To leave early after my dad told off my son?

6 months? Mine was sitting at the table from a newborn.

Your son was misbehaving and being rude. Maybe your Dad wouldn't have had to step in in A) you had taught him correct behaviour at a table B) sorted it out so your Dad didnt need to intervene.
Get over it and teach your son some manners. You sound more bothered than your son

He's a shit dad.

The OP has already said he wasn't great and he can't talk to her DS but she's the adult stuck in.the middle and wants relationships so she needs to help them achieve this.

The alternative is to walk away and the OP doesn't want to do this

Your 6 month old was sitting at the table? Or do you actually mean he was in a high chair at the table, which is normal and nothing to boast about.

I'm surprised you've had so many people on your dad's side here tbh. I'm of the view that when a parent is there, you respect the parent. Sure, your son was definitely not behaving and that is disrespectful, not making light of that at all. However, it's not OK to cut across you and shout at your son when you're right there to the point he cries is disrespectful to you and your position as a parent.
I think if you leave, it'll cast a sour note moving forward. We had similar at our home with fil, my husband took him to one side and explained we don't shout like that at our kids and that their behaviour is our responsibility. He was huffy but got the point and hasn't intervened since. It's part of the switch from parent to grandad, and unless you're not there, he can't decide how to discipline your child. Have a calm chat, set the boundary and if he can't get on board then politely suggest you leave early. If you know he won't apologise, don't look for one, just look for him to accept the new boundary.

Yeah the dads, the Ops and the one you’ve invented probably.

It sounds like your father has no manners. That is the wrong way to correct a child. Especially, a child who is not yours. Your father can talk about it without raising his voice and being so draconian. Further, he should talk to the OP in a reasonable way about his concerns. If the son doesn’t learn some basic manners before starting school, it’s going to be harder for him to fit in. If he has playdates in other people’s homes, he needs to know how to behave. Even so, DF was out of line.

No, the truth I’m afraid.

And the fact that OP has absolutely no idea how to get to the station without a lift from the “abusive, controlling” dad, says a lot.
you have no idea what type of man he is … you only know the type of man that the OP wants you to believe he is.
Anyway, the truth hurts as OP appears to have “done a runner” from this thread when faced with the truth … sounds familiar!

The arrogance of you acting like you were actually there and/or know the op personally 😂

Taking away food, even pudding, is a really slippery slope. You're gonna end up with a child that has a really poor relationship with food!

Hugs OP, your dad sounds like a bully. Make an excuse and leave. You don't need to have any kind of confrontation. Just get you and your son out of the situation and in future if you feel like you have to see him, just make it a day and go somewhere neutral.

Your son is 5, and your dad's behaviour towards him and you is way worse than any 5 year olds table manners.

Teach your child manners then you wouldn’t have this problem

So your son was rude, burping at the table and being naughty and disrespectful in your dads house? No he wasnt in the wrong. Your son should know how to behave

My dad is unemotional robot and your dad is unable to connect with your son. Dont bother going there again your dad has obviously no clue how ro engage with kids. Hence why you have suffered from his hurtful remarks

Dont post on MN if you dont want peoples opinions 🙄

Your son sound very badly behaved and you sound like you enable it. “He wouldn’t have ignored him”. I find it hard to believe that a child running feral round the dinner table froze in shyness at being asked a question.

I agree. You dont punish children by removing food from them!

Outragous a five year old burping at the table?? My son gets a kick out of these things and giggles as he and his friends at school finding burping and farting hillarious. Yes correct the child as i do, but at five they are just little. Also not speaking to an adult is normal - sometimes my son will say you tell mummy. Your dad needs to lighten up children are so lovely and fun his loss if he continues to be a grump. I'd have to have said something.

I hope today was okay for you OP.

I feel for you, it's awful being judged by your shitty parent who's own parenting was so awful you're still triggered by them!

I have a defiant 5yo, so I relate to your struggle! At 5 their prefrontal cortex—the brain area responsible for self-regulation is still very immature. They are still learning impulse-control. Yes of course they still need to be told when they're in the wrong and disciplined accordingly so they learn what right and wrong (which it sounds like you were doing before your Dad railroaded you), but it's unreasonable to except them to be able to control themselves 24/7 at age 5.

This is wild, do other peoples 5 year olds honestly not mess around at the table? Definitely something mine would do, especially when they know there’s pressure to behave.

Unless it’s as a caregiver I don’t think you need to tell off other peoples kids.

Some people on here are awful.
Your job is to look after & protect your little one. Stuff your dad. Take the little one home...& Make sure he knows it's not his fault.

As for burping... I'm a bad granny that laughs & joins in. Get a grip, people 😏

Don't be a dick to people on the internet just because you think it makes you look all edgy and hard.

The grandfather didn’t criticise him He shouted at him and frightened him.
I would never allow another person to shout at my children.