AIBU sleeping arrangement

I think more than one, OP mentioned parents changing one to extend a bedroom.

Do they? Well they shouldn't!

Obviously your husband takes the sofa or doesn’t come! Or he takes the floor of your room - can you get your hands on a blow up bed for him.

Honestly, chivalry certainly is dead in your house! You never, ever put a woman out of a bed for a man unless he is disabled. Ever.

Please read the OPS updates! 🤦‍♀️

Ok I missed the bit about the airbed not fitting!

Missed “the bit” 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Unless you literally have no money to afford anything other than the most basic or cheapest version of absolutely everything and only buy essentials, then everyone who says they can't afford something means this.

OP, I’m totally baffled about the amount of hate you’re getting here! The house has three box rooms with space for a single bed. End of. You’re heavily pregnant and your husband didn’t grow up as part of your family. No problem. You all expected one of your sisters to offer to move. Fair play. You’re feeling a bit miffed and fancied a moan. Fair enough! Honestly so confused what everyone’s issue is 🤣 (and yes - I totally get that you’d want your husband to have privacy! If it was my family, I’d also be the one who offers to be in the communal space to give my partner a bit of privacy… surely people realise not every family is the same and not everyone would feel comfortable like that? On the flip side, I’d have no issues doing that with my in laws because I’ve always just been pretty unbothered, but that doesn’t make me ignorant to the fact that it might bother my partner!). Your sisters are being a bit selfish and it’s fair enough that you’re pissed. I wouldn’t make a big deal and would just try to enjoy the weekend as best you can. I hope your poorly family member is okay and you get to spend some quality time with them. All the best x

This.

really?

Oh if only OP had thought of that and not discounted it multiple times!!

I can't believe the amount of times so many posters have said the same thing over and over. Do they think by almost 800 posts in that someone would not have already suggested it? 😆

Plus, the OP has said no to this about 20 times! (The airbed!)

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Agree - no idea what being able to ‘afford’ something means. Everyone has a different definition, unless they are completely skint and mean it literally.

I think YANBU mainly because your views on guests seems to be how you've been raised and your family values. You've went without a bed to help out sisters husband's and they were perfectly happy with it then. But you can't change their mind, id think twice about giving up my bed in the future! Although I'm guessing this won't be an issue given upcoming changes with twins.

I’d say hubby has to take the sofa.

You say I know I may seem entitled and precious expecting someone to give up a bed for me while I’m pregnant but that's not it really. It's expecting someone to give up a bed for your husband. Not the same thing at all.

This is just for 2 nights? Guess it’s settled as you’re there now but I’ll comment as I’ve for some reason read the whole thread.

The way you treat your DH as a guest is by him being on the couch and everyone going to bed at a reasonable hour, and not disturbing him early. At least some of the dogs are his so obviously he can let them all out. You could have then done the second night at a hotel, to make sure he got enough sleep for the 5 hour drive back, pretty sure you could afford that. No way should your sister have given your DH a room.

Exactly this. My son in law is part of the family. I guess I'm more modest around him than I would be around my sons (I feel comfortable just wearing a nightie around my sons (it's just boring flannel type nightie), while I'll put a dressing gown on over a nightie if my son in law is here). Otherwise, he's part of the family in every way and I'm sure he likes it that way. Luckily, he's also not precious.

And you think that what you wanted should have taken priority over what she wanted, the night before her wedding? You had a bed, it's not like they were suggesting you sleep on the floor.

Exactly. OP's manipulative martyrdom is as transparent as anything. I presume OP's sisters are used to her manipulative ways, can see straight through her, and that's why they are, quite rightly, standing their ground.

I think your sisters are being very selfish. You are pregnant and need 1) your husband to drive you to be comfortable and 2) a proper bed. I agree that I would give up a bed in a heartbeat for someone in this situation and to avoid the person who is least intimate with the rest of the family having to sleep in a communal space.

its absolutely bizarre that so many people don't think the house set up is genuine when it's a normal sized family home, you shouldn't have to explain this more than once

This.

You are requiting your sisters to give up a bed for your DH, not you. Your "right" to a bed has never been your question: you just assumed it.

You assumed something as your right & your husband's right which you've denied your sister. In her own parents' home ....

She was sharing with either me or my sister, so no inconvenience, but the tiny single bed just wasn’t big enough for a heavily pg woman to sleep in. I suggested I share, she went ballistic

my suggestion was no more heinous than the suggestion of my sister sharing.

i didn’t tantrum, i asked. My mother was totally irrational about it.

i slept in one of the twins having pushed the other bed closer for the pillow for the belly.

as I said, it was the beginning of the end of our relationship and it got lots worse. She deliberately hurt my son in the end.

I get that I’m projecting, I’m NC with her now, but op is not unreasonable to say she needs more space, and her sisters are being selfish.

You don't think it was up to your mother to choose who she shared with the night before her wedding?

Why would someone who u getting married the next day want to “sleep” in a bed with someone up and down to the toilet all night?

I think you were being selfish.