AIBU to say 6:30am isn’t the middle of the night?

He was denied the drink he wanted, whilst under the weather, is that your parenting style, because you don’t want to get up at a reasonable time?

Poor parenting IMO, but most of us are better than that, as this thread shows.

your posts are demeaning and rude, this is an example of one!

You’re telling people to stop
replying to you, when you’re replying to them and deciding it’s the end of the thread! Give over, you’re embarrassing yourself!

@Shezz95 im glad you’ve made up, but you know this is not acceptable!

When someone posts something as concerning and denigrating as you… hell yes I’m going to look at the background

and sure enough in your case…

I just cannot fathom why anybody would go to the trouble of seeking out another poster's past posts.
I cannot fathom why anybody would do this.
Why they'd then declare they've no right to comment on anything else because of it.

It's ridiculous to me.

Now are you going to let this go or are we going to have this ridiculous back and forth all day?
I don't want that, do you?

One post i referred to
one
Referencing the fact you are planning on leaving your partner but here you are finishing and denigrating someone who’s been told to fuck off by her husband

Maybe, but they're attacking the post not the poster.
They're not dredging up my posts from the past like you are.

You have been picked up by multiple posters for your gutter level standards and accusing the OP of being unbearable.

So yes… posts like this are going to attract detractors

Whatever.

You seem obsessed with me, Dredging up my past posts, declaring my views to be unsound for some bizarre reason because of them, various posts which I consider to be personal attacks.

I can send you my picture on a dartboard if you like.
😂

It isn't the middle of the night. It is probably too early for most at the weekend. He should have taken charge of the children as he had his lie in the previous day. I would not tolerate someone telling me to f*ck off.

Can’t believe some of these responses.

Do people really make their 4 year olds stay in their room until a set time?! 4 year olds having to play independently in their rooms for 2 hours with no food and only water to drink?
People really think it’s ok to make a 4 year old “go back to sleep” at 6.20am when their normal wake up time is 6.30?
This child had been unwell too and probably hungry.

Is this parenting now? Do people realise small children are not robots with an on off switch and a timer?

When mine were little if they got up 10 minutes earlier than normal and wanted some milk of course I (or DH) would have just got up with them and started the day. Especially if they had not been well.
Sometimes we had snuggles in our bed if they got up super early but I’d have never forced them to stay in their room alone at 6.20am!

I know this is a long thread and I've only read your replies, but this one... my god.

Taking kids to the park and putting them in bed sometimes, listed in the context of being a favour to you, is not "hands on", let alone "very".

It is not even bare minimum. He is their father. He should be doing normal parenting without being asked, without doing it as a sop to you, without being asked.

It feels like you have been so conditioned to accept crumbs from this mediocre excuse that anything beyond that feels like a bounty from heaven. Please take a very hard, clear-eyed look at your situation, as it does not look remotely fair or equal from outside.

No one is arguing with anyone besides everyone arguing with you

Who are you talking about? Who's arguing?

OP has very clearly said it is not 'all well now'. She feels resentful and it's clear to her it's building up.

Why do you keep repeating the same stuff? It sounds like you're trying to control the narrative of the thread. Or is it that you just want the last word?

It's really weird.

Another voice here saying it’s absolutely bonkers and cruel all these parents saying their children wouldn’t be allowed milk at 6.30am/not allowed out of their bedrooms etc.

Sounds more like a prison than a family home.

6.30am is a perfectly reasonable time for a 4 year old to wake up and milk is a perfectly normal morning drink. Especially as the child had been feeling poorly, poor kid was probably really craving some milk and there’s the dad trying to force him to go back to sleep.

I just could not be with a man like this.

Well it seems all is well now.
I'm not telling anybody not to post at all, though, I can't stop them anyway!, just observing that because it's all OK now with the OP and her dh it's just people arguing amongst themselves.

I can’t think of anything more normal than a four year old having a glass of milk at 6.30am! Just what does he expect from a four year old.

I find having small children can be like ice in cracks. It might be some just adjusting to life as it is now or it may be deeper then that, you'll find out when you start properly talking about it together.

Good luck xx

that poster hounds me

Then just report it?

Jesus this site is like a kids playground sometimes.

Reported

The only person who seems to be trying to argue is you though. Most people on this thread have offered their experiences and hopefully given OP some food for thought about their financial structure,and whether this is an isolated incident or not. OP may not have read them yet, she may never read them, but you seem to be repeatedly telling people to stop posting which is odd given you repeatedly reply to people.

No it isn’t
maybe in your world it is
and it was in front of young children 🙄

Yes. I understand that but for a lot of people saying 'fuck off' is the equivalent of saying go away.

I guess the acceptable tone would be saying it in a sort of exasperated than aggressive tone.

Some people do swear in front of their children. I don't like it but they do. I'm not going to write them off as bad parents because of it, though I disapprove.

I don't think he's pretending he doesn't have a family at all.

He sounds as if he's a good father in other respects.

The OP and the dh seem to have made it up.
Just sounds like a minor spat to me.

I guess she (OP) won't be back.
This is just people arguing amongst themselves now.