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Was this compliment to waiter flirting

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Plode · 21/08/2026 10:11

Husband and I (late 20s) were on holiday having dinner last week The waiter looked identical to Neymar. I’m not a massive football fan but I know Neymar. Anyway I mentioned this to the waiter. He was pleased with the comparison. I wasn’t trying to flirt in the slightest. The resemblance was truly uncanny. In my mind Neymar is not particularly attractive so to me it wasn’t a compliment more just an observation. I wouldn’t have mentioned the similarity if the resemblance was with someone universally considered attractive ie Idris Elba/Henry Cavill (no offence to Neymar). But husband was annoyed. Which has annoyed me cause it was totally innocent. I personally think husband is way better looking than Neymar. Not that that matters. I don’t like being policed like this.

Was I in the wrong

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SunnyRedSnail · 21/08/2026 10:18

You were stating a fact.

An ex of mine looks a lot like someone famous and I told him so. Absolutely not flirting. I was stating a fact as its quite funny when two people can look so alike.

Coldwetlettuce · 21/08/2026 10:16

Your husband sounds insecure and controlling. I would not be happy with his reaction at all. Of course it’s not flirting, just being friendly and stating an observation. Don’t let him police you like that

Skatefordinner · 21/08/2026 10:13

Absolutely not. If it had been a female serving you and she looked remarkably like someone in the public eye would you have said similar? I suspect you would.

Is this a one off kind of thing or is he always like this?

Plode · 21/08/2026 10:12

Actually title shouldn’t say compliment as I wasn’t trying to do that. Merely state an observation

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