People have started being nicer to me since I started hrt - aibu to think it's related?

Scrolls back up to change my vote 😳
I thought this was supposed to be a light-hearted, sarcastic thread about our changing hormones, but then I realised it was probably rage bait a back handed way to attack women. Either that or an astonishing lack of self awareness.

You can choose your behaviours, always.

I don't agree. Some times your emotional state comes out in ways you can't hide.

If I'm in a bad mood, I develop what DD coined "the tone". I can have woken up in a bad mood about something completely inconsequential, know it's something inconsequential and that it's completely stupid, and be actively trying to not be in a bad mood about it, and yet "the tone" still gives me away and I get a "Whats wrong" from either DP or DD the moment I open my mouth to say "Shall I make a cup of tea". It's the first thing I've said that day, I've literally only just walked into the same room as them, and they've picked up on it within a sentance.

It's the same with DP. I can walk into the house after work and know she woke up with a migraine that morning, even though its been gone since lunchtime. Theres a little frown that she gets on migraine days, that doesn't disappear until the next day.

We give off a million little unconscious cues all the time that betray our emotional state. The people who know us best are best able to read them, no matter how hard we try to hide them.

Maybe you should increase the dose 👀

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I’m dying for something to help me with the abject misery that is perimenopause. I have just requested a doctors appointment and got one for 6th October 😭 😭 😭

People give back what you give them. I’ve been around call centres for years and the people who are genuinely lovely rarely get the ‘I want to speak to a manager’ calls. The sour faced misery always gets the ranty shouter.

HRT has made you more tolerant and nice.

Either you are being nicer to them or you are doing less overthinking and not noticing every little slight.

HRT improves the mood. You’re probably easier to relate to.

@Millytante theres lots of evidence now that starting HRT at any later age can bring a wealth of benefits - especially genitourinary but loads of others too - bones, digestion, mood - find yourself a menopause specialist GP and give it a go!

Aw, I think it’s so lovely and considerate of your hormones to have consulted with your IQ before deciding how to proceed with the process of perimenopause. Human biology will be delighted to learn it has been defeated by your superior intellect 😂

You clearly were a bit of an arsehole without realising, which is much worse than those of us who are self aware and try to be nice regardless :)

Surely if you have no uterus you're simply menopausal??

I’ve got a couple of mates who I wish would take hrt. They’ve become very negative in the last year or so. Can’t say that out loud tho!

An almost....perimenopausal grouchiness and lack of tolerance, one might say!

Lol, aren't you a delight?! Now attacking people's IQ. How lovely.

I don't think people who haven't experienced extreme sleep deprivation truly understand how debilitating it is. The feeling tearful is the pits. 💐

Dreadful. My only experience of sleep deprivation was with babies. I changed personality and attitude to life. If I experience sleep issues with menopause I will be straight on the HRT.
Im not on HRT yet at nearly 50 because I THINK I’m okay and coping with the changes.
But this thread is making me wonder if I'm actually a deluded super bitch with zero self awareness.

But even if it did make you ‘artificially younger’ it wouldn’t be too enough of an extent to make anybody else instinctively or subconsciously treat you differently

It’s not like it would’ve suddenly made you 15 or 20 years younger biologically to them

This made me smile,
Many years ago, when I was in my early 40s, I had to have a radical hysterectomy for health reasons.
Consequently, I was put on HRT as I’d had my ovaries removed, or otherwise I would’ve gone straight into automatic menopause.
My son was at university at the time, and when he came home for the summer break, apparently he has told me since, when he went back to university in the autumn, he told all his friends that they ought to try to get their mothers to have hysterectomies as I was a completely different person, and much much nicer!
30 years later and I am still on HRT. Best thing that ever happened to me.

They are all tiptoeing round you on eggshells trying to avoid provoking you, if your responses here are anything to go by.

When are you next due a check up? Can you bring it forward?

A year ago I was suicidal. Had been for a year and getting lower and lower for a couple before that. Antidepressants did nothing, because it was hormones.

After 10 months on HRT im happier than I have been in years. I honestly didnt realise how low I was getting.

Its not woe is me. For some of us it's fucking life threatening.

And im not angry at you. Im angry at how long I suffered and how much I lost before anybody gave me the thing that actually helped.