To feel i didn't do anything wrong??

The other thing involved a celebrity she doesn't like, so I thought ok fair enough, but I was really annoyed at the way she voiced her opinion, it was just a no.... at that point I thought we should meet up and have a chat but she ignore that request, so I decided not to send my half of the accommodation until we'd discussed it as at that point I wasn't sure i wanted to go away with her, she'd been a little awkward recently.
I also wanted to discuss it so she could cancel the accommodation if we decided not to go. And I could cancel the painting, by the time I did i lost half the money!

I have a very good friend or so i thought, for over 30 years.
Recently we arranged a little break together, i booked and paid for an experience for us to do and she booked and paid for accommodation, (slightly unwillingly).
Then I suggested something else I'd like to do, but she was vehement that wasn't going to happen, I was upset and annoyed at her attitude but thought ok, I'll do that another time.
She paid me her half of the experience.
I asked to meet up to discuss our disagreement and moving forward.
She ignored me, and stopped texting me, so I left it a week and tried again thinking I'll be the bigger person.
Another refusal to meet up and it was now getting really close to our break.
So i texted, I assume you've cancelled the accommodation and she didn't answer me.
At that point I decided I wasn't going anyway, so I canceled the experience.

Her next text told me that she hadn't cancelled the accommodation and was going to use it for herself and husband!!
She also wanted me to uncancel the experience so she could do that too.

I am stunned at her actions and a little bamboozled as to what's actually caused her to act this way.

Can anyone see what I might have done to upset her?? She also suggested we meet up in a couple of weeks time!!

The other thing involved a celebrity she doesn't like, so I thought ok fair enough, but I was really annoyed at the way she voiced her opinion, it was just a no.... at that point I thought we should meet up and have a chat but she ignore that request, so I decided not to send my half of the accommodation until we'd discussed it as at that point I wasn't sure i wanted to go away with her, she'd been a little awkward recently.
I also wanted to discuss it so she could cancel the accommodation if we decided not to go. And I could cancel the painting, by the time I did i lost half the money!

Um sometimes people start to go a bit weird when they get older and ppl you thought were good friends begin to act in odd ways. If you patch it ip, all well and good, but if she continues to react strangely from time to time then maybe she's starting to have odd behaviour. I had a 30+ year friendship where the woman auddenly started to withdraw and make no effort out of the blue. And I hadnt done anything wrong at all. Ppl can be weird.

Um sometimes people start to go a bit weird when they get older and ppl you thought were good friends begin to act in odd ways. If you patch it ip, all well and good, but if she continues to react strangely from time to time then maybe she's starting to have odd behaviour. I had a 30+ year friendship where the woman auddenly started to withdraw and make no effort out of the blue. And I hadnt done anything wrong at all. Ppl can be weird.

1. Because she likes to be in charge.

1. I was thinking that we should meet up to discuss out relationship, not the fact that she said no to the second activity. I thought if we met up and decided not to go she could cancel the accommodation straight away. If we had met up and sorted our issues I would have paid straight away, I always pay my half.

Things have been a little strained between us for a while.
We both agreed to the experience and the accommodation.

Payng for the accommodation is definitely not the reason for all this.

And as a pp noticed, I was still awake at 3am and up late and busy reading through all these posts and learning how most of you were berating me for not paying for the accommodation when I know that's not what happened.

So strained relationship and her not wanting to communicate with me, then telling me she is going with her husband with no thought or decency to actually discuss all beforehand.

Im perplexed about the whole situation and hurt....

@Ihateknowingthis have you refunded her half of the activity that she paid you for and you've cancelled yet?

Maybe you need to read what I've actually written!
I've never said she paid straight away because she didn't and I didn't ask her to, we usually pay ourselves whatever needs paying, then straighten up after the holiday, that's why I know my not paying straight away is not the issue.

But you did say…

Recently we arranged a little break together, i booked and paid for an experience for us to do and she booked and paid for accommodation, (slightly unwillingly).

And now you’re saying “I never said she paid straight away because she didn’t” It sounds like in your OP she DID pay straight away. Just give her the money.

Also who is the celebrity and what is the celeb experience? Dying to know.

Maybe you need to read what I've actually written!
I've never said she paid straight away because she didn't and I didn't ask her to, we usually pay ourselves whatever needs paying, then straighten up after the holiday, that's why I know my not paying straight away is not the issue.

Maybe you need to read what I've actually written!
I've never said she paid straight away because she didn't and I didn't ask her to, we usually pay ourselves whatever needs paying, then straighten up after the holiday, that's why I know my not paying straight away is not the issue.

1. Because she likes to be in charge.

1. I was thinking that we should meet up to discuss out relationship, not the fact that she said no to the second activity. I thought if we met up and decided not to go she could cancel the accommodation straight away. If we had met up and sorted our issues I would have paid straight away, I always pay my half.

Things have been a little strained between us for a while.
We both agreed to the experience and the accommodation.

Payng for the accommodation is definitely not the reason for all this.

And as a pp noticed, I was still awake at 3am and up late and busy reading through all these posts and learning how most of you were berating me for not paying for the accommodation when I know that's not what happened.

So strained relationship and her not wanting to communicate with me, then telling me she is going with her husband with no thought or decency to actually discuss all beforehand.

Im perplexed about the whole situation and hurt....

Maybe you need to read what I've actually written!
I've never said she paid straight away because she didn't and I didn't ask her to, we usually pay ourselves whatever needs paying, then straighten up after the holiday, that's why I know my not paying straight away is not the issue.