheeky. I’d definitely go with the insurance excuse.

My thoughts exactly.
And what ' list of requirements ' did they have about your children's behavior ?

Sounds very overbearing. You owe them nothing. You don’t have to help/share/ lend if you don’t want too..

Cheeky and entitled I would not even get into conversation with them ignore and avoid they will soon get the message. Do not give them anything, I would be the neighbour from hell to them because as soon as they tried to lay down rules to me I would have told them to get lost hell no.

I lent a mower to a neighbour and it ended up in the swimming pool.

They should not have asked to borrow such an expensive item in the first place and they absolutely should never have asked you after your husband refused. They are not polite people and I would give them a wide berth.

They would've been told that's not how we roll from day one, laying down the law like that would have got my back up aggy cat style. Yet another tale of absolute cheeky fuckers. Seriously, is there a school where these wankers learn this crazy entitled shit. Looking after pets and lifts to the airport, fucking hell, surprised they haven't asked you to pay their mortgage and wipe their arses!

CF’ers.

Stick to your guns and advise your husband will mow their lawn for a fee. Find out what the current gardner rate is and add 30%. That will make them go away.

I’d find them annoying and there’s no way I’d lend a ride on mower or give lifts to the airport to subsidise their holidays.
Pet sitting is tedious and can also get you into trouble; keep what you agree to do to a minimum.
I wouldn’t be friendly when the busy body tells you how you are expected to behave; you’re grown adults with your own lives.

They sound like very demanding neighbours!

SIL is like this, she expects us to lend her things at the drop of a hat, rings us at night asking us to get something out of our loft as she needs it now! I started saying no as things she borrowed came back with pieces missing or broken. Once she wanted to borrow our camping fridge as they were going on another holiday and wanted to save money by putting food in the fridge in the hotel room instead of eating out!

I said no it's not working, she was huffing and puffing down the phone, oh well we will have to think of something else then! ... yes like if you can't afford a holiday dont go on 1, or if you want a camping fridge... buy your own to use!

I hate that entitlement!

My nans and parents neighbours growing up would always help out if needed, but never lived in each other's pockets and there was never the expectation, or rules! If they couldn't help that was fine! Everyone had their own stuff to use and just got on with it!

Think you just need to say no and learn that you do not have to justify, if they stop talking to you, great! Peace and quiet!!

You have clearly moved in to Cheeky Fxxker Close.
Telling you of their expectations?
How did you not tell them to F off?
Frosty wouldn't come near my reaction to that.

I had neighbours a bit like this, laid down rules & slagged off all the other neighbours, they were bored! They complained about the ‘hum’ of our hot tub to my face, I promptly sold my house & they were fuming about us moving as the person that bought the house was vile & didn’t keep the garden nice. My husband kept the grass like Wimbledon but they couldn’t keep quiet about the hot tub! I still giggle to myself. So pleased I moved!

How do they ‘help you out’?

My dh has had a ride on for years. Never has a neighbour asked to borrow it. Never has a neighbour asked for a ride to the airport or to have their pet minded either. All our neighbours are different people, different ages , different jobs etc but they all have one thing in common..good manners and proper respect.

“I’ve checked the house deeds and there’s nothing there about having to share all my stuff with CF neighbours”

You should be able to say no without feeling you need an excuse

The cheeky swine! If they're too bloody mean to pay for a gardener they should get their own lawnmower.
I can just imagine the type of people they are, wannabe king of the road, give an inch and they take a mile. Just stick to bins and parcels but only if it suits you to help. They've used up their share of goodwill.

You need to see if there is a local Library of Things, which lend out big items which you seldom use, from Lawnmowers to sanders, Step Ladders to drills etc. There is usually a small fee but they are very handy... And no, it is not necessary to lend it to an over-eager amateur gardiner!

Pet sitting? Just no. Close friends and close family maybe. Not neighbours.

Don’t do the insurance thing. You don’t need to give a reason. Just say no that won’t work for us.

A talk about what is expected FFS! Just let them pay for their own mower.They are being ridiculous and a lot of CFs .Take no notice .Apparently you have to pass a test of no noisy parties ,or anything that may disturb neighbours in Salisbury close next to the Cathedral!

I’d say the mower isn’t ours, we’ve borrowed it. Not much they can say to that. Best thing to do is go in shut the door and keep yourself to yourself; wherever you live. I couldn’t bear the intrusion and the feeling that I was living in some sort of commune/holiday park.

Another neighbour approached me about it and said again that we all help each other out here.

This part would have infuriated me! Who do they think they are?!

I have a rental property next door and some new tenants asked to borrow my lawnmower but they returned it broken. I don’t lend out gardening tools any longer.