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AIBU to turn down a major promotion because of parenting guilt?

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Thefrozenone · 27/08/2026 22:50

AIBU to turn down a huge huge promotion due to guilt?

posted on parenting thread but still in two minds. Feel guilty accepting a full time role which means more time away from LO - longer days at work with condensed hours.

Single parent so will be difficult juggling nursery drop and pick ups will be difficult. My employer is somewhat flexible but I do have concerns that the nature of the role will inevitably mean less flexibility than I currently have as it is more senior. Commute would be into central London and I would have to ask to leave early on office days - twice a week - as I won’t make it home before nursery closing otherwise.

Was renting but moved in with parents to save. This would be an opportunity to move out and have a place of our own again.

really torn - can’t tell if being unreasonable to turn town, or crazy to take it and make it work.

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Thefrozenone · 27/08/2026 23:07

Thanks both

@Pistachiocake I do have help and support but there will be times when my support network are not around - such as holidays etc - that’s when it’ll be tough.

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Pistachiocake · 27/08/2026 23:00

No, you're not being unreasonable, it's often very hard for mums to get even less time with their little kids, and if you have no one at all to help, it will be very difficult. I'd try to make friends with other parents so you can get some help on occasions.
I obviously don't mean make friends to use people, just seen how that could be read-but I mean friends help each other out, and if you've no other help, that's vital.

MeetMeOnTheCorner · 27/08/2026 22:54

Make it work as you are a single parent - you probably need the money and you might not get the chance again.

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