To feel i didn't do anything wrong??

You didn’t pay, this is the issue

Well you are the unreasonable one. You sound like someone people need to tip toe around and who makes a big deal of nothing with how you acted, YABU

You both wanted to go painting so you booked it and she quickly paid you her half.

Then you told her to book accommodation, which she did.

At this point you suggested seeing a celebrity there at the same time. She said no, I don’t like them.

At this point it appears you said we need to meet in person to discuss this and withheld your payment for half the accommodation.

Then you messaged to say let’s just cancel.

And she has decided to salvage something from this by going with her husband.

And you really don’t think you’re the one in the wrong?!

Well honestly it sounds to me like you stamped your feet because the friend didn’t want to do the second experience. Maybe she’s working at standing up for herself and what she wants. Be honest with yourself is she normally a people pleaser

“So you picked the first experience, she sorted the accommodation, then because she said no to you dictating the next bit of the trip you didn’t pay her your share of the accommodation?
Tbh unless you’ve worded that badly you come across appallingly.
You didn’t know if you wanted to go anymore because she didn’t say yes to everything you wanted? That’s very toddler behaviour”

This with bells on.

You still haven't explained why she was reluctant to book the accommodation in the first place. Have you got history with her for not paying your share on time?

Christ why do we have to faff around with ridiculous words? Experience? Fuck off words, its a painting lesson. I am having an experience now. I am sitting in a mall car park judging this words insanity but I haven't had to pay for it. I despair of the British people, everything has to hace a bloody extra word or phrase. People use potentially as a filler word, I potentially asked him if he liked myself. Seriously. Grow up Britain!

this is how I read it too.

i can imagine if someone suggests meeting a celebrity that I don’t want to meet, I’d have a NO!! reaction. Especially if the whole weekend was a little more their idea. Then if I was asked to meet up to discuss it, it think noooooooooooooo.

She said no to an activity and you turned it into a huge deal instead of just accepting that she didn't want to do it. It sounds like you were trying to manipulate the situation by saying you need to meet to discuss your 'disagreement' and not paying your part of the accommodation.

A straight No to the activity sounds like a fed up response because you already knew she wasn't a fan of this celebrity, so would have been discussed before.

As PP have said, the way you're being vague here suggests you know YABU but want to sway the vote.

If you truly want help, state everything honestly instead of the bity information.

It sounds like you may have form for dictating the activities you do on a weekend away and your friend was already pissed with you before she booked the accommodation. Your communication skills sound pretty low level.
I think you need to self-reflect rather than blame everything on her.

Wake up @Ihateknowingthis

She's not speaking to you because you haven't paid your share of the hotel stay.

Duh.

You do realise, OP, that you need to refund her ALL of what she paid you for the painting session that YOU cancelled, not just half the amount you got back? Sometimes relationships run their course and people don’t want to be the one that walks away until they find a reason to. Looks like your friend has found a reason to.

You sound really controlling and petty. Hopefully she sees sense and ditches you.

There must be more to this, her whole reaction is very odd.

OP hasn’t come back to answer questions as she has her hands full of her arse which has been handed to her by most people on this thread.

Probably… but also she was messaging on here until almost 3am and now it’s Saturday morning. She’s probably just asleep. Not convinced she has enough self awareness to admit defeat to be honest

Changed my vote after that massive drip feed YABU. Why even say she slightly unwillingly booked accommodation when you didn’t even transfer her any money for it? I would begrudgingly front it too.

I hope you’re planning on giving her the half back she paid you for the activity.

How did you manage to cancel the accommodation when she'd booked it? That's not how it usually works.

Did I read correctly- she paid you half the experience, but also paid all of the accomodation-- have you offered before suggesting the second experience paying her some of the accomodation back?
Because it sort of looks she paid for the accomodation (maybe it was more than the experience) for both of you, paid for her share of the experience, and then you started talking about nother experience she would not enjoy.

Obvs unreasonable she expected you to then donate the experience to her.

You didn't pay your share of the expenses but she paid you her share of what you laid out. That's what it comes down to under all the waffle and not knowing what you could possibly have done wrong as you are so reasonable. Hmmm.

When you said you were “upset and annoyed” what did you actually say to her? I wonder what her account of this interaction was? I’m not saying you did anything wrong, but this is the only part of your story that makes me wonder if perhaps you came across rude/agressive to her? It is strange you mention things had already been a little bit awkward though, it does sound like something else is going on

I think you were unreasonable to not accept she didn't want to do the second experience and withheld the accommodation. It's coercive and controlling. So not surprised she no longer wanted to holiday with you.

I mean the one in your op that she didn’t want to do and that annoyed you as that seems to be the point the relationship broke down.

Why didnt you give her your half of the money for the accomadation before she booked or same day?

Inthink unwillingness to book and pay was your clue