AIBU to make a roast when my daughter asked me not to?

If so, why bother freezing it. The sell by date is for when it is fresh & uncooked.

Freezing it suspends degradation literally for months.

Cooking in-date meat kills existing bacteria, meaning it will keep for an additional few days.

At 22, your dd can make her own food if she doesn't like what you cook. So you are both unreasonable.

She’s 22, with 3 meal options, all cooked for her by someone else! OP isn’t a cook in a restaurant making whatever her DD orders.

She’s unreasonable to fuss about her multiple meal options.
She’s very unreasonable to expect that not only she doesn’t eat a roast, no one else does either.

Sorry but she's an entitled young lady. You are not doing her any favours pandering to her behaviour.

Indeed, but I don’t know anyone IRL that’s ever paid any attention whatsoever to this part of the blurb on food (‘freeze on day of purchase and eat within 2 months’ etc).

until now.

I suspect Turtle (only these posts under that name) is rather regretting the freezer slip up in their original post as it’s serving as a distraction from intended purpose of whipping up a storm about her putative 22yr old daughter.

i think people are being a bit unkind to you, you had your reasons for wanting to use the chicken that day, whether it was in the fridge or the freezer. Your daughter was totally out of order, reasonable to not want a roast completely unreasonable to ask you not to cook one for everyone else and then look upset because you did, especially as you cooked her an alternative.

At 22 she's old enough to leave the house by herself and buy her own food if the meal you've cooked doesn't suit her. I wouldn't have offered an alternative and suggested she can take a turn cooking for the family next week, then she can choose something she wants to eat.

People are dying she needs to get a grip in the nicest way possible 😂

Why does it matter? @TURTLE74 can make a roast dinner any time she wants, she doesn't need an excuse and she doesn'tneed her daughter's permission. The daughter got an alternative dish so she didn't go without

Why are you discussing meal planning with your adult daughter who doesn’t seem able to cook? Presumably you’re not running a restaurant and she’s not paying to order a specific meal? YOU decide what you’re making. If she doesn’t fancy it, tough shit.

She sounds unbearably spoilt, and your agonising about whether you did the wrong thing by making a roast, suggests it’s you who’ve spoilt her and pandered to her. She’s 22 fgs! Stop babying her.

This!

Wait for the drip feed of excuses that will try to make us all feel bad for asking about the chicken.

YANBU at 22 she should be cooking at home as well, and definitely doesn’t get to dictate what the cook of the day prepares for the household. If you’d given her the choice and said roast or X, then made a roast then YABU. However if she just said yesterday please don’t make a roast today then my response would be ok, what are you cooking instead.

(However using up frozen chicken is necessary - the use by date only applies to chilled food - it lasts for months in the freezer)

She had a choice of three meals! She was a lucky girl - you aren’t a restaurant. Did you ask why she wanted to deprive others of a Sunday roast?

No wonder DD got upset about the roast. If it's a mumsnet chicken she'd be eating the leftovers for a week.

A year you say!?! 😬 (sidles off to hang head in circa 2014-ish freezer shame 😳) 😂

Why bother freezing it then? Has she got her neuroses from you? 😂

I have a 22 year old DD. Here’s how that conversation would go in our house.

DD: I don’t like roast dinners.
Me: Well everyone else does so that’s what I’m making. You can have some, or you can make yourself something else if that’s what you’d prefer.

No making other meals, no justifications over frozen chickens. She’s an adult woman.

Leaving aside the whole chicken > frezzer > date issue because that's as mad as a box of ( unfrozen) frogs .

Your dd asked you not to cook a roast , you said you wouldn't but you did anyway so solely for this point yabu.

You cooked her a pasta bake instead so, solely for this point she is bu.

There was leftover cottage pie that she ate had this ( or any of its components) been frozen at any point ?
So solely for this point she is bu

So on balance she ibu.

Now come back @TURTLE74 and please explain what you think frezzers are for.

>>>> wonders if fish fingers dated Feb would make a suitable breakfast <<<<<

If my 21/25 year olds don’t like ‘what’s for dinner’ they make something for themselves. As they are adults. If that was my daughter it would’ve been oh well sort yourself out then, at 22! If I liked a roast I’d make one far too much pandering and faffing over nothing. Why was she upset about a roast she didn’t want?

Who the heck has the time or inclination to be negotiating what they cook for an adults dinner, she can cook for herself. Mine eat what I make no moaning if they don’t like/want they make their own, my younger sons eat what I make. Can’t please everyone but I would not accept them being rude?!

Maybe it is the smell of the roast dinner or all the faff that goes with it that puts her off eating it. She had dinner, she’ll survive.,

I think given she is an adult she’s veing very unreasonable. Did you end up making 3 dinners in the end to please her (roast, pasta and cottage pie)? You should cook whatever you want and it is her choice whether to eat it or make her own food. You’re not eu ning a restaurant!

Why did you bother freezing the chicken if you were always going to eat it before its best before date? That makes no sense and completely defeats the point of freezing fish and meat!

I have questions OP

Was DD upset that you made a roast or was she upset that she asked you to do something, you agreed to it, then didn't?

Do you have a history with her of she asks for something, you agree to it and then don't carry through?

How many people were you cooking for? If it was just you and DD

Why didn't you use the chicken to make something that is not a roast?

Also the date on the chicken, what is that all about?

Tell her to think about the orphans in Gaza. Honestly I’ve never heard something so entitled and petty in all my life.