People have started being nicer to me since I started hrt - aibu to think it's related?

What ARE you talking about?

We seem to share a mother. You have my empathy / sympathy.

I find your lack of empathy antisocial and off putting. You also seem very sure in your views and a tad sharp.

I am perimenopausal and it has had a pretty catastrophic impact. I am exhausted (insomnia), have stiff and sore joints, heart palpitations and significant word finding difficulties as well as other cognitive symptoms. I also have fairly young children and a very demanding job. Am I Little Miss Sunshine? No I am not, but luckily I am surrounded by understanding people who cut me a bit of slack. I’m not on HRT and people are nice to me anyway. You reap what you sow….

Jesus. In the throes of early menopause I had no choice but to be ‘anti social’. I was living on 5 hours sleep a night and had massive hot flushes. I had to be in an office every day in a full on job and was often crying or on verge of tears. I was sometimes physically sick and shaking from tiredness. My anxiety was through the roof. So yes I was ‘anti social’ in that I socialised as little as possible and tried to keep myself to myself. I didn’t have rages at people but there were some inappropriate tears which were uncomfortable for everyone.

10 years on I still take HRT, for all the benefits it gives, and feel good. Don’t underestimate how hellish some phases or periods and menopause can be for some.

In your case people are probably acting differently as you seem marginally less prickly than usual and they are relieved.

A year ago I was suicidal. Had been for a year and getting lower and lower for a couple before that. Antidepressants did nothing, because it was hormones.

After 10 months on HRT im happier than I have been in years. I honestly didnt realise how low I was getting.

Its not woe is me. For some of us it's fucking life threatening.

And im not angry at you. Im angry at how long I suffered and how much I lost before anybody gave me the thing that actually helped.

They are all tiptoeing round you on eggshells trying to avoid provoking you, if your responses here are anything to go by.

When are you next due a check up? Can you bring it forward?

This made me smile,
Many years ago, when I was in my early 40s, I had to have a radical hysterectomy for health reasons.
Consequently, I was put on HRT as I’d had my ovaries removed, or otherwise I would’ve gone straight into automatic menopause.
My son was at university at the time, and when he came home for the summer break, apparently he has told me since, when he went back to university in the autumn, he told all his friends that they ought to try to get their mothers to have hysterectomies as I was a completely different person, and much much nicer!
30 years later and I am still on HRT. Best thing that ever happened to me.

But even if it did make you ‘artificially younger’ it wouldn’t be too enough of an extent to make anybody else instinctively or subconsciously treat you differently

It’s not like it would’ve suddenly made you 15 or 20 years younger biologically to them

Dreadful. My only experience of sleep deprivation was with babies. I changed personality and attitude to life. If I experience sleep issues with menopause I will be straight on the HRT.
Im not on HRT yet at nearly 50 because I THINK I’m okay and coping with the changes.
But this thread is making me wonder if I'm actually a deluded super bitch with zero self awareness.

I don't think people who haven't experienced extreme sleep deprivation truly understand how debilitating it is. The feeling tearful is the pits. 💐

Lol, aren't you a delight?! Now attacking people's IQ. How lovely.

An almost....perimenopausal grouchiness and lack of tolerance, one might say!

I’ve got a couple of mates who I wish would take hrt. They’ve become very negative in the last year or so. Can’t say that out loud tho!

Surely if you have no uterus you're simply menopausal??

You clearly were a bit of an arsehole without realising, which is much worse than those of us who are self aware and try to be nice regardless :)

Aw, I think it’s so lovely and considerate of your hormones to have consulted with your IQ before deciding how to proceed with the process of perimenopause. Human biology will be delighted to learn it has been defeated by your superior intellect 😂

@Millytante theres lots of evidence now that starting HRT at any later age can bring a wealth of benefits - especially genitourinary but loads of others too - bones, digestion, mood - find yourself a menopause specialist GP and give it a go!

HRT improves the mood. You’re probably easier to relate to.

Either you are being nicer to them or you are doing less overthinking and not noticing every little slight.

People give back what you give them. I’ve been around call centres for years and the people who are genuinely lovely rarely get the ‘I want to speak to a manager’ calls. The sour faced misery always gets the ranty shouter.

HRT has made you more tolerant and nice.

I’m dying for something to help me with the abject misery that is perimenopause. I have just requested a doctors appointment and got one for 6th October 😭 😭 😭