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"How do black people feel? How do brown people feel? How do cripples feel? How do fat people feel?"

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Temptree · 07/09/2026 22:34

As stated by Miriam Margolyes today, as she gets worse and worse...... and worse.

Link to previous thread:
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5574225-omg-miriam-margolyes-andi-peters?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=share

It was intolerable what she said on This Morning last week.
And now what she's saying today by way of defending herself is even further intolerable.

OMG Miriam Margolyes Andi Peters | Mumsnet

I've got an annual leave day today and am spending the morning shamelessly on the sofa watching daytime TV with cups of tea and biscuits after an exha...

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5574225-omg-miriam-margolyes-andi-peters

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JHound · 08/09/2026 16:58

MrsSlocombesCat · 08/09/2026 13:22

I was under the impression that Miriam had mimicked Christine's accent but it was Andi. But I don't think she was being racist at all. She was just clumsy, after all she's pretty old and believe me I have older friends who would never say that everyone is welcome! Even if she did add the footnote that there were a few who wouldn't be. High yella may be considered to be offensive now but originally it was intended as a statement that you were of high status. She just sounded genuinely interested to me, albeit without a filter.

Good Lord. “High Yella” has been offensive for years and it has never meant somebody was high status. It described a skin tone of people who had higher status than their darker skinned brethren which is all rooted in the same racism.

And what she did and what she said was clearly racist.

LuckyHazelFox · 08/09/2026 17:09

YourAmplePlumPoster · 08/09/2026 16:54

The left loved her anti Israel stance especially as she's Jewish. It's the usual, see, even Jews condemn Israel but I see they're now deserting her in droves.

Takes a special kind of somebody to abandon their own in the face of adversity. Guess she's mates with Polanski. Popularity and money is worth more I guess.

AssassinsEyebrow · 08/09/2026 17:27

LuckyHazelFox · 08/09/2026 16:28

The left are very vocal when they think it's white men dishing it out. Put 300 men in black attire and they will be called racist. Put a woman on a TV programme actually being racist and Nada, zilch, crickets. That's the racist part dealt with. The dig at 'cripples'. Hmm...normally there are (rightly) complaints about people being ableist. Where are they now?

I think there's some blindness among the right when it comes to things like this - assuming the left have suddenly gone silent or being hypocritical etc. I've seen people I know to be either side of the political spectrum condemn her ableist and her racist comments.

Condemning the genocide in gaza also isn't a left vs right issue.

You don't need to be one or the other to condemn comments like those she had made and its weird when people try to make a left v right thing.

JHound · 08/09/2026 17:34

LuckyHazelFox · 08/09/2026 17:09

Takes a special kind of somebody to abandon their own in the face of adversity. Guess she's mates with Polanski. Popularity and money is worth more I guess.

I am not sure that sharing an ethnicity / religion with somebody requires you to agree with them on all matters.

LuckyHazelFox · 08/09/2026 17:50

JHound · 08/09/2026 17:34

I am not sure that sharing an ethnicity / religion with somebody requires you to agree with them on all matters.

Fair point.

Ponoka7 · 08/09/2026 18:01

Lomonald · 08/09/2026 12:58

Miriam was on TV to talk about her book not interrogate the hosts about "what they are" out of the blue then question their race as if she knew better. Showing interest in people is fine, if it is in context, interrupting someone trying to do their job so you can go off on a racist inappeopriate tangent isn't fine.

Edited

I'm not talking about the AP incident, but the new criticism.

ShutupLwren · 08/09/2026 18:18

Andi peters should be on telly more, especially if he brings ed the duck with him.

LuckyHazelFox · 08/09/2026 18:27

AssassinsEyebrow · 08/09/2026 17:27

I think there's some blindness among the right when it comes to things like this - assuming the left have suddenly gone silent or being hypocritical etc. I've seen people I know to be either side of the political spectrum condemn her ableist and her racist comments.

Condemning the genocide in gaza also isn't a left vs right issue.

You don't need to be one or the other to condemn comments like those she had made and its weird when people try to make a left v right thing.

There isn't a genocide and it most certainly is a left wing viewpoint that there is one.

