Are you a girls girl? Annoying neighbour isn't

Why are you trying to give a rude cheeky fucker the benefit of the doubt?

And why is your husband pretending he doesn't know she's rude to you?

Just a reminder, any woman claiming all women are mean to her/avoiding her is a) lying or b) delusional or c) treats all women like absolute crap.

There are no other options.

Ok, no problem.

No.

Well it does exist.

Ha ha! Yes! To be fair, it's a group centered around mums and babies so it's pretty safe to assume that's a "thing" you have in common and in those early months when you're sleep deprived it can be harder to think of anything to say at all (at least, that's how I sometimes felt). But it gets dull quickly if no one's interested in moving on to anything else. I did make a great friend at a toddler group, though. She and I bonded over movies.

I agree.

Sometimes one half of the couple is more interesting to talk / easier conversation or gives warmer vibes.
Try not to overthink it OP
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It would depend on how they interacted with each other. Many people are quite astute when it comes to reading other people and would find it easy enough to tell the difference between friendly conversation and flirting. A rule of thumb would be, can you imagine the behaviour being directed at their own sex? For example, men don't typically blush or do shy smiles or find a reason to touch other men. Women don't typically giggle prettily at the jokes of other women and gaze at them as though they're the most fascinating person they've ever met. If you notice this sort of thing, it's almost always flirting.

I've always preferred the company of other women and have never had male friends unless they were part of a group. I usually find woman that prefer male company not to my taste. They're usually the "pick me" sort amongst other things.

People are falling over themselves to try and excuse her. But yeah, she’s one of those who likes the men and wants to be fancied. It’s gives her a kick to think she could potentially pinch your man if she wanted to; clearly been listening to Dolly Parton songs.

I'm not particularly close to anyone, man or woman. I do find women quite difficult to get on with though and I've struggled all my life to handle the bitchiness and moods that seem to happen with female friendships. I do like a chat with men as they are usually a bit more lighthearted, but I don't have any close friendships with them. I certainly wouldn't behave the way your neighbour is though!

My best friend is an only girl, she grew up in a house full of boys. She finds it much easier to chat to males. There is a perception from those who dont know her that she's "bitchy" or "a flirt" which is far from the truth. She is good looking which feeds into that narrative. I hate it for her. It makes her uneasy and self conscious around new females when infact she is a really good friend!

I wonder if the neighbour comes from a culture where men are expected to do certain DIY or other traditional 'men's jobs' and being on good terms with male neighbours is thinking ahead in case any such help is needed where DH needs assistance.

That's a pretty strange take.

Have you posted about this neighbour and your husband before? Something about doing the school run together??

This reminds me of a time I went to a mum and baby group at a church... the lady checking us in said "welcome! everyone here is friendly and not cliquey at all".

You can see where this is going... daughter and I were ignored completely by the small group of women there. At snack time they grabbed most of the snacks for their children leaving hardly anything for my girl (literally a few banana circles and a slice of apple). They properly shunned me- no smiling or returning my smiles... avoiding me completely. It was so weird. Never ever happened at other baby groups.

When I left, the woman who checked me in checked me out and said "will you come back?". I said yes but obviously I didn't.

I got the impression she was trying to get new mums in and was aware that the mums who were regulars were driving people away.

I do think this can be a bit of a self-fulfilling prophecy. You sense she doesn't like you, so you're slightly awkward and stiff around her, so she senses you don't like her, so she focuses on your DH who is oblivious not awkward and stiff, which confirms your suspicion that she doesn't like you, so you are more awkward and stiff, so she has her suspicions confirmed that you don't like her...

I'm not a girl's girl, I tend to get on better with men than women- i'm friendly but usually do not connect.

Yeah, that’s not what I was talking about so not sure how that’s relevant. Like whatsoever.

See, this is just mean and unnecessary. You're being petty and trying to hurt someone for no real reason - they didn't say anything bothersome to you afaik.

Is that girl's girl behaviour?

Hahahahahahaha! I absolutely definitely DO know. Nah, the truth hurts is all 😆😅