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Dh says the U.K is f***** and he never wants to go back

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Chippednailtoepolish · 26/08/2026 14:55

These were his words this morning.

We live abroad in a place where a lot of people are coming to live, escaping the uk and America.
He says with everything on the news, the way it's going and what the people coming to where we are tell him, that we'd be mad to return.
Is he being realistic? I want to return to be with family desperately and have a strange feeling that I need to do it soon

Would we be mad to return at this time? If yes, then when!

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EasternStandard · 27/08/2026 15:46

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 27/08/2026 15:41

🤭. I should have picked that instead!! You’ll have to wait and see 😜

😬

thatsgotit · 27/08/2026 15:51

Missohnoyoubetterdont · 27/08/2026 15:34

That’s ridiculous. What? We are not allowed to say we like living in the U.K. now because it’s showing privilege? That’s the eye roll.

It's one thing to say you like living in the UK and set out the reasons. Repeated boasting about one's own good fortune, coupled (in the case of that particular pp) with jibes at those describing less fortunate circumstances and the occasional insinuation that if someone is less fortunate it's their own fault, is something else. And it does point to a person needing to check their privilege as far as I am concerned.

ThisCraftyAquaHedgehog · 27/08/2026 15:52

Utterlybutter · 27/08/2026 13:58

For the moment. Burnham is going to spread asylum seekers throughout all areas soon.

That will change things for a lot of people.

I wasn't thinking about asylum seekers, shocked that you would imagine my post impled that.

Theendoftheroll · 27/08/2026 15:52

thatsgotit · 27/08/2026 15:51

It's one thing to say you like living in the UK and set out the reasons. Repeated boasting about one's own good fortune, coupled (in the case of that particular pp) with jibes at those describing less fortunate circumstances and the occasional insinuation that if someone is less fortunate it's their own fault, is something else. And it does point to a person needing to check their privilege as far as I am concerned.

What boasting! Can you quote a post where I boast?

and so you think things in England are… what? Crap? And that’s based on your life?

Theendoftheroll · 27/08/2026 15:53

the occasional insinuation that if someone is less fortunate it's their own fault

pure fiction and you know it

Missohnoyoubetterdont · 27/08/2026 15:59

thatsgotit · 27/08/2026 15:51

It's one thing to say you like living in the UK and set out the reasons. Repeated boasting about one's own good fortune, coupled (in the case of that particular pp) with jibes at those describing less fortunate circumstances and the occasional insinuation that if someone is less fortunate it's their own fault, is something else. And it does point to a person needing to check their privilege as far as I am concerned.

I totally missed this, perhaps you could substantiate it by quoting it ?

BadPennyReturns · 27/08/2026 16:00

If it's good enough for Prince Harry and his American missus, it's good enough for me!

Leave him there OP, he sounds a dimwit.

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 27/08/2026 16:01

Theendoftheroll · 27/08/2026 15:44

You want to tell us how shit the town is in which you live but… don’t want others to refer to it as being shit?

The power of the 💩🕳️ dictates that things can usually only improve.

Theendoftheroll · 27/08/2026 16:01

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 27/08/2026 16:01

The power of the 💩🕳️ dictates that things can usually only improve.

Hooray…. Something positive!!!

Theendoftheroll · 27/08/2026 16:02

Missohnoyoubetterdont · 27/08/2026 15:59

I totally missed this, perhaps you could substantiate it by quoting it ?

I’ve asked too

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 27/08/2026 16:04

Theendoftheroll · 27/08/2026 16:01

Hooray…. Something positive!!!

Finally youre happy with me!! We got there at last 🥰

strawberrybubblegum · 27/08/2026 16:05

Missohnoyoubetterdont · 27/08/2026 15:59

I totally missed this, perhaps you could substantiate it by quoting it ?

The multiple posts asking pp why she hasn't moved, even after she's explained that she tried but couldn't afford it.

Just rude.

EasternStandard · 27/08/2026 16:08

strawberrybubblegum · 27/08/2026 16:05

The multiple posts asking pp why she hasn't moved, even after she's explained that she tried but couldn't afford it.

Just rude.

Yeh I thought that. It’s not easy just to move to higher cost areas.