AssassinsEyebrow · 08/09/2026 18:41

LuckyHazelFox · 08/09/2026 18:27

There isn't a genocide and it most certainly is a left wing viewpoint that there is one.

The UN disagree

AssassinsEyebrow · 08/09/2026 18:41

...as do I.

LuckyHazelFox · 08/09/2026 18:43

AssassinsEyebrow · 08/09/2026 18:41

The UN disagree

Haha. The UN and its branch of covert participants in 7/10. Please. Corrupt as fuck.

AssassinsEyebrow · 08/09/2026 18:44

LuckyHazelFox · 08/09/2026 18:43

Haha. The UN and its branch of covert participants in 7/10. Please. Corrupt as fuck.

Hilarious. You are entitled to your opinion, thankfully it doesn't hold that it is factual.

pomegranatesee · 08/09/2026 18:46

She's always been like this. She got a free pass for years because the wankpuffin brigade think that a little old lady swearing is terribly naughty and funny and so haven't actually paid attention to what she actually says.

LuckyHazelFox · 08/09/2026 18:47

AssassinsEyebrow · 08/09/2026 18:44

Hilarious. You are entitled to your opinion, thankfully it doesn't hold that it is factual.

Calling war a genocide isn't factual either.

thefourthbeatle · 08/09/2026 18:56

Temptree · 07/09/2026 23:09

Well the context is that whilst on live daytime TV last week she was blatantly racist towards Andi Peters on several counts, along with impersonating his co-host Christine Lampard's NI accent to her face in a mocking way. And because of the backlash from the offence she has caused, she has now defended herself by using yet more offensive and discriminatory language to describe people who she apparently feels need to be othered.

I fail to see how Margolyes' language in the live broadcast exhibited racial prejudice towards Andrew Peters. Tactless to make personal remarks in the situation, yes, but remarking that black people have a variety of shades of skin is simply a factual observation. I have many friends - also family - who are black, and the subject occurs in conversation with regularity; predominantly in assessing from what region of Africa a particular person is likely to originate. Conversations not restricted to within black circles, I might add. The subject is very interesting.

That said, Margolyes' use of the colonial-era term "high yellow" was crass, as were her later comments attempting to extenuate the original perceived offence. She is an insensitive bighead (and crashing bore), at worst, and it was this and this alone that was the cause of any unease experienced by Andrew Peters.

Lomonald · 08/09/2026 18:59

pomegranatesee · 08/09/2026 18:46

She's always been like this. She got a free pass for years because the wankpuffin brigade think that a little old lady swearing is terribly naughty and funny and so haven't actually paid attention to what she actually says.

wankpuffin brigade i have no idea who they are but 😂😂

Lomonald · 08/09/2026 19:00

thefourthbeatle · 08/09/2026 18:56

I fail to see how Margolyes' language in the live broadcast exhibited racial prejudice towards Andrew Peters. Tactless to make personal remarks in the situation, yes, but remarking that black people have a variety of shades of skin is simply a factual observation. I have many friends - also family - who are black, and the subject occurs in conversation with regularity; predominantly in assessing from what region of Africa a particular person is likely to originate. Conversations not restricted to within black circles, I might add. The subject is very interesting.

That said, Margolyes' use of the colonial-era term "high yellow" was crass, as were her later comments attempting to extenuate the original perceived offence. She is an insensitive bighead (and crashing bore), at worst, and it was this and this alone that was the cause of any unease experienced by Andrew Peters.

His name isn't Andrew !

likelysuspect · 08/09/2026 19:02

CinnamonJellyBeans · 08/09/2026 07:39

A woman as old as her, who has written a book, has enough life experience and intelligence to know that the way she referred to the colour of Andy Peter's skin was grossly and wilfully offensive. The accent was also grossly offensive.

If I said that to someone, I'd rightly lose my job. There's no way you can explain away calling someone that unrepeatable term.

I don't think Andy Peters dealt with it well at all. If it is safe to do so, you should call out racism every time, terminate the conversation, or refuse to further engage with the person. He did none of those. It may well have been a surprise for him to have experienced overt racism on his own talk show, but as a seasoned presenter, he should have managed that better.

