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AIBU to feel hurt after being told it was family only?

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beehappy19 · 30/08/2026 16:59

One of my friends who i would class as a close friend was getting married. She told me it was a small wedding with family only for the ceremony with friends coming on the evening. Although I was a bit upset by this (I never mentioned this to her) as I’d have loved to have been there the full day I completely understood as it’s their wedding and they should do what they want.

The wedding arrives and it’s a small venue so the wedding guests are outside when we arrive at the hotel. When walking past to check into the room I spot two of the brides friends. I’ve never met them before but I’ve seen photos and they definitely aren’t family.
They are friends she went to school with so I know she’s known them a long time but I feel hurt by this as I was told all friends were going for the evening.

I’ve known my friend almost 7 years and we are godparents to each other’s children. We do a lot together and see each other most weeks with the children and we’ve been on holiday together.
The friends at the wedding weren’t even invited to her children’s baptisms.

I would never mention anything to her as I do accept it’s her day and she can invite who she likes but am I being unreasonable to be hurt by this?

OP posts:
JaninefromEastenders · 30/08/2026 17:01

You can be a good friend but not as close as family. Old school friends may feel more like that to your friend.

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