AIBU to say 6:30am isn’t the middle of the night?

Women do this themselves.... remember how its 2026?

4 year old can’t go back to sleep to at that time. Your DH is an arsehole

The OP and her dh have made it up.

Why on earth are people still trying to stir up extra drama?

Everybody gets a bit grumpy on occasion.
There's no indication that he is a bad husband.

The child was not denied a drink.

The OP obviously knows him better than us.

End of thread.

I misread the post - you're right, he has no excuse!

I 100% could not have laid in bed listening to my out of sorts 4 year old being told to go back to bed at pretty much his normal get up time just because DH was hungover (which is how I'm reading this) I definitely would have got involved and dont think that should be classed as being 'unbearable' as suggested earlier in the thread.
DH is a full grown adult and made the decision to go for drink knowing it was his get up with the kids and should've just sucked it up but at least hes apologised for the behaviour and hopefully has realised he was out of order.
The disparity between free time needs addressing before it starts to breed slow growing resentment bit is probably best left for discussion when youve both had time to let this settle.
I would personally accept the apology and let it go as long as it doesnt happen again and I'd also have a good think about how the free time situation could be balanced - whether its more time to yourself, as a couple or as a family. It's too easy just to fall into the habit of things being one sided like that without anyone being intentionally selfish.

Hungover from being at the pub from maybe 4pm and home by 6pm seems unlikely.

It’s not hyperbole. It’s exactly what happened. A sick and increasingly distressed four year old was refused milk and told to go back to sleep.

its weird that you think this is anything approaching normal and acceptable behaviour

You can stop with the outrage now.
OP and her dh have kissed and made up.

Storm in a teacup.

I'm guessing what caused his reaction to your son is that he is hungover.

He probably felt undermined when he said one rule and you went against it, but I would have done the same for a child who hadn't eaten yesterday, and no 6.30 is not the middle of the night.

I think this is hyperbole to be honest.

The child was not denied a drink, just not milk.

Getting your poorly child a drink at 6.20 on your day to get up with them isn’t “no good reason” is it? 🙄

I honestly wonder about some people’s marriages when I read threads like this.

The words barely matter.

the fact that the OPs DP was refusing to provide comfort to a sick four year old and then obstructing the OP from doing it herself is the problem.

who the hell refuses a distressed and unwell 4 year old a bit of milk or a cuddle in bed be wise they want to prioritise their own sleep?

@Shezz95 Oh and I was a sahm to my children which dh thought was great (convenient for him). I haven't contributed anything to our finances but I have contributed to our lives.

In answer to your original question 6:30 am isnt the middle of the night and that is a fact.
So therefore what is it you want opinions on? Giving a little lad some milk, your rude DH who cant tell the time. What?
Trying to regiment who does what or gets up on each day is setting yourself up for failure so knock that on the head as you will become resentful when things dont work out.

Mine was the same (dh). Told the kids they should sleep until 8 😅. Luckily for him I'm an early riser so I'm up at 6 anyway and ofcourse they are hungry after a night! My dh wanted to sleep in so it was all about his comfort which I made really clear to him. Also, I didn't need him in the morning - he just didn't want any noise🙄.

Do you mean you’re topping up the 3mths from joint savings? If that’s the case that’s a sensible approach. But if it’s your savings then that’s dreadful

To be fair milk isn’t the best drink for an ill child.

My DS is 9 and still regularly wakes up between 6:30 and 7:00am. Your DH has been a parent for four years, you'd think he would he used to it by now! He needs to have a word with himself

Exactly.
I don't particularly like the term 'fuck off' but in today's world it's just the equivalent of 'go away'.

There is a huge difference between 'fuck off, I'm trying to sleep and have a lie-in after a hard week.' and raging 'fuck off!!!' at somebody in an attempt to scare and dominate.

Context and tone matter.

But it would be ridiculous to be trying to sleep anyway, given that they have two children both of whom normally wake up around 6-6.30 ish.

The child is 4, not 10, and has been poorly and not eating well. Kids don't do different wake up times at the weekend versus during the week and a 4 yr old up at 6.3/ anting a cup of milk is doing a perfectly ordinary thing anyway

Surely you've both saved up and he can cover the majority, because you've done your part, birthing your shared baby and now doing the majority of the care? Please tell me that you, alone, haven't saved up your half of the bills? It seems to be something a lot of women fall for.

I Agree he sounds lazy, selfish and agressive. Ick.