Oh yeah its all his fault. FFS

And his name is Andi

Its a morning magazine show, not his 'talk show', he was right to deal with it quickly by getting her off, it would have been completely inapprorpriate to 'call it out' at that stage. And, I might add, its his choice as to how to deal with anything given its about him. Not you.

LuckyHazelFox · 08/09/2026 19:04

thefourthbeatle · 08/09/2026 18:56

I fail to see how Margolyes' language in the live broadcast exhibited racial prejudice towards Andrew Peters. Tactless to make personal remarks in the situation, yes, but remarking that black people have a variety of shades of skin is simply a factual observation. I have many friends - also family - who are black, and the subject occurs in conversation with regularity; predominantly in assessing from what region of Africa a particular person is likely to originate. Conversations not restricted to within black circles, I might add. The subject is very interesting.

That said, Margolyes' use of the colonial-era term "high yellow" was crass, as were her later comments attempting to extenuate the original perceived offence. She is an insensitive bighead (and crashing bore), at worst, and it was this and this alone that was the cause of any unease experienced by Andrew Peters.

Where do you start with this 😆 🤣 😂

likelysuspect · 08/09/2026 19:07

HotGrapefruit · 08/09/2026 09:03

She’s built her whole career on this schtick so none of it is a surprise. There are worse acts filing the summer season theatre in Torquay so I find it hard to get riled up about it. People will keep interviewing her because people want to watch it - look at the posts here asking for links etc. Of course it’s vile but it sells papers.

I don’t take offence at the cripple word - my siblings and I use sticks for our mobility and referrals to ourselves an old cripples. MM does the same.

Yes I was going to say this, someone upthread says she probably hates fat people and cripples. Well she doesnt, this is how she also identifies

I think although I dont agree with what she is saying, its quite refreshing that a celeb (so to speak) doesnt apologise for something.

LuckyHazelFox · 08/09/2026 19:13

likelysuspect · 08/09/2026 19:07

Yes I was going to say this, someone upthread says she probably hates fat people and cripples. Well she doesnt, this is how she also identifies

I think although I dont agree with what she is saying, its quite refreshing that a celeb (so to speak) doesnt apologise for something.

That's all very well but if she were another celebrity or similar refusing to apologise, she would be crucified.

likelysuspect · 08/09/2026 19:13

RhannionKPSS · 08/09/2026 10:42

Are you aware that the lady in question was speaking to someone who was wearing traditional African clothing which no doubt prompted her question?

Exactly, the woman was showing interest and completely misunderstood. The hounding of her was outrageous. This is not comparable.

likelysuspect · 08/09/2026 19:24

HotGrapefruit · 08/09/2026 11:51

I've heard a LOT of people who are disabled refer to themselves as cripples or their walking sticks as their 'crip sticks'. But you probably haven't, if you are not disabled yourself.

> And no, NO-ONE is ok if Chubby Brown or Jim Davidson says it too.

Well, they play to sold-out venues every summer, so apparently lots of people are very okay with it, and a lot, lot worse. This is a perfect summary: https://www.vice.com/da/article/roy-chubby-brown-gig-133/

Yes Im surprised people dont know this about people with disabilites reclaiming the word. Im disabled and I wouldnt use it about myself. I do wince a bit at it but its like some black people using the N word which I also baulk at.

likelysuspect · 08/09/2026 19:27

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Why are you being so hostile, nothing that poster has said indicates they're a 'fan'. You're just bullying them because you dont agree with their observation about something.

likelysuspect · 08/09/2026 19:32

MrsSlocombesCat · 08/09/2026 13:22

I was under the impression that Miriam had mimicked Christine's accent but it was Andi. But I don't think she was being racist at all. She was just clumsy, after all she's pretty old and believe me I have older friends who would never say that everyone is welcome! Even if she did add the footnote that there were a few who wouldn't be. High yella may be considered to be offensive now but originally it was intended as a statement that you were of high status. She just sounded genuinely interested to me, albeit without a filter.

Its not reported that way. Why would Andi Peters be impersonating her?

However that makes sense in that I couldnt work out what led her to ask him 'what is your normal accent'.

Is that true that its been misreported?