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Was I wrong to buy the chairs without husband?

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grapejuices · 21/08/2026 15:53

I have 3 lovely garden chairs which were originally a set of 4 but one broke a couple of years ago.
We also had 2 other chairs which we have out but aren’t as nice and don’t recline both ends.
We are a family of 5 and everyone likes to sit on the nice chairs so it’s first come first serve and the children are miffed if they get one of the other chairs.
I saw a set of two of the nice chairs we like in the sale and bought them with some cash I had for my birthday in a card from my parents.
I thought why not have all nice chairs which match as we now have 5 and there are 5 of us.

My husband is really cross that I bought these chairs, saying we didn’t need them, we had 5 chairs, it was a waste of money and I shouldn’t have got them.

Usually we do buy things as a couple but I particularly wanted these chairs as I don’t like being on the other chairs and felt it was my birthday money and I didn’t see I should run it past him.

AIBU to think I could buy garden chairs in the sale without it leading to an argument, it was his passive aggressive approach where he didn’t outright say anything but said to my daughter I don’t know why mum bought more chairs when we didn’t need them and it was stupid etc, knowing I could hear him.
It has taken the shine of the new chairs and I wish I hadn’t bought them but I thought it would be nice and while I don’t expect us to agree on everything, it feels like his opinion is always right and mine is always wrong.

OP posts:
Stillreadingalot · 21/08/2026 15:59

I did something similar once. DH doesn't see the point in expensive champagne so my dad sent me some money for my birthday and I bought a bottle of Moet (I think) and drank it all myself. 😀

Poppingby · 21/08/2026 15:59

This is the kind of conversation/ argument that happens regularly in my house. I just say yes dear and sit on my nice chairs tbh.

Pinkflamingo10 · 21/08/2026 15:59

what a dick

Thestealer · 21/08/2026 15:57

You can buy what you like with your own money. Don't let him sit on the new chairs.

Ladidahdi · 21/08/2026 15:56

He’s being a prick. Is he usually such an arsehole?

OhamIreally · 21/08/2026 15:56

Bring back the old chairs and tell him he’s not allowed on your new ones as they are your birthday present.

Sorry. Childish but I’d be tempted…