AIBU to wonder how much others spend on coffee and eating out?

We don't really do much on a regular basis, maybe my husband has a McDonald's once a week and during the summer I might have a couple of drinks out once a week.

For us it's more occasions like birthdays where we plan for meals out, holidays or travels where we stop at the services (maybe 3-4 times a year) or the random "CBA to cook, let's get a takeaway" or "let's go get some drinks out" Usually on or just after pay day when we are feeling a bit flush.

It used to be a lot more regular but we are definitely feeling the pinch so I'm more likely to splash out on some steaks from the supermarket, make a cake or do a big roast dinner. It makes the food bill higher but it's cheaper than going out.

DH and I both get a takeaway coffee 3/4 times a week, we have brunch out maybe once a week and eat out in the evening a bit less, maybe once a fortnight. I'd have to check our spreadsheet but I think we budget £150 a week for eating/drinking out and that's about what I reckon we spend.

Ignoring holidays or weekends away... so a normal working week in my house: Maybe £150-£250 per month per adult? As a maximum, for myself, I might buy 2 coffees out per week (£32 for a 4-week month), have 2 takeaways per month (£50 for the month), and then spend another £40 per weekend on things like a drink in the pub and cafe sandwich. I don't go to restaurants regularly because I don't find them great value, and tend to be shocked at the bill.

But I don't do that every week/month. I would say the figures above quite extreme for a normal week or month at home. For example, I haven't had any coffees out this week, and I didn't have any takeaways last month. This weekend just gone, I only spent £10 on a couple of soft drinks out.

If I was also counting holidays, weekends away, birthday treats - then a lot more! I don't cook when I'm on holiday, and sometimes pick a fancy restaurant for a birthday meal.

Will she be increasing her coffee consumption if she's spending less than everyone else? What would the purpose of benchmarking be?

Just enjoyed a delicious coffee at an NT property.