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AIBU to think he should ask before using granddaughter's photo?

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BerylsMum · 20/08/2026 11:59

My boyfriend is using his gorgeous granddaughter’s picture as his WhatsApp profile picture without her prior consent…when I indicated it might not be appropriate he said he’d change it but wait for her to comment…I said maybe he should have asked her first but I’m not really comfortable with this

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Alittlefrustrated · 20/08/2026 13:02

Lots of people have a picture of their kids, grandchildren, pets, etc as their profile pic.
I don't.
Edited to say if they message one another, surely she knows about it?

BillieWiper · 20/08/2026 13:00

You say it's because he loves his family and it's not weird but to me it is.

Using a picture of a younger family member of the opposite sex as your profile picture without (or even with) their consent is definitely weird. It looks as if he's trying to pretend to be her?

I get it if you took the pic or they sent it to you and gave consent and you use it as wallpaper or lock screen or something. But not profile pic?!

Mooselander · 20/08/2026 12:56

Morethanadecade · 20/08/2026 12:47

I can’t believe you are OK with that.

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Why wouldn’t I be okay with that?

123becauseicouldntthinkofone · 20/08/2026 12:50

BerylsMum · 20/08/2026 12:18

She’s 35 and stunning and whilst I know him and he only did it because he loves his family so much and not for any wierd reason I just feel it’s not right and he should stick to using his own picture or one of them both although his mates may not realise it’s his granddaughter

I initially voted YABU as had visions of a young kid but a 35 year old seems like he is being a little deceptive so no YANBU

pilates · 20/08/2026 12:48

Yes it’s weird

Morethanadecade · 20/08/2026 12:47

Mooselander · 20/08/2026 12:17

I think you’re sticking your nose where it doesn’t belong, OP.

Both my parents (divorced) have my children as their profile pics. They didn’t ask. They didn’t need to, it’s their grandchildren!

I think if you’re finding something so innocent “weird” then that’s on you and your strange thoughts Confused

I can’t believe you are OK with that.

Morethanadecade · 20/08/2026 12:46

That is odd. You can have your profile pic of anything, but it’s not on to have it of another person altogether.

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 20/08/2026 12:44

Wow.
That's odd and not very nice.

NovemberMorn · 20/08/2026 12:42

Spiffingdarling88 · 20/08/2026 12:41

Someone who takes alot of selfies

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Or a crude way of describing self-sexual gratification.

Spiffingdarling88 · 20/08/2026 12:41

plims · 20/08/2026 12:40

What is a self-wanker?

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Someone who takes alot of selfies

plims · 20/08/2026 12:40

Spiffingdarling88 · 20/08/2026 12:37

Mines my cat or my children. Im not a "self-wanker" and hate having my picture taken. MN is very weird.

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What is a self-wanker?

outerspacepotato · 20/08/2026 12:40

How long have you known this guy?

A 75 year old man using a profile pic of a 35 year old woman on his SM comes off shady.

NovemberMorn · 20/08/2026 12:39

I have used everything from my own pics, cats, sunsets, flowers, photos I have taken of various scenes as avis on various forums.
I have never used any other family members pics, imo it's wrong.

Spiffingdarling88 · 20/08/2026 12:37

nomorekitchenislandsplease · 20/08/2026 12:25

He should ask her first, but it's a bizarre thing to do, like putting a photo of a cat as someone's profile picture.

Mines my cat or my children. Im not a "self-wanker" and hate having my picture taken. MN is very weird.

plims · 20/08/2026 12:34

It’s very weird and would make me question his motives.

SerendipityCat · 20/08/2026 12:27

mondaytosunday · 20/08/2026 12:23

He’s a grandfather to a 35 year old?? How old is he?

Thank you for asking that! I was just debating whether to post it myself - the op referring to him as a “boyfriend” made me think he was much younger. Using her photograph is a bit odd in any case. I’d be questioning it, too.

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BerylsMum · 20/08/2026 12:27

He’s 75…one of my concerns is what his male mates would think when receiving a message from him using her picture

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nomorekitchenislandsplease · 20/08/2026 12:25

He should ask her first, but it's a bizarre thing to do, like putting a photo of a cat as someone's profile picture.

WecanbeheroeslikeBowie · 20/08/2026 12:23

If he loves his family so much then he could use a photo of one of his parents or a sibling. Not a 'gorgeous' grandaughter, sounds like he's pretending she's a partner or wife and he's using her photo as bragging.
Still weird which ever way you look at it. But having said that there are a lot of weirdos on MN who think so many things are acceptable so we know they are out there.😆

mondaytosunday · 20/08/2026 12:23

He’s a grandfather to a 35 year old?? How old is he?

PinkyFlamingo · 20/08/2026 12:21

But as a profile pic? Your profile is meant to be you.

NovemberMorn · 20/08/2026 12:19

Wrong imo.
If she is a child...doubly wrong.

edit...just seen last post, she is not a child, no matter how proud he is of his GD, it's still wrong, if she didn;t give permission.

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BerylsMum · 20/08/2026 12:18

She’s 35 and stunning and whilst I know him and he only did it because he loves his family so much and not for any wierd reason I just feel it’s not right and he should stick to using his own picture or one of them both although his mates may not realise it’s his granddaughter

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Mooselander · 20/08/2026 12:17

I think you’re sticking your nose where it doesn’t belong, OP.

Both my parents (divorced) have my children as their profile pics. They didn’t ask. They didn’t need to, it’s their grandchildren!

I think if you’re finding something so innocent “weird” then that’s on you and your strange thoughts Confused

fruitbrewhaha · 20/08/2026 12:16

Such a strange thing to do. The point of a profile picture is that it’s a photo of the person to help with identifying you’ve got the right account. Why is he using a photo of someone else? Is he trying to show her off?