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 27/08/2026 16:11

strawberrybubblegum · 27/08/2026 16:05

The multiple posts asking pp why she hasn't moved, even after she's explained that she tried but couldn't afford it.

Just rude.

I’m used to it on here. There’s a bourgeoisie and you learn to tolerate it.

Missohnoyoubetterdont · 27/08/2026 16:12

strawberrybubblegum · 27/08/2026 16:05

The multiple posts asking pp why she hasn't moved, even after she's explained that she tried but couldn't afford it.

Just rude.

I haven’t really time to re-read the whole entire 30 pages of thread so quotes would be good.

AggroPotato · 27/08/2026 16:18

Chippednailtoepolish · 26/08/2026 15:31

In England?! All we see on the news and everywhere, it's shocking

Look at the actual statistics. London is one of the safest big cities in the world.

It's literally published for free online.

Whether you think the economy, jobs and tax is going to be ok, that's another matter.

I personally don't like it but understand it could be worse.

DdraigGoch · 27/08/2026 16:19

GrannyJegs · 26/08/2026 16:21

I know it's not the ME, but we'll be moving to there eventually. 0% income tax, success and hard work rewarded. Can't wait. Husband already works extensively with ME clients and has been offered to relocate already.

"Hard work rewarded"? Take a look at the conditions the actual workers live under.

Theendoftheroll · 27/08/2026 16:20

DdraigGoch · 27/08/2026 16:19

"Hard work rewarded"? Take a look at the conditions the actual workers live under.

That was jaw dropping!!

Theendoftheroll · 27/08/2026 16:21

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 27/08/2026 16:11

I’m used to it on here. There’s a bourgeoisie and you learn to tolerate it.

Power to the people!!

Theendoftheroll · 27/08/2026 16:22

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 27/08/2026 16:04

Finally youre happy with me!! We got there at last 🥰

I’m happy simple because you have expressed a slither of positivity. And that is also healthy.

DdraigGoch · 27/08/2026 16:27

Kopfkino · 26/08/2026 16:22

Honestly what a joke. Where are these “Swallows and Amazons” UK utopias that you are all living in? Please let us know so we can all move there.

Just read in the news about a 14 year old girl being raped by 2 Afghans on a train from Kent to London.

In what other country (aside from some seriously f*cked up place that is 400 years behind the rest of us) do you need to warn your children about being gang raped on a train, or stabbed when walking down the street?

Answer: just the UK I think.

You've clearly no idea what goes on in other developed countries.

EnglishRose26 · 27/08/2026 16:30

DdraigGoch · 27/08/2026 16:27

You've clearly no idea what goes on in other developed countries.

Whilst it is very very far from ideal that illegal immigrants are the cause of a frightening level of sexual assaults and rapes in this country at the moment, and that simply can not be allowed to continue, it is also happening everywhere in Europe. Everywhere. I am sorry this is so widespread now, and is getting worse.

Missohnoyoubetterdont · 27/08/2026 16:30

@Kopfkino a woman in France was routinely drugged and raped by her husband and most of her neighbours, fathers, grandfathers, friends and supposedly ‘upstanding’ members of the community. You really think everywhere else is crime free?!?

Missohnoyoubetterdont · 27/08/2026 16:31

Missohnoyoubetterdont · 27/08/2026 16:30

@Kopfkino a woman in France was routinely drugged and raped by her husband and most of her neighbours, fathers, grandfathers, friends and supposedly ‘upstanding’ members of the community. You really think everywhere else is crime free?!?

They weren’t immigrants either.

strawberrybubblegum · 27/08/2026 17:05

Missohnoyoubetterdont · 27/08/2026 16:31

They weren’t immigrants either.

Two different things can be (and are) true

1.Horrific crimes happen everywhere: committed by people of all nationalities and from all parts of society.

2.Some nationalities (notably Afghan, Sudanese and Eritrean) have rates of conviction for sexual assault 20 times that of British-born men. So letting in each of those men poses a risk 20 times that of one of our existing British men.

It would be a bit silly and childish to think that every immigrant will attack someone, or that no British man will. Confused No one is suggesting that.

It's a question of incidence across the population. Admitting men with those nationalities directly results in many more women and children being attacked than if those men were not admitted.

And that's not OK.

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