AIBU to change schools over my husband helping a neighbour?

@Bunny65 sorry. Women means women generally. Anyway I won't say anything more.

I don't know this woman obviously but her behaviour, according to what the OP has said, suggests to me that she has a problem with other women generally. I don't believe this sort of behaviour is likely to be a one-off. Why rationally would you be so rude to a neighbour for no reason, especially when you want to cadge lifts to school?

I agree, I have encountered women like this and they dont see other women as potential friends or part of the sisterhood, but as competition for men's attention.

My fathers friends first wife was like this, she was staggeringly rude to my mother, ignoring her completely if they visited and only talking to the men. Mum thought it was just her and refused to haver her visit again. Then mum and dad went to a party they had and she was like that to virtually all the other women too. Pathetic really.

Remembered another toxic woman.

Although she was ok if you were rich enough and she wanted to be in your gang. She got well in with the rich women of the village her boyfriend (my then boss, who was v v rich) lived in. My (now exH) and my boss had been friends for years and there was quite a gang of us at a party. She and I had the "hi how are you chat", not much love lost but we were always superficially polite for the sake of the group as I was far too common for the likes of her. As often happens you end up with a bit of a circle of friends chatting together and as we did the "yes fine thanks...." ending, she turned and I dont actually know how she did it....but I ended up literally standing outside the circle! As she turned she sort of stepped forward and I was .....outside! It was actually quite impressive, obviously she had done this before.

My ex and another friend both noticed this. Ex said "Excuse me [bitch] dont push Pyong out please" and she did this simpering "oh I didnt realise!" thing. She fucking knew. For an abusive bastard, he could actually be quite chivalrous on occasion!

Boss married her and she left him after 2 years and took him for as much as she could, which everyone except him had predicted. No fool like an old fool.

I'm sorry to hear your lovely Mum experienced this & equally glad to know she discovered it was not personal - Yes I've come across numerous women like this, especially when I worked in a gym, & usually those women who see & treat other women as competition & a threat, are immensely insecure -
It seems it might well sadly be, that the female who the original commenter is speaking of here, most likely wants her husband for her own means, hence ridiculously resents, his dear wife being present 🙏

You think your husband is having and affair or has some deranged stalker woman, so you changed your son’s school. It’s all ok though, because it turns out, that’s easier for you. I’m sure you’ll insist that it’s fine because he loves his new school. Having been forced to change schools, I would,have said the same to my mum too.

Poor kid, caught in the crossfire of 3 adults not being able to act with maturity.

@QuirkyHorse moving schools obviously had an effect on you - however OP has said the kids don’t care and have friends in both schools.. and that it’s a better school anyway…
Some kids have no issues moving schools and mix well, and I’m sure if OP’s children had struggled settling in their new area she wouldn’t be moving them again.. but her kids obviously must mix and settle well

@T1Dmama not sure why you've highlighted my post.
Doesn't matter my experience on moving schools, I still think she's absolutely bonkers to move schools, even if her kid thinks it's hunky dory.

I disagree. The reasoning behind it doesnt alter the fact that it is a better school, is more convenient for the whole family and the kids have friends there. All I can see is a win/win!